We lost the court case

[dooney]

You may remember my ER visit when we were stopped for speeding, and the cop was an absolute jerk. Well, our court date was today, and the way they do things and expect you to understand and know what's going on is stupid. They treated DH like an idiot, he ended up being found guilty and now instead of the $85 ticket we pay court costs too and have to give them $171 that we really don't have since we just bought a house and are trying to save up for the baby and I have lost faith in humanity. The cop said that it wasn't an emergency and if it was we should have called an ambulance. He also said Paul said something when he first pulled him over that he totally didn't say ("The car doesn't even go that fast" WTF!?). We got home and I cried because I feel responsible because if I hadn't needed to go to the ER it wouldn't have happened and I cried because we can't afford this and I cried because they were so mean.

[runes]

so sorry to hear about that...!

[FireflyFan]

OMG that's horrible!!!!! I can't believe they didn't accept your reasons!! Ugh, totally unfair!!! *hug*

[rmzbm]

[De-lovely]

Not in your DDC but wanted to offer HUGS mama!

[Jude Rose]

That is so sad. What a bunch of Grinches.
Big hugs, honey. I wish it had turned out better for you.

[dooney]

Grrr! I keep yelling at that sheriff in my head. Telling him he should have been a doctor because he has an amazing talent if he can determine someone's condition without looking at them, because he never once even looked at me, although any normal human being could have heard me screaming in pain, I was sitting right next to DH. Not an emergency, my pregnant @$$. I wish DH would have known he could ask the judge to hear me. My poor Paul was so overwhelmed and nervous, but I would have come out swinging. We didn't want an ambulance because 1-we couldn't afford it, 2-we would have had to wait even longer for it to arrive in the middle of nowhere, 3-it probably would have taken me to the local hospital where I refuse to go instead of the ER just over the WI border about 5 minutes from where he stopped us, and 4-I didn't want to need an ambulance because I was in denial that it was anything serious.

That witch of a prosecutor made it sound like we were speeding the entire way, when in reality he saw us at the ONLY time the entire trip we broke the speed limit. That and the sheriff's statement that Paul said the car wouldn't go that fast just burns me up. I'm done feeling sorry for myself, now I'm just . Nevertheless, Paul is still my hero and I don't know any husband or first-time father who wouldn't break the speed limit a little if he was afraid for his wife and his child. According to him, the whole trial was a waste of time, and his mistake was not in anything he said, it was in assuming that people of that profession have any decency at all.

[dooney]

I just keep thinking of more and more things to say. Paul told the judge that we were passing a truck. The prosecutor asked the sheriff if he clocked us while we were passing a truck. He said "I don't recall that part, he might have been." but at the stop, he told paul he'd clocked the truck at 60 and us at 75.

The prosecutor asked "did you see a blue buick-type vehicle..." and he said yes. THE CAR IS MAROON and on the ticket the cop had written BROWN. I don't think he remembered the stop at all.

I just keep getting madder and madder and it's really affecting me badly. I can't can't can't relax and let it go, it's not good for me.

[Starr]

That stinks. Last week friends of ours noticed there was baby was not responsive and breathing very shallow. They loaded her up and sped to the hospital, on the way there they were pulled over for speeding. Once the cop realized the baby was in trouble, dad was driving and mom in back making sure she was breathing, the cop had them follow and gave them a police escort to the hospital. Once the baby was checked in and stable he gave them a ticket for speeding. Granted they should have called the ambulance because the hospital was an hour away, but it sounds pretty common. Hope your day gets better.

[mom2mimi]

That stinks! I hope you are feeling a little better today!

[umami_mommy]

you lost faith in humanity becuase you lost a hearing about a speeding ticket? did i read that right?

i hope you are feeling better today. maybe some rescue remedy would be helpful. when we are pregnancy it's easy to start having obessive thoughts. sometimes we need a bit of help dealing with them.

[Gray's Mommy]

s too bad they didn't have a video camera in the sherriff's car. My DH's department makes them have one running for each traffic stop.

[MCKMN]

Sounds too me like you got pulled over, by a cop who gets off on a POWER RUSH.. I am so sorry too hear this. I find it a bit appauling, that you were treated like this. What a jackoff, sorry for my choice of words..

Please do not blame yourself over this, so totally NOT your fault. Sending you tons of *hugs*

[mamabear&babybear]

I'm sorry, that stinks. Don't beat yourself up about having to go to the ER or for speeding. Your baby is worth way more than $171. I'm still in shock that the officer didn't let you off with a warning. I guess that cities around the US are hurting for money and want every penny they can glean from us.

[swtpesq]

Originally Posted by dooney

According to him, the whole trial was a waste of time, and his mistake was not in anything he said, it was in assuming that people of that profession have any decency at all.

Not in your DDC, but just wanted to send you a and assure you that not all attorneys are indecent, unfeeling or unreasonable...some of them are crunchy MDC mamas-to-be, just like you!

I'm so sorry you had to go through that ordeal.

[anabellee]

[dooney]

Originally Posted by honeybeedreams

you lost faith in humanity becuase you lost a hearing about a speeding ticket? did i read that right?

Okay so it's not THAT bad. I just re-read that and had to smile. I still have faith in people. And I know that not all attorneys and judges and cops are bad... just all that I've had to deal with. :

We actually have one officer's kid in the daycare and she said if it had been a city cop she could have talked him into not showing up at the trial but she doesn't know the county guys.
Thanks everyone for your support. DH is doing better because he had some "man therapy" with a co-worker who is just as sarcastic and jaded as DH (I knew that would help - there are some things Wifey just can't help you with)