|I think it's the parent's attitude that makes all the difference.|
My first two kids are 3 years apart. it was a huge adjustment for me, going from one child to two. it took me forever to get my act together (big suprise there!). i am not sure having my first child older would have helped....it was me who was struggling. However, people went nuts when i became pregnant with my third child. my two kids were 8 & 11 when he was born and everyone said he would be like an only child, how my older kids would suffer because i had a baby to "drag" around, and how i would be stuck in the toddler pool for 20 years (ok, they were right about that, but, you know what i mean!). i was a wreck the entire pregnancy, and then when he was born.....they were wrong! its awesome, and he most definitely is not "an only child". he is the adored baby brother of two kids who think the sun rises and sets on him. he cant tie his shoes, because they fight over who does it, he cant zip his coat because his big brother does it *every single day*, he hangs out with his big brother, crawls into bed with his almost 16 yr old sister, who makes him grilled cheese whenever he wants it. i cant tell you how wonderful it ius, and everyone said it would suck. dont let anyone, or any book, website, whatever, tell you how to feel, and what to expect. everyone and every mom is different. you might love it, you might hate it. you cant know until you are doing it.
by the way, by best friend is pregnant with her 7th child, and all the other kids are under the age of 10, and she doesnt have one single gray hair.....