I am waking with DD to meet her needs which I wasn't doing in the past by JUST nursing her back to sleep
This comment is what I'm talking about:
|The third she woke up and started to stir, I left her thinking I would pick her up as soon as the fussy turned to crying and then it was quiet. If I had been lazy like before to save the extra few minutes to go back to sleep I would have nursed her 5 times last night in bed, instead it was only 2 and she's figuring out valuable skills at 5 months without CIO.|
Ok here's my thing. You make a post about sleep issues (which I can relate to at the moment - see my other posts in this thread) where you make a statement about waking less and thus, learning valuable life skills. You then go on to say that the reason you are trying to not nurse at night is to become attuned to her other needs (?), yet the reason she only woke twice instead of 5 times is because she fussed herself back to sleep, not because you got up and burped her.
The reason I am making this point is because I am in exactly the same position (trying get longer stretches of sleep), but for my own reasons, not because I think it is something that she needs to "learn". I also don't think nursing her to sleep is abusing my breasts as a pacifier, it is doing what works (and it does).
I only mention this because projecting unrealistic ideals on our children only sets us up for disappointment. If you are expecting to get her to sleep longer and it doesn't work, it will be a reflection on your "method". It's not. Your baby is young, and young babies nurse to sleep and during the night. That's the way they are.