Originally Posted by poxybat
after 2 days of active labor with a posterior baby(all back labor) being up the whole time and exhausted i still didnt want an epidural.
saying women would rather have an epidural than go to the OR is like saying women would rather be violently attacked than fatally wounded, id rather they both not happen.
Well I would much rather have an epi than a c-section if those were my choices. JMO I think there's a huge difference between getting the epi and having a section. I remember thinking after delivering my dd, after everything in my birth plan flew out the window, at least I didn't have a c-section, I was so thankful for that. I've had minor surgery before (laparoscopy) and couldn't walk for a week. I don't even want to think about what major surgery would be like, plus trying to take care of a baby and be successful at bf'ing while recovering. My recovery after a vaginal delivery was easy, even though I had a 2nd degree tear I was walking around an hour later, 2 days later I wasn't feeling any pain, just minor discomfort when sitting.
The problem is that I don't have a crystal ball to tell me whether getting the epi will help me avoid surgery or whether the epi will leave me paralyzed or with some other terrible fate. My reasons for not wanting to get the epi this time are because of the risks for both myself and the baby. If they had a medication without risks I would gladly take it (obviously this is hypothetical). I have no desire to be in excruciating pain. Although I don't have anything else to compare it to, I don't feel that the lack of pain in itself made me enjoy the birth of my daughter any less. It was being flat on my back, tied up to machines, and having no control over what happened to us that made my birth experience less than ideal. Missing out on holding her in those first few moments because they had to suction meconium since the meds they pumped in me most likely made her go into distress. Given the choice of going through that again, terrified that my baby wouldn't make it because the monitors were showing she was in distress and everything else I mentioned, or dealing with the pain of childbirth, I would gladly take the pain. But if those other things weren't an issue, I would be getting something for the pain from the get go.