Midwife help needed!

[mom2mimi]

I had a prenatal yesterday which my midwife did not show up for, her hubby told us she was out of town for the weekend...not like she was at a birth or something. The funny thing is she tried to change the appointment with me a couple of weeks ago but we couldn't really come up with a better time so we kept it. So hubby and I got up early (on a Sunday!) and drove an hour through snow only to have her not show up. She still hasn't called and apologized or offered any explanation. The worst part of is my hubby was not sold on this midwife at all. He really liked her the first appointment and then by the second had some weird feelings going on about her. He said he couldn't really put his finger on it and wanted to see her again to really know. He had to miss the last two appointments so this was "the one" as far as I was concerned where he would see she was a really good midwife. So now he's completely mistrustful of her and wants me to call my old midwife. When I had my mc back in March I felt like she could've been more sensitive to my feelings that's why I didn't call her again for this pg, but maybe I was just being ultra-sensitive at the time?? Truth be told, she did a great job during my son's birth and I was quite happy with our experience. I guess I'm looking for a little input here...should I call my current midwife or wait it out? I was planning on waiting to see if she would at least call and apologize/explain, I know she knows we were there because her husband was leaving her a message as we were leaving. What would you do??

[phillychiquita]

Hmm that is really weird. My DH would be irked by that too. So would I.
If it were me, I think I might call and make an appt with the other midwife as a failsafe....at least see if she would have room to take you on at this point so you know what your options are.

Then see if the other midwife calls, and what she says when she does. She may have mixed up her dates (we've all done it, right?) and could have a good explanation. But If the other midwife doesnt call by say Wednesday, I would probably change providers. You dont need a flaky midwife right now!

[umami_mommy]

i might give her a chance to explain what happened. whacky things do sometimes happen. but, the fact that she hasn't called you yet is troubling.

i would for sure find someone else at this point, just in case... since who knows what's going on.

GL!!

[MCKMN]

I would be very peeved over this incident too say the least. I really believe if you are running a business or what have you, the least one could do is PHONE the person, and let them know that they will not be in, and could the appointment be rescheduled. I feel she owes you that much! You drove a whole HR in snow, too get there, too not have here be there. I have issues with this sort of thing.. Espeically docs offices. You get sheduled for 3:15, wait an hr before being seen, then wait another20-30 minutes in the room, as if my time is not as imporatant as there's: Not the same as not being seen.If it were me, I would have called her too find out what happened.
See what she has too say, then make your decision from there.

I'm really sorry this happend too you mamma *hugs* I hope you can get this figured out soon. Let us know how it goes if you call her

[mamabear&babybear]

I agree that things happen, maybe she did have the dates mixed up. That said, it seems like she should have called by now. If she doesn't call soon, I would call her and would need a good reason to make me want to stay with her.

[bdoody11]

That would freak me out. I want to know my MW is dependable. I agree with PP that I would try to talk with her an see what explination she gives.

I also say go with your gut. If you don't feel comfortable birthing with her, I would find another MW.

[mom2mimi]

okay so she just called and basically didn't have a very good reason besides she just forgot to call and reschedule. But she did sound truly sorry and is coming out to me this weekend so I don't have to make another trip up there. I scheduled it for a time when I think my dh should be here so I guess I'll see how he feels after Saturday and if he really has a funny feeling about her then I will start researching my options more.