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post #21 of 61
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Originally Posted by crysmomofthree View Post
a little hospital that nurse was adamant the baby was going to be bathed, but I just told her straight out she was nuts (yes that's what I said)



Awesome.

Yeah, I'm thinking they'll have to pry the baby out of my/DH's arms to do anything, so-- good luck with that!

That's a really good point about forcing them to wear gloves being a bonus!
post #22 of 61
I didn't know being put in an incubator was a possibility or that stuff about the nurses not having to wear gloves. I think I'll decline it altogether. I also don't like the idea of them scrubbing my baby like a dirty dish or something. I'm always very gentle when I bathe a baby.

Here's another thought, what about moms of little boys who aren't circumcising? I have instructed them in my birth plan that they're not to pull back the foreskin. I know a lot of uneducated people think they need to do that when they bathe babies.
post #23 of 61
Exactly. That's why I'd be with the baby at all times, and keep saying, don't even touch the penis! But I think it's just easier to wait and do it yourself when you get home. Retraction can happen SO fast, when people think they're not REALLY retracting, for some reason.
post #24 of 61
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Originally Posted by St. Margaret View Post
Exactly. That's why I'd be with the baby at all times, and keep saying, don't even touch the penis! But I think it's just easier to wait and do it yourself when you get home. Retraction can happen SO fast, when people think they're not REALLY retracting, for some reason.
I can't help but laugh out loud imagining myself saying "don't even touch the penis!" they are going to think I'm nuts but oh well, I think that's good advice
post #25 of 61
I have never wanted any of my babies to be bathed after birth. My homeborn babies didn't get a bath for days. I suppose if there were meconium or a lot of blood involved, I would probably wipe baby off with water and a soft cloth. But I don't want to give an actual bath at all. I really believe there is something very necessary in the smell and feel of a new baby to help a mother imprint with him or her.
post #26 of 61
yeah, i think the reason they are so strict about the bath is because they think it is "gross" to handle someone else's unbathed newborn. I say, then just don't hold my baby!!!! Well, ok, sometimes they need to touch the baby especially if there is some kind of problem, but seriously get over it. If you work in L&C I think you need to be able to handle an unbathed newborn, sheesh.

The bath was the one issue my hospital was so funny about. They didn't bat an eye at the other things, like no hep b, etc. But refusing the bath, they did NOT like that one. I agree with all the reasons mentioned as to why to refuse the bath. it makes no sense at all, why should mothers be seperated from their babies so soon after birth to be bathed? But, my #1 reason for refusing the bath is because they said they'd have to have the baby in the warmer for an hour after the bath in order to get his body temp stable. Unfortunately refusing the bath ended up kicking me in the @ss b/c they overwarmed him in the nursery b/c they apparently had no idea how to set the warmer for a baby who didn't have a bath. He ended up staying in the nursery longer than if he'd had a bath in the first place : .

And then a nurse was n the nursery icomplaining about me refusing the bath and how she didn't want to have to touch my "nasty" baby. She didn't realize my dh was standing behind her. I'm pretty sure she went home in tears after my dh finished giving her a piece of his mind.
post #27 of 61
Ugh, Erin, that sucks. What a nasty place and staff. I'm glad your DH made them think about their attitude and behavior!
post #28 of 61
Thread Starter 
OMG!!! Calling your sweet little thing "nasty"! Oh man, I would be livid.

My biggest reason for wanting to decline the bath with my son was that he had finally settled down and was asleep after a very difficult, traumatic birth. He was SO upset after the birth, the last thing he needed was to be messed with in any way. Besides, he was NOT dirty.

This time I will stand FIRM!!! My DH is totally on board, too. He didnt want to do the bath last time either, but we felt like we had no choice.... This time I know different.

Melanie
post #29 of 61
We didn't allow the hospital to bath our baby either.
i brought along a prepared herbal bath and bathed little Z myself...with me in the hospital. i could tell they thought it was whaked but it's my baby and i'll bath him if i want!

click on the word love if you want to see it!

love
post #30 of 61
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Originally Posted by pinkmilk View Post
We didn't allow the hospital to bath our baby either.
i brought along a prepared herbal bath and bathed little Z myself...with me in the hospital. i could tell they thought it was whaked but it's my baby and i'll bath him if i want!

click on the word love if you want to see it!

love


hugs.Ang.
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post #31 of 61
Sorry people!!

I can't get it to link and I don't have time right now!!!

Just know that it was very awesome. And intimate and beautiful.
There is nothing more wonderful than having a nice warm bath with your baby after giving birth.
post #32 of 61
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Originally Posted by erin_brycesmom View Post
yeah, i think the reason they are so strict about the bath is because they think it is "gross" to handle someone else's unbathed newborn. [...] And then a nurse was n the nursery icomplaining about me refusing the bath and how she didn't want to have to touch my "nasty" baby.
Well maybe we think it's gross for them to touch our perfect babies with their nasty, dirty hands! Hmph!

Seriously, though... I don't know why anyone would want a stranger or mere acquaintance handling their baby if it wasn't asbolutely necessary, much less taking them out of the mother's sight for hours. Crazy.
post #33 of 61
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Originally Posted by pinkmilk View Post
We didn't allow the hospital to bath our baby either.
i brought along a prepared herbal bath and bathed little Z myself...with me in the hospital. i could tell they thought it was whaked but it's my baby and i'll bath him if i want!

click on the word love if you want to see it!

love
Darn, still not working.

And I second the "no bath, it's crazy". I wish I had refused it the first time around. That and a plethora of other things...
post #34 of 61
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Originally Posted by melanie83103 View Post
Hello Mama's,

I tried to decline the first bath after my son was born, and was unsuccessful. They told me it has "hospital policy" to give every baby a bath, and acted like I was totally nuts to even ask :

I'm due with this baby on 3/5. This time I'm going to be much more confident and assured, and I expect that will help. But what about this "hospital policy" thing? How can we get around that? I just don't see the need for the bath right after birth, and would really prefer to do it later, just US (no hospital staff needed!). Any ideas?

Melanie
We delay the bath, however one particular nurse didn't like it. I found out later that the reason they want you to give the baby a bath is because its a cleanliness issue and whenever anyone touches or looks at your baby they have to put gloves on because your baby is considered to have biowaste on them until they are bathed. To them its a safety issue, since blood, meconium, products of birth are on your baby. This is something I understand and get. I still delay the bath but then later do it when I can be in the nursery to watch or help.
post #35 of 61
There were some things that i really disliked about my hospital experience with my littlest one, but there were some things they were really good about too. They didn't bat an eyelash about the eye goo (gave me a waiver) or no hep b or no circ or no vit k or the fact that i brought my own cloth dipes to the hospital. The nursed actually offered the no bathing by them when she was reading over my birth plan. She told me my husband could do it or i could do it whenever. She told me to warm him really good skin to skin before and after and she brought me the little basin and washcloth. I did it about 16 hours after he was born because i tore a little and he had some dried blood on his little head. It was very nice to be up and about and mobile and able to do that for my little one this time. They were really laid back about most things!
post #36 of 61
I know this is a late response but, I'm giving birth at a birth center and asked if they would bathe the baby. The CNM said no. She said she's seen how they scrub and scrub babies at hospitals and babies don't need to be bathed - they need the vernix to be absorbed into the skin. I didn't even know. When I had DS I wasn't asked or forewarned of anything. I couldn't even touch the blue sterile paper draped across my straddled legs when I was pushing.
post #37 of 61
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Originally Posted by melanie83103 View Post
Thanks, everyone! Yeah, the bath was totally unnecessary with my son. And we wanted to allow the vernix to stay on his skin. Plus he had an extremly traumatic birth, and came out SCREAMING - I had finally settled him down, nursed him to sleep, and here come the nurses to take him away and bathe him.

This is EXACTLY what happened to me after my 2nd dc was born. Traumatic birth, I had just gotten her calmed down after she screamed for half an hour, we were cuddling, just nursing, sleeping, and the nurse came in and announced it was time for the bath. I looked at her like she was insane. I had just labored for a full day, ended up with a cesarean, and she wanted to wake the baby up!!!??? Good lord woman, have a little respect. I told her there was no way I had the energy to have the baby wake up right now. I just told her I couldn't do it. I nearly cried, because I was so emotional and everything, and I think I freaked her out. She said, well, it has to be done within 5 or something like that.... sheeesh, whatever. Just go away. So later after Anna woke up and was happy, I was fine to have DH and her give her the bath. It was gentle, and no soap, and in our room (the baby never leaves the room). I'm so happy that I stood up to her and didn't let her wake up DD and wash her. It's much easier the second time around to stand your ground.
post #38 of 61
So did they not wipe the baby down at all after the birth?

My first l&d was basically "let them do whatever they want, just get it out of me." I ahve completely changed my views but not sure what things I need to be concerned about.
post #39 of 61
Good for you mama for planning on sticking up for yourself!
post #40 of 61
With DD, the nurse waited until I had a chance to see her to bathe her. She felt the smells were important as well. They wiped her down, but no bath until later, and DH was there and helped. I'll post the video tonight.
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