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post #1 of 18
12/15/06 at 9:00pm
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My sons (6 & 7 yrs old) & I were at the dining room table for dinner. I mentioned that I went grocery shopping and that I got "Fruit Loops" as a surprise. My 7 year old says.."what are those?"... my 6 year old replies.."it's like a vagina they have a hole in the middle".

Needless to say.. I almost spit out my food! Between trying NOT to laugh and to compose myself, but also trying to hold back the scream in my throat while saying: "HEY WATCH YOUR MOUTH!" I just stared at him and said.. honey that's not nice.

BUt he says factually.. "Mama.. vagina's have holes"...

I said.. "yes they do, but we don't talk about our private parts at the dinner table....no more Baby Story for you"

How would you have handled the situation and how would you explain that what he said was uncalled for but in a way that he knows not to use it to for negative attention?
post #2 of 18
12/15/06 at 9:03pm
... Sorry, no advice, but that was hysterical!





I'm sure I'll "get mine" now in a few years for laughing...
post #3 of 18
12/15/06 at 9:19pm
Probably how you did.

At bedtime, I would also bring it up about not speaking about private parts flippantly and only in private.
post #4 of 18
12/15/06 at 10:54pm
I would have said that was a good observation, while trying not to laugh. I actually don't think it was inappropriate for the dinner table but I know we all have different comfort levels for this type of thing.
post #5 of 18
12/15/06 at 10:56pm

That was an interesting comparison!
post #6 of 18
12/15/06 at 11:08pm
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Originally Posted by mama2babybeans View Post

That was an interesting comparison!
I agree mama. I would have said yep ya need a hole to pee dont ya...? I dont know You handled it good mama. Godd job, and thanks for sharing.
post #7 of 18
12/15/06 at 11:22pm
DD isn't talking (at least not like that!) so I have no idea how I would have handled it, probably just like you did. But I just have to say, I was laughing so hard reading your post that my husband insisted that I share. I hope you don't mind, but we got quite a chuckle out that.

Has anyone seen that show "Kids Say the Darndest Things"? It's hysterical what they come up with. I can't wait till DD starts talking.
post #8 of 18
12/15/06 at 11:27pm
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I agree mama. I would have said yep ya need a hole to pee dont ya...? I dont know You handled it good mama. Godd job, and thanks for sharing.
Huh? What does pee have to do with vaginas? Are other people teaching their kids that women pee from the vagina as some kind of weird anatomical euphemism?
post #9 of 18
12/15/06 at 11:34pm
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My 6 year old is truly my muse... he says things so matter of factly..that's the kicker...

here's another one...(one of alot!)

when I brought home Emmie, I was pumping while she was sleeping, my son asked.."mama, whatcha doing?".. I replied "i'm pumping milk for Emmie" ...he then quizzickly(?) asks.."where's the milk go?".. I showed him the collection bottles... he then asks.."is that your milk?".. I said "yes" and then he replies ever so happily.."congratulations!"

He truly is a riot.. I need a camera rolling all the time!

he just comes up with the wildest things.. that sometimes I need others opinions on how to handle the situation.


NORTHof60: Your DD is too precious!
post #10 of 18
12/15/06 at 11:46pm
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Originally Posted by BelgianSheepDog View Post
Huh? What does pee have to do with vaginas? Are other people teaching their kids that women pee from the vagina as some kind of weird anatomical euphemism?
Sorry I didnt know how in to detail you get with the kids. My DS is 6, he thinks mom vagina is too pee with...

Sorrt if I said something wrong.
post #11 of 18
12/15/06 at 11:52pm
i probably would have just laughed.
post #12 of 18
12/16/06 at 12:02am
I would have laughed hysterically and then mentioned don't say that to grandma or something.
post #13 of 18
12/16/06 at 12:07am
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NORTHof60: Your DD is too precious!
Thank you. :
post #14 of 18
12/16/06 at 12:45am
I think I'm going to share this one with my husband and ask him if he like fruit loops.

I'd be proud that he can and does use correct terms.
post #15 of 18
12/16/06 at 12:49am
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Originally Posted by Foxxymama View Post
Sorry I didnt know how in to detail you get with the kids. My DS is 6, he thinks mom vagina is too pee with...

Sorrt if I said something wrong.
No, nothing wrong, I'm just a bit lost. I'm not sure why you would want to purposely confuse a child about anatomy. If you don't want to get into sex or menstruation when they ask what a vagina is you could always just say that's where babies come out. Eventually either the kid is going to figure out that pee doesn't come out of there, or grow up to be one of those lovers/OBs we post horror stories about. :
post #16 of 18
12/16/06 at 12:52am
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Originally Posted by BelgianSheepDog View Post
No, nothing wrong, I'm just a bit lost. I'm not sure why you would want to purposely confuse a child about anatomy. If you don't want to get into sex or menstruation when they ask what a vagina is you could always just say that's where babies come out. Eventually either the kid is going to figure out that pee doesn't come out of there, or grow up to be one of those lovers/OBs we post horror stories about. :
I don't think it's that unusual (except here ) for "vagina" to be used in reference to a woman's entire "private area." I know that's what I was taught... and quite honestly, I'm still not quite sure what the correct terminology is.
post #17 of 18
12/16/06 at 1:12am
Well, OK. The vagina is the part inside where tampons go in and babies come out (and other things we're not allowed to say on MDC.) The vulva is the exterior genitalia in its entirety. And the urethra is where pee comes out, just like on males.

This link sums up the rest nicely:

http://www.teachingsexualhealth.ca/m...ologyLess3.pdf

Now I don't want to hear that you've told everyone in playgroup about this!
post #18 of 18
12/16/06 at 8:41am
I would have laughed, and hard. We've started telling our four year old that there are things she shouldn't say (mostly slang words for genitals that she's heard us use) around certain people because those words make them uncomfortable -- grammy on daddy's side, our rather conservative neighbors, etc -- but that around us and around my mom and certain friends, she can say whatever.

I think saying, "That's an interesting observation" and moving on would have sufficed.
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