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Originally Posted by TanyaS  Dh's grandmother died tonight. She didn't want to be embalmed, so funeral is tomorrow. She was 86 and had emphysema, so it was expected at some point. Still sad, though.
I remember when ds was around 15 months and we were in town visiting, we made our way to see her at the rehab facility she was staying in at the time. Ds was melting down and needed to nurse. He was my first baby, and I was starting to be uneasy NIP with a toddler. I started nursing him and just lightly talked about him needed to nurse and she said she nursed all four of her children. I asked her when they weaned, and she said "When they wanted to." This lady was just so sweet. Never asked for a thing from anyone. She always had a smile for us. I never heard her complain about anything. She always called my ds a "dandy". Of course, she couldn't remember the girls' names, but she loved seeing them.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. She sounds like she was wonderful. How lucky of you to have been able to know her! Dh's grandmother is a lot like that, but it's such a dilemma over taking them to her house, because she smokes like a chimney. Despite my ex-smoker status (or maybe because of it), I have a very low tolerance for secondhand smoke. It literally makes me ill. And obviously I don't want the kids around it. I'd just ask her not to, but for some reason everyone in dh's family is strongly opposed to the idea, saying it's "disrespectful" and "you can't ask her not to smoke in her own house". So we end up going over there a lot less than I would like to.
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YES!
I'm so happy I have a link to it now!
It's good to know that there's a profession out there for a person of ds1's unique talents.
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Originally Posted by JoyofBirth wow! it has been ad ay! Seemslike for all of us. Dh left work early and w e took M t o thte pedi. he and my aunt both said I was nuts and her soft spot was not bulging. I'm still not convinced. It is just a s lightbulge. Maybe onnly something a mother would notice after hours upon hours of rubbing the soft perfectio that is her head. going to the doc was a grand adventure. I have managed to lose all my medicaid papers in the move. So i had t o call and get a pprovals and all that. Had to go to the doc as a walk-in. He has a long wait with an appt so we are w aitibg hours with 2 sick kiddos. Emma was better today, so she is on the mend.She did beautifully with the wait. Lots o snacks ad crafts. The doc said she has a sinus infection and prerscribed an antibiotic. He wasn't too worried about the fever. He just doesn't want to get in the 104,105,106 range or to go longer than 2 days. He said her soft spot felt okay and of course at that time it did. I am so bummed about the antibiotics, but this baby is so sick and we have no money thanks to snow and ice days the last few weeks. I hate being poor. Medicaid will pay 100% of her dr visitt and meds but won't let me do chiro or any natural stuff. I have dosed thtis child with more tylennol than I care t o admit. And the thought of it makes me wanna cry. It keeps her a little more comfy though. She has a headache. Her temp an hour ago was 102something. We got in the bath and then her temp was 103.5. More tylenol. She nursed and is nowsleeping on me. I sit here awake and cry and type because I am afraid to take my eyes or arms off of her. This child I know so well, seems so unfamiliar to me. The look in her eyes, thte way she moves, thte whine, the cry. It's not what I usually see. And in thtis I realize the weight that motherhood carries. The importance of every decision thtat I make. I really should get paid for this job. And not becausr I need, I don't. But my children d o. They are the ones that suffer the financial blows because I work here with them. My baby girly's head is so hot on my lips as I kiss her. Why isn't me who is sick i nstead? Although I do feel it coming. And as I sit here with all this concern, I am remindedof an earlier conversation. I told dh that kids were not a llowed in her face until further notice. My nephew and niecesa re also sick. And he dared to argue with me.
Oh and the stupidpharmacycan't fill her scripts. They said the insurancenumber isn't workingn. I have to go to the medicaid office and get a temporary card t o bring t hem. So I have to get up st 6 snd drag mysick kiddos out to stand in line for hours, not to mention my mom who i need to drive me. And when i droppedoff the prescription, i left my number and asked her to call me if there was a pproblem. Did she? NO, that would be too hard. So I wasted gas making the drive back up t here when we already don't have e nough for t he week. My parents will probably helpus there. UGH! Sorry about the long vent. Some day I will have good news to share. Tthat's whaat i k epp telling myself.
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Oooh mama...I HEAR YOU.
We were on medicaid when we had our first, and though we aren't on it anymore, we're still going without a lot so that I can be home. On one hand, you thank god the system is there so you at least have SOMETHING, but on the other, it really feels like no one cares sometimes, and that you're just a number. And that is so hard and harsh when you're afraid for your baby. Don't beat yourself up over the Tylonel. You're doing what you have to do to provide some sort of relief to your child. And trust yourself, no matter what people keep telling you. You carried this baby inside you for nine months, you sweated through labor with her, and you care for her all day, every day. If you think something is wrong with her, then there probably is, no matter what a doc or relatives might say. Can you switch docs? I know Medicaid has a list of doctors that you have to stick to, but perhaps a family practitioner instead of a pediatrician? I don't know why, but in my experience, and in the experience of most parents I have talked to about it, fam pracs seem to listen to Mom a LOT more.
I just couldn't not reply to to your post. The medicaid, having to get rides from family, the concern over wasting gas to pick up a prescription....I have so, so been there, and in many ways I still am. It's so hard, and I feel for you.
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Originally Posted by fenwickmama :guhs all around! i'm at my breakin point here too. we are looking for rental options cuz despite the financial and childcare help i just can't stand living with the inlaws any longer.  : |
I hope you find a place soon! Sometimes, even with financial help and childcare, it still just isn't worth it. Run, and run fast.
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Originally Posted by Miss Juice Well, the laundry fairy has skipped my house yet again.
Looks like I am going to work in jeans today  |
And if they want an adjustment, they'll just have to deal with it!
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Originally Posted by jsupanich Good morning, almost afternoon. Addison has a cold. She's full of snot and of course, fights me when I try to suction her out, screams, hits, the whole nine yards. No fever as of yet though so that's good. She's chillin in her walker playing with her sippy cup.
Does anyone's children take a sippy cup yet? I'm really trying to get Addison to because I have class one night a week for 3 hours and she usually nurses around every 2 but she has a veggie for dinner and sometimes a fruit. However, I would like to be able to go places for an extended period of time without her and she refuses a bottle, hates the nipples.
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I haven't even managed to start solids yet, much less a sippy cup! I have no issues NIP, so sippys (and bottles, actually) are pretty much a nonissue at the moment. I'm just too lazy to wash more dishes than I absolutely have to.
Ds1 is lying on a quilt in the living room watching "Lady and the Tramp". Usually we watch very, very minimal amounts of TV, but I've been really bad about it this week.
: I shouldn't feel too badly, because he's still watched much less TV than other kids I know. I've just been so tired this week and dh has been working. And ds1 has been anxiously awaiting a package from Magic Cabin all week, and it didn't arrive today (I unwisely told him it would. Oops). So he was disappointed.
Wow, I've written a novel here. Do you think I could get this thing published??
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c'mon univershh.. 
Looking forward to hearing about the trip.
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: Three kids leaves no time for wallowing, so sometimes I have to change my attitude fast 
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