NO WAY. DD is 9yo, was 8yo last year and that is when the kids really began becoming interested in learnign the facts of life, having boyfriends/girlfirends (most with no contact beyond hugging but a few said they did more). DD would tell me all about it and how most kids did not knwo te hreal facts, etc. She said she was too young for that stuff...WHEW! So normal to be curious and talking about it...
I guess I don't see why this father is asking for help if he isn't willing to do anything about it. No 8yo should be chatting online. Period. She should not get email that isn't read by one of her parents. It's just too dangerous to set kids free on the Internet. My 9yo is only allowed to use the Internet in the dining room, uses AOL on the highest safety setting, and is only allowed to chat and receive mail from the people in his address book (set by us and no chatting with friends, only family). We read all of his email that isn't from a family member. He knows we do this, it isn't spying. She shouldn't be anywhere without enough supervision to keep this from happening. She's still a child, a very YOUNG child. This whole thing just breaks my heart.