Originally Posted by aywilkes
do you think a 13 yr. old should be able to decide to wear the low cut jeans and a thong that shows constantly - and shows even more when she's bending over? This is a serious - not smart alecky question.
There are 22 yr. olds that do it and imo it is a form of disrespecting themselves and trying to get attention from males. So, should a 13 yr. old have the freedom to choose to dress that way too? I see teenagers wearing their clothes and showing off thongs like this all the time.
I guess for me 13 is not grown - and they are not earning money to buy clothes and should still be receiving guidance from parents.
Parental guidance comes in many forms. If a parent (like UnschoolnMa) gives her child the responsibility of choosing what she would like to wear, it is also possible that said parent points out what can happen when her child makes a choice to wear revealing clothing. It is quite likely that a 13 year old wouldn't
like attention from adult males. I know that at 13, I would not have. I might have chosen to wear really short skirts and low-cut tops because my friends wore them, or because the windows of my favorite stores displayed them...but NOT because I wanted attention from boys and men. If my parent had "guided" me by pointing out that, hey, when you wear that outfit and walk around town, men are looking at you, I can guarantee I would have thought twice about the outfit! And, in the instance that the young girl thinks she does want male attention, the parent should educate the child about what that entails and to what it may lead. In my opinion, it is irresponsible to assume that children (and 13 years old
is still a child) can really understand the implications and possible effects of each and every choice we might empower them to make.