Ok lets vent...

[mommy2boys]

I am not really minding being pregnant. I am 38 weeks, I can hold off for another couple of weeks, I am uncomfortable but I can manage for now. But the contractions that start and hurt and are in my back that I have to stop and breathe through then only to stop a few hours later are driving me batty! :

Also the most annoying part is listening to everyone I know say "what are you doing still pregnant?", "why haven't you had that baby yet?" and "hurry up and have him already" seriously people, its enough to make me want to induce just so I don't have to listen to it :

Also stop calling me every day asking if Ive had him yet, I promise to call you when I do, really I PROMISE TO CALL YOU.

I feel better, please add your own!

[bleumoose]

Oh my I forgot about all the "what're you still doing pregnant?" comments. They haven't started for me yet. Wheee, what I have to look forward to...

This morning I was composing a belated Christmas wish list in my head. No, make that a 12th night wish list

Dear Santa, for 12th night I want

• to lay on my stomach
• to walk up the stairs without pain
• heck to be able to WALK without pain
• to be able to roll over in bed without a herculean effort involving enough grunting and huffing to wake the neighbors

Love,
Allison

PS I won't mind a bit if you can't bring these things to me exactly on time for 12th night. Sometime after next weekend would be perfect, as I'd hate to miss my blessingways next weekend.

[angel0123]

My vent is that everytime I call my parents they think I am in labor. I am hesitant to call anymore until its time! THey even ask if I have had the baby... I think they would be the first to know they have to take care of ds!!!!

[The Firebird]

Well my parents and brother and sister are visiting us from Canada for the holidays and between them and my in-laws I am going a little crazy over the pressure to have this baby. If I go to the bathroom for more than 2 minutes everyone starts asking me how I am doing. In general it seems that all conversations end with someone looking over at me and asking "so, how are you doing? Do you feel anything yet?" I feel like the pressure to perform is huge and obviously I am not performing fast enough ... I know that everyone is just excited but there is really only so much that I can do!

Oh and angel0123 I totally hear you on being afraid to call because everyone thinks that you are in labour ... before my family came down that is how they answered every phone ... they would see my name on the caller id and answer with "oh my god, are you in labour?"

Trust me, I want to meet this baby too ... but please people a little breathing room!

[MacKinnon]

I SWORE after DD I would lie about my due date so that people wouldn't start with the "Have you had the baby yet?" calls until later... But I didn't, and here I am just shy of 38 weeks, getting the calls already!! If I go 2 weeks over, it's going to be a L-O-N-G month!!

[janerose]

Originally Posted by angel0123

My vent is that everytime I call my parents they think I am in labor. I am hesitant to call anymore until its time! THey even ask if I have had the baby... I think they would be the first to know they have to take care of ds!!!!

YES! DH's family is doing this. We called them on Christmas (I know...crazy us calling family on X-mas, huh?: ) and didn't get ahold of my MIL on her cell so then called my SIL on her cell. SIL answered just about yelling, "Are we on babywatch!?!" Ummm...no. Just calling to wish you a happy holiday. : Apparently because we called 2 phones in succession they all flipped out...

Also, DH's family is all uber competative. My MIL actually told DH that when I go into labor he has to call them first, then his older brother, then his younger sister. WTF? Who the hell cares what order we call people to tell them we're in labor? Seriously, you people have nothing better to worry about? DH of course is totally going to call his sister before his brother just because they said that. You'd think that 28 years later they'd figure out how this man of mine works.

Blessings,
Holly

[janerose]

Originally Posted by ilovemyavery

I SWORE after DD I would lie about my due date so that people wouldn't start with the "Have you had the baby yet?" calls until later... But I didn't, and here I am just shy of 38 weeks, getting the calls already!! If I go 2 weeks over, it's going to be a L-O-N-G month!!

I've told everyone but our closest family "mid January" because I didn't want to deal with this exact thing again. Now when people are asking I'm just saying, "Sometime in the next few weeks." or if I want to give even less info than that just "Soon."

Amazing how much it annoys people when you refuse to give them the "date"!

Holly

[NewEyes]

Ditto what've you've all said! Here's a few more:
(after appt- when do *they* think she'll be born?
Just how big do *they* think she is? (I have my lecture memorized for that one)
How much longer will *they* let you go?
How much power people give to "they"!!!!
Driving me bonkers.

[bikruca]

Originally Posted by NewEyes

Ditto what've you've all said! Here's a few more:
(after appt- when do *they* think she'll be born?
Just how big do *they* think she is? (I have my lecture memorized for that one)
How much longer will *they* let you go?
How much power people give to "they"!!!!
Driving me bonkers.

not from this DDC but I hear ya on that

My mil asked when *they* think the babies will come

I was like "yeah actually they just laid off the psychic on staff there, I was really dissapointed that they couldn't give me a date and time.... We could see a different psychic but we would have to pay out of pocket so I am just not sure"

she just rolled her eyes..

[kalisis]

Ha! I did lie about the due date and people are being really respectful, but I think I'm going to go insane if I don't give birth soon.

I'm already 40+ weeks and feel like I'm losing it already. I just want to have a baby and get it over with already. I know the drill, I know what's in store, I just want to get on with it. And I'm tired of worrying about DS and how he's going to adjust to the new baby. And how DH is going to manage - is he going to pitch in as much as I think he's going to have to?

Maybe that's why the baby is late - too much worry!

[Shazer]

My MWs told me to lie about my due date. Extend it by at least two weeks, then people won't nag quite as much. Although the people who are really nagging are family members who have known for most of the pregnancy so there is no fooling them.

[MacKinnon]

Another one that gets me is people asking how dilated and effaced I am! My m/w's don't check unless there is some reason, so I have no idea. I even did my own GBS test. Anyway, why do people (strangers, co-workers, my step-mom) feel that it is OK to ask about the status of my cervix? I would never walk up to someone and say "So, hey, how is your vagina today?"

[mommy2boys]

Originally Posted by ilovemyavery

I would never walk up to someone and say "So, hey, how is your vagina today?"

: I just may say that next time someone asks how dialated I am.

[milkmommie]

I was having lunch with the kids Saturday. This babe likes to push on my ribs with it's feet. I must have grimaced and pushed like I usually do and the waitress comes over to ask, "are you okay over here hon?". When I told her that I just had a foot in my ribs, she said, "Ok, cause you're making me very nervous over here." With a big knowing grin on her face.
Had I been in a bad mood I probably would have said, "yes, keep an eye out because you never know, this baby may just fall out on the floor any minute and I'd hate to leave without it by accident!!!" But I was in an okay mood so I just smiled and told her that it wasn't time for baby to be born yet.
Some people!!
AND, I love him to death but sometimes when I let out a big sigh or grunt and DH asks totally innnocently, "what's wrong hon?". I'd like to throw a frying pan at his head but I just look at him weird and say, "ummmm, I'm pregnant?!?" We've done this four times now, you think he'd know......????????

[lurve]

see my siggie-i did lie about my due date. but here's my problem: my doctor parents think i am "so big" that i am having twins or that something is wrong with me. add to that that i am having a homebirth and seeing a midwife and refusing all tests... well this whole pregnancy they have accused me of trying to kill my baby (literally!) and have spent this whole pregnancy telling anyone who would listen what is potentially wrong with me (though it has been a very easy pregnancy with no complications!). so alas it hasn't worked perfectly. but at least i know i have some leeway!

[NewEyes]

I empathize! My parents (not drs. though) treated me the same way through my first hb. It didn't help that I did have to transfer to the hosp either. hang in there- they're probably just scared.
If it helps, I also refused to tell them when I was in labor- we just called & announced the baby was out!