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post #21 of 92
Mamsoleil,
Just stick to what you've been doing all along.

One gift from Santa is plenty. Don't you think that too many gifts just overwhelms children anyway?


Some ideas:
- You could write a letter to your dd "from Santa" and put it with the gift, acknowledging the ways she's grown over the past year and the things she should be proud of. He can tell her why he picked out this special gift just for her. "Santa" wrote me a letter one year and it meant so much to me. It's the only thing he ever brought me that I actually remember. So what if other kids got 4 presents, your dd got a personalized letter! Santa really cares about her.

- If you're wondering what to do about her questioing Santa, you could tell or read her a story about St. Nicholas and how his spirit of generosity and love for children has carried on through all these years. Talk about how the spirit of St. Nick lives on differently in every country and every home. I think she can interpret it in her own way--still "believing" in a real person if she is still at that stage, or chosing to embrace a new understanding of Santa-still magical and wonderful but not make-believe. I've always phrased it this way, and read my kids the stories of St. Nicholas, and so far (6 and 3), they choose to believe in the make-believe way.
post #22 of 92
we do 1 gift from santa. my friends do all the gifts from santa.

oh, in our house, santa doesn't wrap the gifts!
post #23 of 92
I want most of the credit. So, Santa doesn't get much credit here (maybe one or two gifts).
post #24 of 92
My husband and I differ:

He wraps all the gifts from "Santa" (one or two per child) - and I'm from the school where you don't wrap gifts from Santa and they are displayed in a dramatic fashion in front of the tree decorated with bows on Christmas morning. (I really really really like the looks on their jaw dropped faces with the tree lights glowing on to them.)

And no, we have not reached a compromise, so, needless to say - I have occasionally over supplied my children at Christmas with toys. Because we do both -and there isn't any resentment - he thinks I'm silly and I think he's silly and who cares? However - there have been a couple of years where I totally over do it and it sometimes leaves me feeling a little empty inside. So - don't do it if you think you shouldn't.

DD's BFF wakes up to many wrapped gifts under the tree and she and her brother can only open 1 of them on Christmas morning, one the next day and so on - sometimes she's opening gifts until early Feb. I personally couldn't stand the delayed gratification. But she's a perfectly happy well adjusted child so : .

ETA: I realized long ago that DD wouldn't always get everything that the other kids got from Santa. She asked for a pony one year and said "Well Santa brought one to Channing - so it's not too expensive for Santa." I came up with the idea of telling her that whatever Santa brought her we would have to pay Santa back for it. That way he can continue to bring toys to kids whose parents didn't have any money at all - since we were able to pay we would. And of course there are some parents who could afford a pony - and those parents definately have to pay Santa back.
post #25 of 92
My children are allowed to pick 3 things for Santa. I have 3 kids and that makes 9 gifts! I grew up with my grandparents and they didn't have a lot of money but, every year, I got everything that I asked for. They didn't do gifts for birthdays or anything and I didn't get much through the year. That's exactly what I do w/ my kids. For b-days we go out to dinner. That's it. But I tend to go all out on Christmas because I don't buy for anything else(and the extra things are arts and crafts that I want them to have). It all depends on you and what you want. My kids know that Santa brings different numbers of gifts but, don't care because they know they are lucky to get 3.
post #26 of 92
We do one Santa gift, plus cheap, small stocking stuffers (this year I got 4 or 5 toys out of the $1 bin at Target, they had really cute wooden cars and stuff!). But Mama and Daddy do maybe one or two toys and clothes (I tend to go a bit overboard on Christmas) and Santa brings the HUGE longed for toy so he's the Hero. *shrug*
post #27 of 92
MamaSoleil- so good to 'hear' your voice!! I miss so many people I used to 'see' so much of around here.

Santa only bring 2-3 gifts in our house and he has other rules too like no live animals, or toys that mom doesn't approve of. However last years a kid in his school got a puppy. So I told him that his mom must have said it was Ok. However that doesn't help w/ the number of gifts does it?

Are kids just more savvy today? We didnt have a lot money growing up so while there was a lot under the tree it was mostly things we needed like a winter coat, mittens, hats, undies and then just a few small gifts and everything was from Santa. My cousins were loaded and they got tons of stuff like bikes, all the "hot" gifts and really big toys but it never registered that Santa might like them better. Except for my trauma of not getting the dancing ballerina of which I have never fully recovered from

I think if a family has wonderful traditions and you make the day special that's ultimately what the kids remember.
post #28 of 92
That's a tough one!

We also only do one gift from Santa - after all, his sleigh is only so big and there are all those children around the world Santa has to deliver to (consider the reduced fuel economy too large a toy sack would create! ).

YK, for us Santa's a great model of equality (theoretically, all kids get toys/gifts - theoretically) and generosity (what a great guy/group to devote their lives to the bringing of joy [albeit material] to children everywhere). I can see where some kids can receive a huge bounty of santa gifts and not have it be negative, but I think for others it's just feeding into commercialism and materialism.

To the specifics of your situation, I don't know what to say. That's really tough. I suppose you could "flex" your tradition and pony up a couple of extra santa gifts if you really want to maintain her belief. Or you could tell her the truth. Or you could tell her that parents have a say in what Santa brings and that all families are different and the values of your family include asking for one gift.

My mom took me to santa at the mall when I was a kid to have a photo taken. I love these momentos, so have maintained the tradition. The kids are allowed to ask for ONE thing, that's it. And we discuss it in advance, to avoid the ponies etc! This year DD wants a sewing machine (the kids' Singer) and he wants a guitar (he'll get a ukelele). These will be their big gifts.
post #29 of 92
When I was a kid all the presents were from Santa.

We've never specified around here. I just label who it is for, not who it is from. Ds has never asked.
post #30 of 92
Santa brings 3 presents to DS - small, medium, and large (whatever is the biggest/best we have for the year). We give DS another 3 gifts or so (small, med, largish), plus Santa does the stocking.

Growing up we had most of our gifts from Santa, as did most of my friends. Last year was actually the first time I ever heard of Santa only bringing one present! Our neighbors do this.... So, no, not everyone only does one present from Santa and some of us are shockingly ignorant of that practice! Santa wraps the presents here, but apparently there are also many homes where the gifts aren't wrapped (this was also news to me last year.)

Regardless of the number of gifts Santa brings - I think the point of not going "over board" isn't too be lost. I feel very sad when I hear about debit and stress associated with holiday spending and "having" to buy gifts.
post #31 of 92
When DH was growing up Santa only brought candy for the stocking, no presents at all! All the presents were from MIL and FIL.
post #32 of 92
Santa has brought multiple gifts some Christmases, but we've decided to do just one from him for each kiddo, from here on out. Santa came by our house the other night, and dd asked him specifically for one gift, so that's the one he'll be bringing... guess he'll be taking the credit, too.

Dh & I could buy them nothing and his parents, my mom, & ds's g'parents, would have it covered.

I love the season, but I'm not liking the gift-giving these days.
post #33 of 92
Santa brings just about everything.
post #34 of 92
Around 5 presents from Santa(Big presents) this year and some of us, the family and friends, but we say they're from Santa.
She's 18 months, she doesn't know the difference
post #35 of 92
I've never heard of anybody doing more than one gift (plus stockings) from Santa, honestly. Since someone mentioned the tv shows and movies, I guess that's true - they do usually show Santa dropping off a whole bunch of stuff at each house.

OP: I think if your dd is questioning this, and feeling that Santa picks favourites, it's time to tell her that Santa gifts actually come from her mom.
post #36 of 92
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Originally Posted by joensally View Post
My mom took me to santa at the mall when I was a kid to have a photo taken. I love these momentos, so have maintained the tradition. The kids are allowed to ask for ONE thing, that's it. And we discuss it in advance, to avoid the ponies etc! This year DD wants a sewing machine (the kids' Singer) and he wants a guitar (he'll get a ukelele). These will be their big gifts.
This is interesting. Does everybody make sure their kids get whatever they ask "Santa" for? We've never done that. When I was a child, I saw Santa as being just like everybody else in that respect - he can be told what you want, but that may not be what you get. I do the same thing with my kids.
post #37 of 92
ok well I would just get her what you are used to getting her... we don't do santa so I am probably no help here sorry! WB
post #38 of 92
I'm beginning to see the non-fantasy, more practical and complicated side of Santa this year. Growing up, Santa left maybe 10 unwrapped toys under the tree for me, and they were big items on my list. Then there were mountains of wrapped gifts from my parents, grandparents, etc. With my 3 dc, we do several unwrapped gifts from Santa, plus 3-4 gifts per child from us. However, I have heard my 6yo talking with classmates, and I could tell that there are some kids who get very little, if anything from Santa (the kids who volunteered this info. are kids that are known to come from lower income families than the rest of their classmates). My dd wants a set of uneven gymnastic bars for Christmas : and when I told her that it was much too expensive, she cheerfully replied that she would ask Santa. We've had conversations about how Santa can't bring unlimited numbers of toys/very large and expensive items to everyone, but she wonders why not- if the elves make the toys, there is no expense involved, so why should economics figure in at all? And when I told her about the Holiday Helper project and how she and her sister could sacrifice some of the gifts they would be getting to help other children, she was happy to comply, but was sincerely puzzled why those children wouldn't be getting any presents- as far as she knows, Santa goes to everyone's house, and no kid should be without presents on Christmas morning because of Santa. It's hard stuff now that she's older *sigh* I do wish there was some sort of "Universal Santa" protocal that all parents adhered to, though. I think it would make things a LOT easier in terms of kids comparing what they got/didn't get from Santa. I have to think that there are some kids who don't get Santa gifts because of financial reasons, and it makes me feel awful that those kids are thinking, "I wonder why XYZ in my class got all those toys from Santa, and I didn't get anything?"
post #39 of 92
Wait, I want to make sure that I understand this--you want to make sure that everyone in your neighborhood only gets 1 gift from Santa and you think that all parents should agree to a set number of Santa gifts. : : You want to dictate the number of labeled Santa gifts for your whole neighborhood? Do you live in a communist country? I honestly have never heard such a rediculous statement. I'm not sure whether to laugh or to enraged.

I'll tell you what, you take care of your family and I'll take care of mine.
post #40 of 92
Christmas is getting way too commercial. I wish there wasn't so much comparison in giftgiving between both kids and adults.
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