Nursing Mamas TTC in MAY - Page 6

[chrissy]

Britt, HOORAY!!

May the BFP's continue to roll in....

[owensmom]

Wow! Let's go ladies!!! We are on a roll! Congrats Milkfacemama!!!

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My2girlz - sorry AF found you, but I hope your cycles become normal fast and soon you'll be graduating from here too!

Oceanone - your day sounded really lovely, I'm glad you and your son got to spend some fun time together.

[coleslaw]

Yeah MilkFaceMomma!!!!! I wish you all the happiness for you and your new baby!!!

[NWmama]

Congrats, MilkFaceMama! I'm so happy for you!!! We seem to be on a roll!!!

Oceanone, I'm glad you had an almost-Mother's day with your little one. I'm sorry to hear about the vomiting and headaches and cramps, though. Hopefully this will the cycle for you!!

Tracy, your poor boy!! Ouch!! I hope he heals quickly.

my2girlz--with your cycles getting closer maybe your body is getting back in gear. Good luck this month!

Jster-- Sorry to hear that spot found you.

[citizenfong]

Whoo hoo, Milkfacemama! How thrilling!

Okay, girls, NOW we've really got some momentum going! Now we're gettin in the groove! Who's gonna be next?

Tracy

[AnnR33]

Yeah MilkfaceMama!! Congrats to you-many sticky thoughts!!

As far as the progesterone-if you are already on them I'd be surprised if your dr wants you to stop. My dr said that she'd keep me on them for the first 12 weeks until the placenta takes over-if progesterone was an issue before she would not want me to miscarry just because I stopped the prog supp too early-better safe than sorry is her theory-I agree. You may want to discuss this a little more with your dr. If you have not started them-then it sounds like you're set!
Good luck to you!

Only 3 more days to wait!!!

Ann

[Kleine Hexe]

Wow, congratulations to our two new gestating mamas! It gives us all hope. Sending happy, healthy, sticky vibes to both of you.


Oceanone, I'm sorry about AF. I'm glad you're taking it easy and loving your little boy.

I'll put everything into one post because I always seem to have trouble posting. GRRRR. I hate dial-up.

I'm 6dpo. My lp was 16dpo last cycle so that's what I'm figuring on for when to expect AF. 10 days to go. : I've really been not trying to think about it too much and I'm telling myself that I'm not pg so that I don't get my hopes up. DH is all excited and watching me like a hawk for any pg symptom. I was a bit green around the gills a couple of days and he was saying,"you're so preg." I told him it's highly unlikely for me to show symptoms at only 5dpo. There are a ton of reasons why a person can feel kind of icky.

So that's me. Just waiting for next week to get here.

[owensmom]

Vanessa - fingers crossed for ya!

Sorry you have to wait so long, but you are lucky to have such a nice long lp!! and an enthusiastic husband to boot! Mine is more of the stay in denial until it is fact type... even when I knew I was pg and tested he thought I was testing too early... then he wanted to test again after we talked to our midwive's and set up appts because he was afraid it was a false positive (I didn't have too many symptoms...). Silly man... :

[AnnR33]

That about sums it up I guess. I still am quite shocked that AF found me. With the progesterone I thought if it did come I'd gain a few days but I only gained 1 day-from 7 days to 8 for LP! I was hoping for at least 3 days. That really sucks.
And my temp even went up this am which makes no sense but there's no mistaking this for AF-too much.

So my nausea for the last 3 days is...what?? I'm not making this up in my head-it was real so what is going on? On to cycle 6 and the dr said if not this time then if I wanted to continue she'd do more tests. That's not how I want to conceive-medically-but I guess we'll see what happens.

So hoping more of you have better days ahead than me!
Ann

[citizenfong]

Ann, I am so sorry. That really is frustrating.

Don't despair. Does it help to be reminded that what you are experiencing really is totally normal? I would have thought that the progesterone might have helped, too. But I guess your body is taking its own time getting back to normal. I've been reading a book about bf and natural child spacing, and it seconds what I've learned on this board. The first few cycles are very likely to exhibit luteal phase defect (too short) and it almost always resolves itself. So if you can take your patience to the degree of sainthood (at least that's what it feels like) and wait a few more cycle, you may not need any medical help t conceive.

I know how a little how you feel, as mine was 7 days last time. I'm hoping it will be longer this cycle, but I have to O first. No sign of that yet. Well, I was having serious O pain yesterday all day, but I'm dry as a bone, so what the heck?

Anyway, we're with you, sister!

Tracy

[Oceanone]

I am so sorry Ann.

I wanted better news for you too.

Now, at least you know you have momentum (having begun the progesterone) and are on your way to conceiving another baby, whether by medical intervention or not, at some time or another.

Tracy is right, the patience of a saint, that's what we all need at the moment.

[mommybritt]

Oh, Ann, I'm so sorry AF found you Hugs to you.

[chrissy]

Oh, Ann to you! I am so sorry. Is it possible that maybe your body needs a cycle to adjust to the additional progesterone? Like maybe it needs time to adapt to be able to absorb it all. I don't know. I am so sorry though. I was really hoping that would do the trick for you.

And I totally agree Tracy and Oceanone, the patience of saints, that is what we all need.

I must vent. I will try to make this brief, but no promises. Remember my friend who is pregnant by accident. Well, she is starting to be happy about the pregnancy, which is great. The bad thing is that she is so self centered and insensitive about the whole thing. She knows that I have been wanting to be pregnant for awhile now but she still says the most insensitive things. Today on our walk she was going on about how she becomes pregnant at the drop of a hat, how everybody she knows is pregnant right now, and on and on. So I'm being (or at least trying to be) supportive and cheerful because I know she means no harm, she is just a pretty self absorbed person and it would not occur to her how these things would be hard for me to hear. Well after this goes on for awhile about how everyone she knows is pregnant I say, "Wow, I sure hope some of that fertility rubs of on me." And she goes, "You just need to wean your boy and you'll be fine." Oh, I was so pissed. Because then it occurred to me that she feels justified in telling me all this and going on and on about how fertile she is because it is my *fault* for not being pregnant because I am still nursing. Whatever.

Onto more cheerful subjects, such as... I am cautiously optimistic that I have ovulated. Check out my chart:

http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/1a789

One more day of high temps and I'll get a coverline. Everything else points to it though, so woo-hoo!!

Happy day to you girls,

[Jster]

Hugs ((Ann!!))

I feel so similar to how you're feeling now...I thought for sure that b6 would do the trick for me, and it did help me o earlier, but my lp was actually shorter!! It makes me want to scream and cry and tear my hair out, and I keep telling Peri that if she wants us to have a baby she might not be able to nurse as much. And I really don't have the willpower to cut back on nursing, not when in my heart of hearts I feel she should be allowed to nurse as much as she wants. Much as I hate to admit it, this is just how nature works.

Tracy, good luck on o'ing soon. Do you usually get ewcm after o pains? I actually usually dry up right after, so maybe you've already o'd?? I hope that you get a longer lp this time, too...seems like we need a major support group! I was wondering, what book is it that you're reading? And does it say how long it usually takes?

Britt, a very belated congratulations!! I'm so excited that you didn't need the biobsy, and hopeful that this baby will be plenty !! Please let us know how things go at the u/s, it's always so fun to hear about new lives forming!

My2gilrz, sorry that AF found you, but it's great that you're looking on the bright side about your cycles getting more regular. Every little bit helps!

Vanessa, good luck in your 2+WW!! May your patience be stronger than iron...hehe!

Chrissy, good luck in having potentially o'd!! Sorry about your friend being so self-centered and insensitive...too bad the world is full of so many people with so many different opinions. Maybe it's best just to shrug, accept that she makes her own choices (and clearly has to deal with the consequences, such as not very good birth control=a not quite expected pregnancy)...and it helps to be humble enough to accept that our own choices have consequences, too...Glad that we all have each other to vent to!!

I'm getting a little back in the groove, I've been really depressed and moody after getting AF so early and with the funeral and all. But time heals all wounds, and it's helping. Thanks for your patience, ladies, and please let me know if there are any corrections for message 1...Amazing how long this thread is getting, but I really enjoy being in this group and I think it kind of helps to have the whole month together.

Happy baby vibes to all!

[Oceanone]

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[Oceanone]

Chrissy, I just checked your chart and wow! that looks like quite a distinct O to me! Very nice looking chart.

Jennifer, I am glad you are feeling better. to you and lots of warm wishes.

Well, I decided to take this month off ttc, for a couple of reasons but mostly because I just don't even want the stress of thinking that I might be pregnant.

So, I thought, what a great time to start temping, right? Well my attempts are completely laughable. Up till now (AF on Sunday) I haven't even taken one temp.
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Our mattresses are on the floor (safer for my little acrobat, who sleeps with us). There is no bedside table (what's the point of one, can't keep anything on it). I thought of putting the thermometer in my pillow, but that would never work because I turn it over and over all night and I am like the princess and the pea. So I tucked it tight between the wall and the bed, where it was out of sight. I actually remember in the morning, reach for it and can't find it anywhere. So I scrabble around figuring it must have fallen and it had. Now, my little guy is smiling and playing and practicing his words etc and really it's too late to take an accurate temp. Especially once I have played with him, gotten up, pulled the mattress from the wall, found it etc.

So the next night I find a better spot for it but we all have to get up early for a doctor's appointment and I totally forget.

My chances of learning much from my temps were only marginal anyway as my sleep is constantly interuppted and I get up at all different times. Part of the problem though is that it just isn't in my routine yet and I need to get used to it.

Is it even worth persisting? Sigh....

[AnnR33]

Thanks for all the support, being able to talk/vent about it to people that understand really helps! DH just says it will happen when it's time-which I agree with but that's not the point-exactly-it's frustrating since you think this IS time.

Of course, I was at a playgroup today and a mom announced she was preg-wasn't even trying and "surprise!" I'm happy for her but man, it's frustrating to hear!

So on we go and what doesn't kill us will make us stronger!:

Thanks mamas!
Ann

[owensmom]

Ann and lawyORmama - congratulations on not strangling the newly surprised pregnant women! Such will power!

Oceanone, maybe you can keep the thermometer in a shoe you don't use right next to your bed? I forget half the time too - so frustrating! I try to do it when dh's alarm goes off.

Tracy - I thought I had O pain about a week and a half ago, but temps say no, plus dry dry dry. Probably just gas... :LOL

lawyORmama - excellent chart lady! Grab dh and gett thee to the bedroom!!!

Go eggies!! Go eggies!! Meet the spermies!! Make a baby!!!


sorry, that is kinda hokey!!

[citizenfong]

Well, maybe I am headed to O land...I've progressed to some CCM today. Usually I start getting the EWCM a day or so before O pains, and when the O pain stops the CM dries up. I say "usually" when what I mean is "from what I remember". And it has been that way in the past several months, I just didn't actually O most of those times. It would be encouraging if I am working up to O because I'm cd10 today, so that would get me hopeful that I would be getting back on track if I O'd close to cd14 (pretty much when I used to O). Last cycle I didn't O until 5 weeks into the cycle.

Chrissy, I wish I could look at your chart. But this borrowed computer I'm on...I can't see anyone's! Not that I'm complaining. I'll just take it on faith that it looks promising! Oh, and if my "pushing" worked, I'm may start selling my serivces. I'd like to point out that it was me who instructed everyone to get hopping right before 2 pregnancies were announced!

Jster. the book I'm reading is Breastfeeding and Natural Child Spacing How Natural Mothering Spaces Babies by Sheila Kippley. I got it at LLL this month when I complained again that I'm still not completely fertile (I go to a toddler group, so they feel my pain). Whoops. Wrong book. I was looking to find exactly what it said, and realized it was in the other book I got at the same time. Well, I'll have to give you the specifics later, as my poor, old arthritic kitty is in my lap and I don't relish chasing him off when he gets up here so rarely. But it basically said just what I said earlier, which is that some women experience a short luteal phase for a few months following the return of menstruation, and that it resolves itself.

Oceanone, you may be interested to know a study was done that showed that your temp is not quite as influenced by moving around as we all sometimes hear. I can't give you any references but from 2 separate sources I've heard about a study that showed that you get the same temp after 3 minutes of jumping jacks immediately after waking as you do when you first wake up and haven't moved around. Someone correct me if I'm wrong. So unless you are doing calesthentics (which you might be with a toddler in the bed), you're probably safe. Just a thought. Oh, and I've had the same trouble with remembering, especially on the weekend. I'm setting my alarm these days.

Tracy

[juliel]

First, a belated, but enthusiastic congratulations to the new mamas!!!!

I've been pretty busy so haven't had a chance to read up on everyone, but sorry to hear from those who have gotten a visit from AF. Hang in there. Hopefully, next month...

A quick update on me. I feel kind of ignorant about what's going on with me because I haven't started charting yet. (This is my first month TTC.) I'm on CD 33. I thought I might have O'd (kind of guessing) a couple weeks ago, so I tested 2 days ago: BFN, as I suspected, but just had a feeling, maybe.... Anyways, most of my postpartum cycles have been really long (first one: 49 days, second one: 53 days), but then my third one was only 29 days, so I was hoping I was getting back on target. Prepregnancy my cycles were on the longer side anyways: usually, 33-35 days, so I'll be happy with anything under 5 weeks.

So, even though I didn't get a positive test, AF hasn't found me yet, so I still have a chance. I've decided not to test again for a little while. I don't have any tests at home right now, anyways, so that will help alleviate the temptation.

Julie