Well it sure can be draining, especially if you get caught up in a million little dramas like this one. Is how I see it.
I don't get how seeing relationships with our children as full-on partnerships is accurate. So, like do you pay the rent and the toddler does the utilities and groceries? You work days, they work nights?
It is not a partnership. It is a parent-child relationship.
But, as a partnership, I mean that no one is the boss over another person. We each discuss our feelings and needs and work together to find solutions where everyone is satisfied. That just is easier than struggling over every little thing, imo.