So I have always used a time-out-like approach with my very active son, who often needs to unwind a bit from being overstimulated. I use "time-outs" as a teaching tool (I usually talk through it with him) and it has always worked because he usually needs a little break and then can resume appropriate behavior. When ds2 came along, the rules needed to change because ds1 figured out he could get one-on-one time with me whenever he wanted it by musbehaving. So his "thinking time" went solo. This was effective, as he never wanted to miss out on what was going on and so learned other ways to unwind while still in the same room. All of this was great until recently. A rash of rough behavior has coincided with an INTENSE fear of the dark and of being alone in a room. My instinct is that he needs to be removed from the situation when he is acting hurtfully, but it scares him too much and I don't think it's healthy at all. He really freaks out and I don't think it's right to push it, however, I have NO way to channel his actions and get him to unwind without this tool. Any thoughts??
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5/2/03 at 8:44pm