"Child Led Parenting" on Surviving Motherhood tomorrow - Page 2

[swampangel]

I totally agree!

[utopia760]

ive seen the episode so it must be a rerun- i was not happy with the episode as the mother was not keeping her childs safty in mind AND not even really doing it at all- i thought she was more a person who just dident dicipline at all. let me knwo what you think

[swampangel]

To me it seemed as though she was following the Dr. Sears et al. AP advice for babies. I think things really do change as babies turn into toddlers and then enter the childhood years. She was feeding on demand, cosleeping and following her child's lead from babyhood, which is all good.

I think the challenge comes in when limits and boundaries do need to be set. And when distraction and redirection are helpful. Letting a child explore in the street isn't safe at any age...and there's no reason (that I can think of) to let a child do that. I think that's the time to capture their interest in something else and get them out of the street.

The grocery store situation seemed like a setup. I would have scooped her up and put her in the cart with a crunchy item to play with like a bag of pretzels or something. I do that now with my 1 year old and it works great. He's too heavy for me to sling now, so this is what we do.

[mommy2julia]

Originally Posted by utopia760

ive seen the episode so it must be a rerun- i was not happy with the episode as the mother was not keeping her childs safty in mind AND not even really doing it at all- i thought she was more a person who just dident dicipline at all. let me knwo what you think

Umm, NO..not at all. We were keeping her safty in mind, we didnt (we moved) really let her toddle the street (however it was a dead end steet so NO cars even came down there) but I think what the producer wanted to see was the fact that Brad (my Partner) and I didnt alway agree on discipline with Julia. And it just happened that we lived on a dead end street with no real yard at the time, so the producers figured it would be a perfect "scene" for us to follow Julia around the street, ususally in that senario, we would be really close to Julia while she explored, But it would rarly involve a street..
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The main reason I went on the show was to ask the question, what are some gentle ways I could instill disipline into my child wihtout using the harshness I was raised with. I am a new mother, who was just seeing what was out there. I was frustrated at the time, with Julia who was growing from a baby to a toddler (she was 18 months or so at the time) She is now 27 months old and has grown into this awesome toddler, who is still breastfed on demand and who isnt always a perfect little angel but we are working on limits and boundries and we are even enrolled into many playgroups were she is socailly involved with other kids.. We were able to take the opprotunity to use TLC as an outlet for mothers who AP to know that there are other AP mamas out there, and to promote Lactivism, Child led weaning and other aspects of AP and parenting that some mothers might not known about.. Plus I have a small amount of celberaty status.. Anyhow, I hope this clears up the assumptions that I am not a mother who keeps her childs saftly in mind (lets keep editing in mind)!!!!

[utopia760]

it really sound like the show made it out to be what it was not- it maed it seam like you let her do whatever she wanted and that you did not care. or that you did not want to dicipline at all for whatever reason. Thank you for clearing it up for me because i know that that episode stuck in my mind. If i were you i would be angry with them for the way they portrayed your family- it sound like your doing well and thats great!