Uh...my parents are coming for Christmas.

[kalisis]

COMPLETEY UNANNOUNCED.

They just called tonight to tell me they're getting on a red-eye and will be here in the morning. They were just going to show up, but thought my grandma let it slip that they were coming, so they called as a courtesy tonight.

I *specifically* asked them not to come until after the baby is born and we even offered to hold the presents.

I. am. in. SHOCK.

[De-lovely]

Not in your DDC but just wanted to say (((HUGS))) and try and prepare as best you can. No stress for you!!!! I would be very upset I mean VERY VERY upset since you simply would like to wait for you precious one in some sort of peace- I understand..........try to make the best of it......mostly for selfish reasons.

[Lynnseedoil]

Oh my, that's so rude! Are they trying to be there for the baby's birth? I don't know if money is an issue but frankly, I'd book them a hotel.

[prettypixels]

Can't tell how you feel about your parents being there, but ... wow. I would be so wierded out if people were just going to show up at my house. Especially tonight... it is a *mess!* When is my nesting instinct going to kick in??? :

[~*~MamaJava~*~]

Eeeek!!!! So not nice. I suppose they think it will be helpful - maybe they have big plans to let you take it easy? (is that wishful thinking on my part?)

My parents will be here on Christmas if baby comes tonight/tomorrow/Sunday...but they are totally cool, 100% helpful and will leave asap.

[carmel23]

oh, I am sorry... Maybe they can stay at a hotel (if they can afford to just jump on a plane, then they can afford a motel, right?)???

at least then you have your house to yourself and you don't have to take care of guests (no matter what they say about being no trouble at all )... and be all crazy with waiting for baby...

good luck!

[katt]

Hugs!!!

[mama2mygirl]

I'm so sorry!

[Twilight]

you are well within your rights to ask them to get a hotel room while they're in town. Maybe you can keep them at bay and get them to help with your DS while you focus on the new baby.

Good luck.. I am so sorry. What rude parents!!!

[kalisis]

Well, that's the thing. My dad kept saying about how they were going to get a hotel because they knew they were a "disturbance" to me (and I *really* wanted to say, "Then don't come!" but didn't). But, if they have to stay at a hotel, it'll go down in history as the rudest thing I ever did to them; it could cause big problems.

It's just SO selfish of them to not even ask and just do it. Man, am I PO'd.

I so specifically asked my mother not to come for Christmas. I told her it would be a big deal to me; that I just wanted us to have a Christmas as a family and that we would hold the freaking presents until they got here AFTER the baby was born.

I don't even know how long they'll be here...

I love my parents, I really do. In fact, we see them every single month. I moved more than 2000 miles away, but we still go there every month. I want my kids to know them...I just wanted to have some time/space for my little family before the big changes coming. We weren't supposed to go there for Christmas last year, that's what DH and I had agreed on, and then my grandmother passed away and we felt obligated. So this year, we got pregnant (on purpose with a late Dec due date) so that there couldn't be any travel.

Ok, so from one already grumpy frustrated pregnant mama to another, if I kill them, think anyone will blame me?

The only upside I can see right now to this is that I won't have to sit through dinner with my MIL and BIL tomorrow alone - I really was dreading that. At least my dad will be there and he can talk to *anyone* and make conversation about *anything*.

[ATruck]

Oh my gosh- that makes me mad just imagining it. I would be so furious.
Especially to plan to just show up. When you had specifically asked that they not come. When you could be going into labor at any moment.

Wow.

So asking them to stay in a hotel would be too rude? After they have pulled this on you (which is far, far ruder)

We had my parents in law here for Thanksgiving (for almost 2 weeks). It was a planned trip- what wasn't planned was that we would be bringing our baby home from the hospital a few days before their arrival. They were planning to come back in January after the baby had been born and we were settled. It was REALLY hard having them here. It felt like we were hosting people. We WERE hosting people. They graciously went and stayed in a hotel for a few nights, which is probably the only thing that kept me from cracking.

In my opinion, it is never okay to just show up at someones's home expecting to stay (unless there is some sort of emergency), but it's a whole other level of uncool to just show up at a pregnant lady's house when she is preparing to give birth.

Are they just assuming that they can attend your birth?

[theboysmama]

I think you would be polite to let them stay in a hotel. If my dad pulled that crap I would tell him that I was very clear we wanted x-mas alone and that he needed to cancel his flight, etc. THat is just so not cool. It is about respect and boundaries. : Hang in there mama

[momto l&a]

Not in your ddc

But WOW I would be having a cow. Telling them that they where asked not to come till whenever it was you said.

They better be staying at a hotel. But then again they just better not be coming. I know that would just stress me out for labor and birth.

Who cares what they will think of you for making them stay in a hotel. Theyll go down in history as coming for a visit when uninvited!!! RUDE RUDE RUDE!!!

[Naughty Dingo]

Mama I am thinking of you and hoping that you are creating a safe space around their intrusion.


Good luck, ND