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post #141 of 157
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Originally Posted by stacey2061 View Post
another big hinderance though is DS...he's our only child so far and isn't the greatest at entertaining himself...when he does find something to do on his own, it's usually messy! he'll dump cereal boxes while i wash dishes! lol it's pretty frustrating. or he decides that now that mommy's busy, it's a good time to chase the dog...lol
my 3 year old has been playing "garbage truck" where he takes (full) trashcans and empties them onto the stairs (which he calls his truck).

I had a few mommy tantrums over that one, I am sure you can believe.

My 1 year old regularly goes into the recycling bags and pulls out every single newspaper and throws them on the floor. Or pulls stuff out of the garbage can.

This morning he attacked and pulled out all of my nicely folded laundry, which was waiting for dh to take upstairs (too heavy for me to carry with my bad back).

*sigh*

Siobhan
post #142 of 157
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Originally Posted by siobhang View Post

This morning he attacked and pulled out all of my nicely folded laundry, which was waiting for dh to take upstairs (too heavy for me to carry with my bad back).

*sigh*

Siobhan
ah yes...the laudry...it's never safe
post #143 of 157
DH and I used to joke that our first's indian name was "Dumps-It-All-Out"
post #144 of 157
I keep the house really clean, and it gets messy during the day with all of DS crazy stuff. I just have DS "help" me pick up before daddy gets home, and we mainly keep it under control. Before yesterday, I would have said I don't ever leave dishes in the sink... We are expecting a baby any day now and DS has a 3 hour meltdown last night. We didn't even brush our teeth... Whew!

I never really have people come over, so I definitely keep it clean for us. I have that personality, and so does DH! DS, on the other hand...

Oh, and I would say we are pretty crunchy -- homebirth, lotsa BF, NFL, well, everything else I guess.
post #145 of 157
Nope. I haven't really noticed a correlation. We all seem to be at the same level of clean vs dirty.
post #146 of 157
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Originally Posted by honeybee View Post
I have had days where I've really tried to get some little bit of something done, and I turn into a screeching monster. I'm so stressed about trying to get whatever task I've chosen done, that I end up neglecting/ignoring/yelling at ds1. So it just doesn't seem worth it.
Thats EXACTLY me!

What I end up doing is 1) Doing as much as possible when James is napping and 2) when he's distracted happily playing I set the timer on the stove for 20 minutes and speed clean. If I don't get it done in 20 minutes too darn bad. Right now there are water bottles on the coffee table and matchbox cars as far as the eye can see. Oh, and I haven't folded laundry in like a week. O'well.

Re the childhood thing. My growing up home was always 'lived in' dishes in the sink. Toys on the floor. I think my mom vacuumed like twice a month. She did the kitchen floor even less often than that! LOL. I vacuum two or three times a week, I vacuum the kitchen (one of those tile floor vacuums) like every day or every other day. Counters get wiped down every day, dishwasher loaded every day.

My house is lived in. But if I have company coming over I'll speed clean. LOL...having a playdate tomorrow. gotta get the toy room organized so that James and his 2 friends don't kill themselves trying to navigate it.
post #147 of 157
I am a reformed slob! I keep a pretty clean house now, I make sure dishes are put and and floors are clear for bed- simply because I've noticed everyone's moods are lifted when things are somewhat neat (I believe in some homey cluter) and we can find our stuff. I focus on one room a day for about 20 min and then just control clutter and dishes. It's way easier than I imagined keeping a semi-clean house would be.
post #148 of 157
I don't think it matters if your crunchy or mainstream its about who you are as a person. I am fairly mainstream and so is one of my best friends and man she is a neat freak and well im not. I keep all the places were people can be clean, and my bedroom well yeah its messy as can be. I leave dishes in my sink some nights but I don't like toys in any room but dds.
post #149 of 157
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Originally Posted by siobhang View Post
my 3 year old has been playing "garbage truck" where he takes (full) trashcans and empties them onto the stairs (which he calls his truck).

we moved several times when my kids were little and they liked to play "moving." They would use whatever they could find (bags, baskets, boxes, etc.) to *pack* their toys (or lower cabnets in the kitchen or whatever) and *move* it to another place in the house to play with it. They could *move* incrediable amounts of stuff in a very short time -- such as the amount of time it took to me take a shower.

This was big when they were 2-5. It drove me : :
post #150 of 157
i'm very AP and NFL but also a neat FREAK! i guess i'm just not as crunchy as i like to think i am!
post #151 of 157
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Originally Posted by CaraNicole View Post
i'm very AP and NFL but also a neat FREAK! i guess i'm just not as crunchy as i like to think i am!
I really wish that I was a neat freak. I mean really... I don't mean it in a silly... I wish I was... I mean... I REALLY wish that I was a neat freak.



Or maybe, I just wish DH was not so MESSY!

I used to keep my personal space so neat until bunking up with DH. Can I make him into a neat freak? Now DS... Wow... a whole other thread.

-L
post #152 of 157
Dh and I were both schooled regarding cleanliness by our clean freak mothers, so we actually like to keep our house tidy. It makes us happy. That said, I'm the one that does most of the cleaning, although I can get dh on board for decluttering projects. Our house gets cleaned a lot less now that we have dd. Before, the floors, dishes, counters, laundry, etc. was done on a daily basis. Now, I'm lucky if I vacuum once or twice a week. I don't really care though--interacting with my dd and having "me" time is way more important than having a sparkling house.
post #153 of 157
So to update- we put our house on the market on Feb1. For 6 weeks my house had to be cleand, scrubbed, and perfect. UGHHHHH. I am so glad we got a contract to sell. Not only because we wanted it, but heck- I am so sick of keeping up this look!!! We havent touched anything in 2 days and we now feel like its better.
post #154 of 157
Yeah, I don't think it has much of anything to do with mainstream or crunchy. I know plenty of mainstream moms with messy houses. Myself, I became a LOT cleaner after having DD.

Well, no, not exactly. I stayed a messy person for a while right after she was born, but the more mobile she got, the more of a problem it became. So now the house is relatively clean at most times, save for the area around her toybox (since she likes to dump the whole box full of cars out to find the ONE she's looking for, lol). Sure, there's nights and days when I'm not feeling up to snuff and say, eff it! I'll clean later. But mostly, I try to keep it tidy for my own sanity.
post #155 of 157
I don't think it is a matter of mainstream vs crunchy either.

I agree with the ones who said there is a difference between untidy and filthy.

As a child, I grew up with a working mom. There was always a lot of dust and untidiness, but not really anything scummy or rotting. She kept up on the kitchen every night, and the toilet probably weekly. The rest wasn't a big deal.

When I was living at home, I always kept my room tidy. But, I never washed the floors or windows or did anything like that involving soap and water.

Now, I have a severe shortage of space. I would love it if I could just put everything into its place and feel like things are tidy. But, there is not enough space, even though I try to keep the level of stuff to a minimum. So, I am always having to move stuff from one place to another before I can wash that place. So, I end up doing it in bursts. For example, a few days ago I moved stuff temporarily out of the kitchen so I could wash the floors for the first time in about 2 months.

I never feel like a clean bathroom lasts very long. Drips land everywhere and leave marks that are really not unsanitary, but cosmetically unattractive. When guests are coming over, I just wipe that all up. The rest of the house is usually presentable enough with just a few minutes of picking up and a quick sweeping.
post #156 of 157
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Originally Posted by Literate View Post
And it takes a certain inner peace to sit in a dirty house and READ A BOOK.
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I must be a very peaceful person inside then

I don't think it's a mainstream v. crunchy issue. I admit I struggle with clutter and mess but I'm making changes. It's hard for me though as it is for many people. I do believe that some people are "born organized" and it comes easier to them.
post #157 of 157
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Originally Posted by BornInSeptember View Post
I I think that if a child becomes comfortable in a messy house, they will take that with them into adulthood and become messy adults.
I'm very sure that my mother would like you to know that I did NOT grow up in a messy house

My mother doesn't consider herself a neat freak but she's very organized and you could safely eat off her floor if you chose to.

Needless to say she is horrified at my housekeeping. She swears she didn't teach me to be that way.
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