I need thicker skin...dd ruffled my feathers...pushed the sensitive buttons!

[guest^]

Yesterday while doing some learning to read stuff(explode the code and Little Readers for Little Folks..) with dd, she became frustrated with herself. She is a perfectionist. She is reading quite well, and will ask to do stuff her self half the time. Well! She threw her little booklet down and said it was MY fault that she wasn't a better reader by now because I'm not a REAL TEACHER!!! She has been very keen on the idea that kids who are in schools have more fun and learn more than she does. At the present time, she doesn't have very many good friends, but the people we see most frequently are indeed HSers. I talked to her about how I was a real homeschool teacher, no better and no worse than a school teacher in a classroom. I told her that she does have an advantage over school kids right now 'cuz I am able to give her lots of one on one attention for learning. Also included that she is able to be out in the world more and therefore she is exposed to more and able to learn more.
The problem is that it hit on a sensitive note with me as I'm lately feeling quite in adequate while comparing myself to super moms I've met while HSing. A no-no of course, yet I find myself doing it! And while we belong to a HS group, am finding it hard to personally connect with the other moms, and this leaves me with one main close friend to discuss hsing...my sis who is an hour away. Ugh, i wanted to type more, but ds is ahnging on me and dd is ready to go to the library.....

Any advice? Be kind...I also have pms!:

mamapoppins

[mamaofthree]

here's a hug for you. Go easy on yourself girl. My dd says simular things to me occationally too.

I had a hard time, busting in on our HS group but I am so glad I took the time. Some group are a little "uncomfortable" with new people (????). Maybe that is there thing? If not, is there another group in your area? Is you DD friends with any of the kids... close enough to set a play date? Then you could get to know the mom/dad?

HeatherH

[guest^]

Thanks mamaofthree!

I just really think that dd is really noticing the workings of her world....kinda realizing that we do do so many things different than others...I think it was a way for her to test her innocent observation out on me. She''s been testing me in other areas as well, so why not hsing?LOL!

Yes, I do think that my local hsing group that we joined is a bit hard to break into! My dd is sooo sociable, that she most definitely is leading the way for connections. But that brings a set of complications as well...sometimes she doesn't always ask for playdates with the girls of moms I would choose to get to know better! KWIM?: I need to take babysteps to get our connections going better however. We'll see!

mamapoppins

[Openskyheart]

Mamapoppins,

Your dd is 6 1/2 right? I think fairly recently on this thread we had a discussion about 6 y.o. dds. Testing, and emotion is par for the course. I have 2 good friends with dds the same age (mine is also 6 1/2), and we all commiserate! It's a wonderful age because their worlds are expanding so much at this time, but it's also very emotional.

I also asked our homeopath about it, she specializes in working with women and children, and she also has a teenage dd (and a teenage ds). She said this age is like a mini-adolescence emotionally.

This too shall pass!

Laura

[khrisday]

My son is 7, and EVERYTHING is my fault, according to him.
Don't take it personally
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