Our house is very middle-of-the-road. While there is no filth, there are dustbunnies. There are dishes in the sink from this morning; we left the house immediately after breakfast, got home late and nobody felt like doing them. So they'll stay there until the morning. No biggy. I'll do them while I'm waiting for coffee to brew.
We have a fair amount of clutter. Lots of books, magazines, crafts, etc. I have two bins of Xmas decorations that I've been meaning to take down to the basement since Saturday.
Does this mean that I'm unable to care for my belongings and my home? I don't think so. Everything in my house is in working order and reasonably clean.
Honestly, I would prefer an immaculate house, too. I'm just not willing to give up other activities in order to achieve that. And although my kids are messy people, they don't abuse their things or destroy the house. They may not care for their belongings according to your standards, but our relaxed standards are met just fine.
PERSONALLY I am a very neat person. That does not mean that I feel everyone else needs to measure up to my level of cleanliness. Because I am very neat and organized I naturally tend to model/teach that to my daughter.
What I suppose I was really getting at with that statement is I believe it's important to teach our kids how to care for their stuff. And it's important to teach them to (reasonably) pick up after themselves. And give them the basic skills to care for their homes once they're grown. I do not expect my children to clean, clean, clean, and truthfully I don't care how they keep their homes once they're grown. As long as they're not living in squalor & paying their own bills it's not really any of my business is it?
I do think it's my job to teach them how to do laundry, run a vacuum, cook, etc because if we don't do it who will? I've known several people IRL who were literally *helpless* once they left home because nobody ever bothered to show them basic things like that.
Oh, and FWIW, I also don't give up activities to care for my home. We have playdates, visit family, go on outings, and all the usual things. I just work cleaning my home in around everything else. Yes, some days there are dishes sitting in the sink all day. Some days there are 3 loads of laundry waiting to be folded. But on average my home is very clean because on the days we don't have as much going on we get caught up on the few things we've fallen behind on. And I learned the hard way a long time ago to banish clutter as much as possible (thank you Flylady! ) Again, that's not a statement about anyone else's home or cleaning habits. Simply what works for us, which is what the original question I was answering was asking.