Got it. I think if I were the mom with the crying 8 year old that my "friend" considered a "brat," the "natural consequence" would be that I'd see that friend again when my kids were grown.
|momofcutie said: She's defiant and rude and still bites other kids sometimes! But my friend says, 'I don't want to break her spirit!" She calls my son names like loser and dork, and then her mom defends it by saying she doesn't really know what the words mean.|
I have a h/s friend whose almost 7 y/o deliberately hit me in a fit of anger last summer while I was watching her for her parents. The child was upset at having been left with me but as much as I understand that, she is not welcome in my home until I can feel comfortable that the situation will not repeat itself. Unfortunately it seems the pattern is continuing. I would feel the same about a child who was continually and deliberately mean, aggressive or rude, to me or my children. I see the mother socially without her children, and we see the kids at group events, but I am not comfortable with anything beyond that.
I do think that these are logical consequences of behaviour for both the mother and the child.