I could care less if my DH's parents want us to have any more children as I believe it's between DH and myself. They've made comments in the past about us having enough children(that was before getting pregnant with #4).
So my due date was Dec. 2nd, still no baby. They've called to see if we've had the baby yet(as if we wouldn't call and let them know!!). And yesterday when they called, they got on the subject about us not having more children. They were talking to my DH, so I only could hear his end of the conversation, but I could tell that's what they were saying. When he got off the phone he waited quite a while and then said his parents were idiots. So I asked him what they said...he said I didn't need to know. I said I knew they had said something about not having more children. I asked him what right did they have to tell us not to have any more children. We take care of our kids. They are loved, they behave well, they share, they are overall good kids, they are fed, clothed, we aren't on welfare...we don't ask them for money, etc. How can they say we shouldn't have more? So the only thing he would say is that they are afraid we won't have money for retirement!!
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I said well I'd rather die poor surounded by my 12 kids(or however many we end up with) than to have money and only have a few kids.
Don't they know you don't mess with a mama that is 41+ weeks pregnant!!
I said well, when we've had this baby and in the future get pregnant again, we'll have to ask them which one we should send back!! 
: I also said it's hard for me to want to rush and tell them the moment this baby is born and have them come out and have to share the baby with them when they don't think we should have even had this one(because after #3 she said that was enough). I am so frustrated and hurt. I don't value their opinion because I think they are so wrong to feel like they do. 
So how do you handle people that act like this? In a very unChristian way I want to just not have anything to do with them anymore....I don't know how good of an influence people that value children so little are to my children. Maybe I'm over reacting. Maybe the fact that I'm impatient for this baby to get here(that is VERY much wanted by us) and the hormones are getting the best of me.
I'm sure I should forgive and forget...but how??
: Sorry for the rambling...I really needed to get this off of my chest.
Sara (who is wanting this new little baby to be safe in her arms soon!!!)
So my due date was Dec. 2nd, still no baby. They've called to see if we've had the baby yet(as if we wouldn't call and let them know!!). And yesterday when they called, they got on the subject about us not having more children. They were talking to my DH, so I only could hear his end of the conversation, but I could tell that's what they were saying. When he got off the phone he waited quite a while and then said his parents were idiots. So I asked him what they said...he said I didn't need to know. I said I knew they had said something about not having more children. I asked him what right did they have to tell us not to have any more children. We take care of our kids. They are loved, they behave well, they share, they are overall good kids, they are fed, clothed, we aren't on welfare...we don't ask them for money, etc. How can they say we shouldn't have more? So the only thing he would say is that they are afraid we won't have money for retirement!!
:I said well I'd rather die poor surounded by my 12 kids(or however many we end up with) than to have money and only have a few kids.
Don't they know you don't mess with a mama that is 41+ weeks pregnant!!
I said well, when we've had this baby and in the future get pregnant again, we'll have to ask them which one we should send back!! : I also said it's hard for me to want to rush and tell them the moment this baby is born and have them come out and have to share the baby with them when they don't think we should have even had this one(because after #3 she said that was enough). I am so frustrated and hurt. I don't value their opinion because I think they are so wrong to feel like they do. So how do you handle people that act like this? In a very unChristian way I want to just not have anything to do with them anymore....I don't know how good of an influence people that value children so little are to my children. Maybe I'm over reacting. Maybe the fact that I'm impatient for this baby to get here(that is VERY much wanted by us) and the hormones are getting the best of me.
I'm sure I should forgive and forget...but how??
: Sorry for the rambling...I really needed to get this off of my chest.Sara (who is wanting this new little baby to be safe in her arms soon!!!)
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I've had some experience in this area. My inlaws were so mad that we became pregnant and we only had the twins! My MIL is still not talking to me (gotta admit I'm not too upset (anymore))! It's not anyone's business how many children you decide you have. I'm not sure there's an easy way to deal with this. People like your (and my) inlaws don't listen well. We support you!
What the 
?????? Anyway, I am really sorry that you have to go through that. I don't have any advice, but can feel with you!
