Discouraged... anyone else?

[njbeachgirl]

My baby is due today, and at my appointment yesterday my cervix was waaaay posterior and closed still, and the baby is not engaged. Is anyone else in the same boat, or BTDT? I feel like my body is failing me (I know it's not and that some babies just need longer) and i'm trying to be positive but it's hard!

I have been having brown-tinged mucous and irregular contrax once in a while since saturday, so I thought sure the MW would tell me I had dilated some, but she said "I will definitely see you next week" and scheduled a BPP for me.... what mama wants to hear that on her due date!

[carmel23]

that is why it is tough when they say this is your due date--it kind of sets you up for the baby to be born on that day or before--but you never know...

just try to relax and do something else--occupy your time with something else besides thinking of baby! I know it is so hard, get some good movies or a book, treat yourself to lunch, take a nice bath... something for you!

[BusyBeeMom]

BTDT - My cervix didn't dilate past a fingertip until I went into labor w/DD. She was "floating" until I was 6 cm dilated. It will happen, hang tight!

This time around, there hasn't really been any changes either. I'm due tomorrow.

GL!!!

[paradoxia13]

Discouraged doesn't even begin to cover it. *sigh*

I am 4 days past my due date, for whatever that's worth. Baby is breech. My midwife is fine with delivering breech as long as I go into labor by 42 weeks. At my appointment yesterday I was 3cms and about 80% effaced - week before I was 3cms and about 70%, so no huge changes.

If I hit 42 weeks I have to go to an OB through my insurance and have a c-section, no ifs, ands, or buts about it.

~heather

[bc1995]

My first two floated until I was well into labor. I did at least dialate some before hand with them though. No such luck this time though. They checked me due to some problems last week and could barely reach my cervix. I was not dialated at all. I am hoping they will not check at my appt today. I don't want to know, especially if it is news like that! I am 40wks 5days now. I had ds1 on this day of pregnancy and ds2 was 4 days old. Ho hum.

[LizaBear]

((hugs))

FWIW - I was *maybe* a fingertip dilated at 10pm on Thursday evening, labour started at 2am on Friday, and Wyatt arrived just before 2pm on Friday. It can happen !

[Mama~Love]

I'm getting there . EDD was only 3 days ago, but my cervix is still way posterior, but I am open to 3 cm. Baby is still floating though.

*Sigh*

[~*~MamaJava~*~]

I've been fine...today I'm a basket case though. I don't know what my problem is, but I just feel like bawling (and I am NOT a crier). I am tired from a busy weekend, but I was begging DH to come home as EARLY as possible today (he's just out and about doing some stuff) because I just can't handle myself At least I know I'm acting crazy.

I have no clue what my cervix is doing, I'm not getting checked - because with the other two, NOTHING except maybe a little effacement before labour started. It was SO depressing to me then.

This baby's head is engaged though.

[njbeachgirl]

Christina~ I was the same way last night. I took a nice warm lavender bath and had a small bit of red wine. Then I got in bed with DH and started crying uncontrollably for no reason. ????: So much for the nice relaxing night I had planned.

re: cervix checks I didn't get them before and I should have refused this one too! no fun.

Well I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who is not walking around like 3 cm dilated for weeks!!! Jeez I felt like some kind of freak at my MW office.... those pregnancy books convince you that every woman's body reacts the same to the last few weeks of pregnancy.... i should really know better than to put any stock in that.

[prettypixels]

I'm ok with it. Except I'm so tired! And my whole body hurts so much when I'm sleeping. I sleep on one side, wake up with aching painful shoulders and hips, go pee, drink some water, flip over... rinse, repeat in an hour. *sigh* Other than that, honestly, I'm ok with going late. First time moms often do, and I'm a first time mom, so no surprise!

I did have my husband check my cervix last night... or at least attempt to... he still can't even reach it. Too high! Oh well... I'm trying to just enjoy myself for these last few days... relax, play on the computer, take baths, that's pretty much all I feel like doing!

[~*~MamaJava~*~]

It's kind of too bad that your mw made you feel rotten...but they don't want to get your hopes up either! It's just one of those things - no one knows when that baby is coming.
My MIL had 12 kids, and several times was in the office and told, "That baby isn't coming anytime soon" and had it within 12 hrs of the visit She puts no stock into dr's opinions of when babies are coming!

[BusyBeeMom]

An update from the discouraged front...just got back from the midwife and got checked (yes, I hope against hope that there will be some progress, despite having checked myself and knowing there isn't). I am still 1cm, long cervix, mid-position. I'm scheduled for a BPP next Thursday...

[gaeasun]

I don't progress with my 2nd and 3rd kids until labor starts. It is my understanding that it is common subsequent children. Your body knows what to do. I was checked to see if the baby was breech (I swore the baby had turned), but she checked progress as well. Nothing. I am not due until the 28th, but I was sure the baby was coming last weekend. I am frustrated, not with my progress, but with the baby just not being here. Last time, I was ready to go 2 weeks over, but this time, I want this baby out, NOW. I feel your pain!!!! I am so sick of everyone asking how I am. It is sweet, but annoying.

Big hugs!

[njbeachgirl]

oh my gosh.... i have been having slightly painful contrx 10 min apart for 2.5 hours.... now they are more like 7 mins. apart and red spotting.... i wonder if this is it!

[gaeasun]

Originally Posted by njbeachgirl

oh my gosh.... i have been having slightly painful contrx 10 min apart for 2.5 hours.... now they are more like 7 mins. apart and red spotting.... i wonder if this is it!

Fingers crossed and happy birthing vibes!!!!!

[~*~MamaJava~*~]

Oooh that definitely sounds like the Real Thing! Hope you're holding your baby soon

[scsigrl]

39.3 here (or 40 today depending on the EDD from U/S you go by)

I just SO WANT THIS BABY OUT! I am sad and cry too when I am trying to relax with DH. DH took this week through the New Year off. He works from home though, so it is not a hudge deal if he has to go "back to work" soon after baby gets here. BUt...

I still want this kid out of me. I want MY body back! I want to NOT have to pee every hour etc etc. You all know what I mean.

Nothing going on down south, I have an appt. today. Thinking of defering the vag exam today (not my regular Dr. He's on jury duty this week). I think I just don't want to get MORE depressed about the numbers (even thought i KNOW that they really mean very little).

So to all you Mama's with signs, GREAT! For the rest of you, I am with you!

And I KNOW this sounds terrible... BUT

I WANT TO CELEBRATE CHRISTMAS!!!!!!!!! Not in the hosp. either!
(Plus we only get our first choice doula if I go before Friday)

[bc1995]

How exciting, Denise. I hope you are holding your baby now!!!

I have been having very mild contractions every 5 minutes for a couple hours and then they stop. A few hours later they start back up same pattern. My midwife is leaving town Friday afternoon. Now I really feel like I am on a timeline to have this baby. I will be so sad if I don't get to have her attend the birth.

[njbeachgirl]

Well, everything is still the same with me. I managed to sleep maybe 3 hours last night and woke up with the same contractions, a little further apart.... we'll see what puttering around the house cleaning does for them today!!!!

Good luck to everyone!

[~*~MamaJava~*~]

Aw nuts! No kidding! Time for a BIG cup of red raspberry leaf tea, denise...and a nap...it's got to be coming soon.

I feel crampy today myself...too bad it's just gas :