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post #81 of 108
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Originally Posted by UUMom View Post
Some of that doesn't look like kid mess to me. Is that a vaccum cleaner and boxes of unopened tinsel in the room? (or is that a stack of computer paper?) Those stacked plastic bins with stuff on top of them? The stroller? (or is that a car seat? Can you put the stroller in the hallway or in the car trunk if you have one? In the bedroom? Hall closet?

I find my kids are better at not doing crazy things if there is some ryhme and reason to begin with. Some of it can't be helped when you live in a small home, but purging frequently helps me.
I agree. A lot of that stuff looks like grownup mess. Also, the space just feels crowded. Can some decluttering take place?
post #82 of 108
Locks on the INSIDE of the dresser that allow it to be opened only a little bit, unless the child-lock thing is pushed down? My nephew was like a racoon at that age, too, so I won't be surprised if you say this won't work....just a thought, b/c I hadn't seen it posted.
Also, what about storing your dressers in closets and getting locks for those....REAL HIGH, so that even you have to get a stool and stand on your tip-toes to open. Something she can't reach with a chair. Then add a child lock handle to the door knob (?)
post #83 of 108
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Originally Posted by Satori View Post
Found a pic! Took it after our last major decluttering clean up a year ago.

http://i15.photobucket.com/albums/a3...h/DSCF0233.jpg
And yet there's still a stack of clothes within reach of a kid who likes to throw clothes around.

Everyone on this thread wants to give "credit" to the six year old, yet no one wants to give credit to the ADULT who has ultimate control of the situation. Your child has behavioral issues and she's living in an environment where there's stuff everywhere. Even on your clean pics, there's still stuff everywhere. Your daughter didn't make the mess, she just rearranged it.

It seems like you would rather be "right" than even entertain the idea that you still have control in a very chaotic situation. As far as I'm concerned, my suggestions have been the most optimistic. You can still do something, you don't have to live in a mess everyday, your daughter won't destroy work you've done to wash clothes, put away toys, etc... I think that's much more encouraging than the idea that you're destined to live amongst boxes, carseats and computer monitors.
post #84 of 108
Lou, let it go. Your opinion has been stated. And re-stated.
post #85 of 108
That is just cruel :
post #86 of 108


How sad that you would talk about someone like this.
post #87 of 108
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Originally Posted by LouCostello View Post
And yet there's still a stack of clothes within reach of a kid who likes to throw clothes around.

Everyone on this thread wants to give "credit" to the six year old, yet no one wants to give credit to the ADULT who has ultimate control of the situation. Your child has behavioral issues and she's living in an environment where there's stuff everywhere. Even on your clean pics, there's still stuff everywhere. Your daughter didn't make the mess, she just rearranged it.

It seems like you would rather be "right" than even entertain the idea that you still have control in a very chaotic situation. As far as I'm concerned, my suggestions have been the most optimistic. You can still do something, you don't have to live in a mess everyday, your daughter won't destroy work you've done to wash clothes, put away toys, etc... I think that's much more encouraging than the idea that you're destined to live amongst boxes, carseats and computer monitors.

maybe it's time you left this thread? I have been reading it and your comments are the only ones that I can remember because you are being so mean to her. maybe you don't feel that way, but you are coming off as rude and condescending.

To the OP. My son does this all the time. and we are not in a tiny house. He is a tasmanian devil. Locks work, but wear the keys on a lanyard around your neck. I have more ideas, but I am being called away.
post #88 of 108
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post #89 of 108
Wow, I really dont know what I would do in your situation!! I see your dd has some special needs, and that accounts for alot of her destruction. I agree with the other posters about just getting rid of as much stuff as possible. I imagine it must be so hard with a 6 yo and a baby with special needs, especially as a single mama. Kudos to you just for surviving!! And for wanting to better your situation. I have tried those magnet locks, and they work fantastic. They are inside the cabinet, so you dont see them from the outside. They do require some tools and instalation, so I dont know if you know how to work a power drill, but be aware that they do require some know-how. (DH had to put these in for me) I would also, as you are de-cluttering, keep your 6 yo with you at all times. I know this sounds next to impossible, but it would be necessary only for a short time. When you change baby, have her help you, or sit down next to you. When you feed baby, have her sit next to you and read a book. Take a shower together. Take her when you go potty. I think sometimes (and I dont know much about SID, so this may not apply to your dd at all) kids get into a pattern, and they just need to 'forget' that pattern. For instance, she is probably doing this for attention, or out of boredom, when you are busy doing other things. If you can consistently (like say for 2-3 weeks) give her other options of things to do when she feels this way, she will probably change her behavior. I hate to use the term 'conditioning' but yeah, kinda like that. I hope this helps, and I hope you are able to get some help as well! Good luck to you.
post #90 of 108
satori, another for you.

lou, if you actually read the posts you'll see that the picture you linked to is the one satori found from several years ago that showed her heirloom dressers which she is interested in putting drawer locks on w/o damaging. it wasn't a picture that was demostrating how she can put clothes away. i hardly think that picture looks like a "sty" anyway and belittling isn't helpful to anyone.

satori, the magnetic locks at the toysrus website might help. unfortunately i've never used them in my sty or i'd offer my helpful experience with them ...
post #91 of 108
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Originally Posted by LouCostello View Post
And so has everyone else's. And so has Satori's excuses for living in a sty.
That was pretty rude. Judge much?
post #92 of 108
Those magnet locks are awesome! My best friend has them in her kitchen and they are so handy!
post #93 of 108
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Originally Posted by Satori View Post

Ooh,those are the same ones I was talking about and I think cheaper than the One Step Ahead Catalog too! I haven't tried them yet but want to buy a whole bunch. We have the kind you have to drill in and after the hole dh left in my kitchen drawer I am not happy about the possibility of more accidental drill holes if ykwim

I can't see why these wouldn't work the same as the kind you have to drill. Give them a try- maybe someone has some locally on craigslist for real cheap?
post #94 of 108
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Originally Posted by MommytoTwo View Post
I would tell her to pick it up, if she didnt, for every item she trashed and refused to pick up I would take away a toy. If she still didnt do it I'd throw the toy in the garbage in front of her.
No, don't throw it away. I would tell her that since she refused to properly care for her things, they were being donated to someone who would be greatful for them and care for them as they should be.

Just saying that 'cause trashing good toys is so wasteful and all that....:
post #95 of 108
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Originally Posted by Finch View Post
No, don't throw it away. I would tell her that since she refused to properly care for her things, they were being donated to someone who would be greatful for them and care for them as they should be.

Just saying that 'cause trashing good toys is so wasteful and all that....:
ITA. I tell my son that his things will be donated to someone who will appreciate them. I have started a bag and when the bag is full, out goes the stuff. Of course his response was that he doesn't want all the toys he has anyway.:
post #96 of 108
Thread Starter 
All hail space bags! I've made a dent in this mess over the last 2 days and now I've got my 1 and only lockable closet back! It was full of extra blankets for cold nights but dd was creating a nightmare with them so I locked them up. I managed to get my hands on some huge space bags for dirt cheap and vaccum packed them to hide in the back of the closet so now I can lock up a few things! My moms took both kids for an hour so I could get rid of a bunch of stuff in that nice huge blue dumpster outside Listed several things on freecycle too
post #97 of 108
Well done, Satori!

I hope you feel at least a little better (I think you should feel a lot better!) now. Every bit helps! I always feel so much lighter when I go on a donation/declutter purge. (though not enough to keep doing it as often as I should. ;>)
post #98 of 108
Yeah for you!!
post #99 of 108
Way to go!
post #100 of 108
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Originally Posted by LouCostello View Post
And so has Satori's excuses for living in a sty.
Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.
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