It's interesting how this thread has gone in the direction of clothing choices and has totally avoided the issue of actual behavior choices.
We jut got cable (we didn't have it for a long time but have committed to it for one year for our children to learn the local language. Really, that's the reason.
) So anyway, the children's channel has no commercials at all but it does have constant PSA's about crossing the street safely and the like, and the PSA's are all done in a rock video style with rapping and singing kids, and yeah, the kids are all totally child-like. Baggy jeans and sweaters and totally not relevant to this thread.
But the one adult who is with them singing, the grown-up whose hands the kids hold when they cross the street, is just totally out there. Maybe she's playing to the kids' parents or something, but she's the one in the miniskirts, pouting at the camera, etc., etc. ... until, of course, she has to look all perky and polite and hold the kids' hands when they cross the street.
So anyway, point being, the kids absorb this. This, to them, is what it looks like to be grown up. As is Brittany and all the others of her ilk. This, to them, is what they aspire to behave like.
Am totally not getting the point across well, but the most modestly-dressed covered-up young lady can still act in ways that would just be entirely sexually inappropriate. IYKWIM.
Until two years ago we lived directly across the street from Lincoln Center in NYC, and they would have different shows out on the plaza (you know, the one with the fountain where Bill Murray twirls around at the beginning of "Ghostbusters" ... well anyway), and I will never forget once some grade school had their kids on stage, and these girls were just right out of "Solid Gold" or some such nonsense (show from the '80s where semi-naked women writhed on the floor to pop music
) ... I mean, these were little kids wearing glittering green and gold bikini-type things.
My DS#1 wanted to know why they were dancing in their bathing suits.
And the "moves" they were making were just so inappropriate, so out-there and ... just what were those parents thinking.
Anyway, my point is also that there's a level of interaction that is just an outside limit, IMO, for childlike behavior, before it crosses the line into sexually inappropriate. And a lot of people (on this board, too) will passionately defend the right of young folks to sexually explore ... after all, we all explored when we were young, right? ... but the question is, when this behavior starts happening at 8, 9, 10 years old ... is that behavior normal sexual behavior or is it kind of like global warming ... something that was happening anyway, but what is happening all around those ice caps is just accelerating the process?
Does that make any sense to anyone but me?
Okay, just rambling. Hadn't checked in on this thread in a day or so, was surprised it got so long ...