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are you going to find out the sex?

post #1 of 28
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My husband reallllllly wants to know what we're having before I give birth so that he can plan ahead from baby items to clothes (like silly Pittsburgh Steelers infant jumpers with the team logo but that's another story...)

I refuse to find out b/c I've always wanted that moment in the delivery room of "It's a..." and then the whole family finding out. I've decided that b/c I am the one carrying and pushing him/her out, I win. It's driving him nuts.

Do you plan to find out the sex before hand or are you waiting?
post #2 of 28
not till baby's birthday
post #3 of 28
we are going to try and wait. we are still debating one u/s because i am a hbac mama, and i am scared of the placenta being on my scar, and would like to check that out. but thats the only reason we would get an u/s
post #4 of 28
Not planning to... won't be having an ultrasound unless midwife has reason to think it's medically necessary, and even then I would tell them I don't want to know. I want a surprise!
post #5 of 28
We don't plan to. We won't have any u/s unless there is a medical reason.

-Angela
post #6 of 28
We're waiting until the birth.
post #7 of 28
Not for another 7.5 months! We're not having an ultrasound.
post #8 of 28
I don't think so! I haven't found out any of the last three times.
post #9 of 28
We don't plan to, though my best girl friend who sews wants to know so she
can get a jump on making lots of cute things for baby. I told her that if we get
an u/s (not planning any now) I'll have the midwife call just her and let her
know.
post #10 of 28
We did with our first and I regret it for this reason: Instead of getting the practical, useful things that I put on the baby regstry, we got tons of cutesy, pink frilly clothes for a newborn that we never used. I can't help thinking that if we hadn't let people know that we were having a girl, they would not have been tempted to buy all that stuff that went unused.

I'm not sue if we will find out with this one. There is a slight chance for a second girl to be born with the same condition as DD was (see my siggy), but it wouldn't be visible on a US until late in the pregnancy anyway. The sooner surgery is done for the condition, the better, so it might be useful info to have.
post #11 of 28
Eri, that's so cute! My friend's OB told her DH who kept it a secret! No way I wouldn't be trying to wring it out of my guy!
post #12 of 28
I don't want to this time, but DH really really does...we were in the same situation last time and ended up finding out, so we probably will find out.

I'll be having many many many ultrasounds...I have a history of PTL/dialation and have an incompetent cervyx, so we will be getting cervical length ultrasounds weekly starting around 12 weeks.
post #13 of 28
Yes, we will be finding out. I did with my 2 others also.
post #14 of 28
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Originally Posted by ShabbyChic View Post
Yes, we will be finding out. I did with my 2 others also.
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post #15 of 28
Didn't find out and wouldn't for the next ones either. The "it's a ..." at the time of birth is amazing. We celebrated with much more joy than any ultrasonographer would.

We also didn't find out to avoid the gender clothing issue that someone mentioned above too! I'm not a lover of pink myself and cringed at the idea of pink and frilly stuff. I'm slowly being desenitized to pink clothing! LOL.

Debbie
post #16 of 28
I don't find out the sex because of clothing. I dress my kids in all colors. DS is actually wearing a bright pink t-shirt today. I don't really know why I like to know. I like to eliminate 50% of the names. I like to decorate a nursery. Makes me feel better. And to me, it IS a surprise, at 10 weeks or at birth. My best friend is pregnant also and she's not finding out. It's her third also. Her OB knows. I told her to tell him to tell me if I call, LOL.
post #17 of 28
I don't want to, but DH really really does. we were in the same situation last time and ended up finding out. we'll probably find out this time too.
post #18 of 28
We won't find out this time. The only time we found out was with our twins, cause of frequent ultrasounds. I like to be surprised and do without ultrasound, unless I have to.
post #19 of 28
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Not planning to... won't be having an ultrasound unless midwife has reason to think it's medically necessary, and even then I would tell them I don't want to know. I want a surprise!
That's my thinking as well. And yet, if we do end up with an u/s, and the technician knows, it feels weird to me that someone else would know and I wouldn't. I'd really rather, if I do get an u/s, that they try *not* to look.
post #20 of 28
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Originally Posted by ksbell315 View Post
We did with our first and I regret it for this reason: Instead of getting the practical, useful things that I put on the baby regstry, we got tons of cutesy, pink frilly clothes for a newborn that we never used. I can't help thinking that if we hadn't let people know that we were having a girl, they would not have been tempted to buy all that stuff that went unused.
Ha, ha-my best friend and I always joke that this is the reason we didn't want to find out. If you wait until after you have the baby you get the good, practical stuff at the shower, then everyone buys the clothes after the baby is born!

With DD we waited. When she was born the MW put her on my chest and covered us so no one could see. It gave ex-DH and I a few minutes just to absorb the new baby before checking. Then, he announced "We have a Kaelie!" (our girl name) and she looked right at him! It was too precious for words.

This time, since I'm a surrogate/birthmom, I'm leaving it up to my IPs.
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