longer than I thought, sorry!
Interesting thread.... I'm no a RU, just a newer hs.
The most annoying kid my ds hangs out with goes to public school.
I dread when he comes over. Demands food, screams, takes toys away from my son, etc, ugh. My boyfriend takes over usually and explains to him that we don't act that way at our house, and this child does respond positively to my boyfriend.
I think children and parents behaving like this happens everywhere, and I'm just at the point that I stay away from them.
Honestly, I'm afraid to correct other children because I'm afraid I'll upset the other parent.
So, when my son asks why does X get to act that way, I just say it's up to his Mommy and Daddy to teach him and that if he's unhappy with his friend, it's his choice not to hang out with him.
I was thinking the other day, Gosh, sometimes I don't understand why my ds does some things in public- not bad things, just maybe considered weird by others in public (like, wanting to talk about where babies come from with techinical terms, or wanting to see every room in someone's house and asking to do it), and I realized that's because I don't find the behavior bad, but I'm embarrassed that someone else might. My biggest concern has been that he respect other people and their property, and he does that. But, I got a little freaked out, and thought, maybe we should do things a little differently at home. (You know when you have these little dips in your faith? I was there!)
So we go on vacation with my sister, and her best friend's family, which includes the most adorable 3 year old boy. He's great! And my son loves him, goes to hug him and they are playing and laughing and my son does a "raspberry"- and this cute little boy shakes his finger and says:
"Rule #3: No raspberries!" What?? My sister's friend goes on to explain that they have written rules (like 10 of them) on the fridge outlining what he's (remember, age 3) not aloud to do- no yelling, etc. This is true- I remember seeing them when I visited a couple of months ago! It struck me as a little much, like micromanaging, but to know that this kid has the list memorized? Wow.
So I decided I was probably doing fine with my son.