Originally Posted by simplemama
The government and federally-funded abstinence only programs are simply allowed to teach about this from a health perspective. It is not fair to give our kids education about how to be safe or to give them the expectation that they can go have sex and be protected from any type of health damage simply by sticking 'plastic' on themselves or making the girls chug that jagged little pill into their sensitive bodies.
Non-religious organizations, CDC/FDA, etc clearly agree that condoms do not always protect against disease/pregnancy (hense the reason for the new garadasil stuff for HPV) and the pill's information pamphlet only promises a chance to protect against pregnancy, not any diseases.
Either way, neither can protect against the emotional damage that could happen to someone who engages in the most incredible human act with a person before knowing this relationship is for life.
No, the schools do not simply teach it from a health perspective. In H.S. we had a local religious leader come in and tell us that men prefer marrying virgins (no mention as to what women might prefer) and that if a man could get an abortion he'd be over it like "that" [snapping his fingers] but if a woman gets an abortion she'll never get over it. In Jr. H. we got statistics about the different kinds of birth control and the percentages of effectiveness. As well as stories about unlikely pregnancies (w/ no penetration, anal intercourse, etc) Come H.S. and abstinence education, we got none of that, just the word "ABSTINENCE
" written over the front of the chalkboard and chastity lessons from Pastor Bob.
You realize that the reason young people DON'T use protection is because of statements like this... "nothing REALLY protects against pregnancy, so why bother." It's stuff like this that causes 50% of pregnancies to be described as "accidental" even though condoms at their worst, (imperfect use, by themselves, without spermicide) are 86% effective.
Hope is not a birth control.
And again, just what do you expect these chaste little girls to do when they get married? It's not like we have socialized medicine where they all have access to doctors to talk to. And even if we did, most doctors spend 10 or 15 minutes with each patient--hardly enough to do any more education than fill out a prescription for a jagged pill, with no mention of side effects or contra-indications. If she's lucky those topics will be covered when she picks up the prescription--by which time she's no longer in a position of choice over options. On top of that you're assuming that she knows when she needs to talk to a physician. If her sister said you won't get pregnant when you're on you're period, if you douche with vinegar [insert other fallacies here] she won't even bother with that.
We need to teach more adult skills in general that they aren't learning from their parents, or their parents don't know either: put more economics in home economics--like how to balance a checkbook, avoid predatory lending, gauge fairness of interest rates, keeping a budget. We need to add things like labor laws, consumer rights, standard home and vehicle maintenance, basic relationship/communication skills, keeping a healthy home (how long food can be out, how to disinfect surfaces) first aid, and yes, birth control. They need to know these things for when they're adults, even if we don't think they should have a use for them now.