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naw, 'shokay, really.. c'mon univershh.. canchooo do better than that? gimme yer best shot I can take it... really

You funny.

Today's been a ballbreaker around here too. Good thing I don't have any balls. Everyone around me = same. What gives?

It's a full moon! That's what it is. When all else fails, blame it on the stars.

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Then he yelled at me when I looked less than happy and said I should be running around getting food into bags for dd1 'because that's what mothers do'.
GRRRRR don't even get me started....

dd1 old enough to be a film student? whoa dude. Why did I think you had just the baby?
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I think she meant the sister was the film student??? I think her dd1 is only 9!
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JJoy - Lots of PVs - hope all is well.

Sarenka - GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

Tanya & Juice -

Juice - do you care to elaborate? Sounds like a real doozy of a day for ya.

Elsanne - did you go to DD's school?

AidansMommy - congrats on tooth #1!

Kimya - Welcome back!!

Sabbath - hope you're doing better today...
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Dh's grandmother died tonight. She didn't want to be embalmed, so funeral is tomorrow. She was 86 and had emphysema, so it was expected at some point. Still sad, though.

I remember when ds was around 15 months and we were in town visiting, we made our way to see her at the rehab facility she was staying in at the time. Ds was melting down and needed to nurse. He was my first baby, and I was starting to be uneasy NIP with a toddler. I started nursing him and just lightly talked about him needed to nurse and she said she nursed all four of her children. I asked her when they weaned, and she said "When they wanted to." This lady was just so sweet. Never asked for a thing from anyone. She always had a smile for us. I never heard her complain about anything. She always called my ds a "dandy". Of course, she couldn't remember the girls' names, but she loved seeing them.
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Welcome, jsupanich!!!

Kimya, Looking forward to hearing about the trip.

Cori, how is the dcp situation these days?

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I just saw a pile of playsilks go tearing madly across the kitchen. Turns out, ds1 somehow corraled the cat and generously draped him in multicolored finery. Poor Booger (the cat) hissed at me when I uncovered him, and bounded to the top of a bookcase where he can look down on us venomously and clean invisible toddler germs from his pristine fur. Something in me is quite proud that ds1 has acquired the life skill of being able to successfully herd cats.


(Have you ever seen this ad?)

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I'm having a VERY HARD AFTERNOON.
:guhs

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Elsanne, how did the bellydancing for the preschoolers go? I would imagine they'd be totally into it.
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I've had more than my share of : parenting moments lately. I'm sorry you're having them today.


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Then he yelled at me when I looked less than happy and said I should be running around getting food into bags for dd1 'because that's what mothers do'.


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Originally Posted by TanyaS View Post
Dh's grandmother died tonight. She didn't want to be embalmed, so funeral is tomorrow. She was 86 and had emphysema, so it was expected at some point. Still sad, though.

I remember when ds was around 15 months and we were in town visiting, we made our way to see her at the rehab facility she was staying in at the time. Ds was melting down and needed to nurse. He was my first baby, and I was starting to be uneasy NIP with a toddler. I started nursing him and just lightly talked about him needed to nurse and she said she nursed all four of her children. I asked her when they weaned, and she said "When they wanted to." This lady was just so sweet. Never asked for a thing from anyone. She always had a smile for us. I never heard her complain about anything. She always called my ds a "dandy". Of course, she couldn't remember the girls' names, but she loved seeing them.
She sounds like a beautiful person. to your family. I'm sorry for your loss.
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maria - that's priceless!!! 'Cat herding - I wouldn't do anything else'...

Tanya - so sorry for your and dh's loss...

Remember a while back I posted about my friend in the UK who has just had a hysterectomy and has cancer - 37 years old? Well her MIL who lives round the corner from them has just died. Of cancer. This is just too much.

Oh Elsanne, thanks for reminding me about the full moon. That always drives dh nuts but last night he was so out of order he was practically a werewolf.

And did you ever get the Dylan CD??

Oh, and yes, as Cori pointed out, dd1 is only nine! I do find a blank sig line encourages speculation!
I love it, I feel I have actually been the mother of a film student.
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sarenka, seriously, that company hired a genius ad agency. their ads were some of the funniest things i've ever seen. this one was actually my fave.
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:yawning:

oh that was great!!! Thanks for cheering up my morning...
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wow! it has been ad ay! Seemslike for all of us. Dh left work early and w e took M t o thte pedi. he and my aunt both said I was nuts and her soft spot was not bulging. I'm still not convinced. It is just a s lightbulge. Maybe onnly something a mother would notice after hours upon hours of rubbing the soft perfectio that is her head. going to the doc was a grand adventure. I have managed to lose all my medicaid papers in the move. So i had t o call and get a pprovals and all that. Had to go to the doc as a walk-in. He has a long wait with an appt so we are w aitibg hours with 2 sick kiddos. Emma was better today, so she is on the mend.She did beautifully with the wait. Lots o snacks ad crafts. The doc said she has a sinus infection and prerscribed an antibiotic. He wasn't too worried about the fever. He just doesn't want to get in the 104,105,106 range or to go longer than 2 days. He said her soft spot felt okay and of course at that time it did. I am so bummed about the antibiotics, but this baby is so sick and we have no money thanks to snow and ice days the last few weeks. I hate being poor. Medicaid will pay 100% of her dr visitt and meds but won't let me do chiro or any natural stuff. I have dosed thtis child with more tylennol than I care t o admit. And the thought of it makes me wanna cry. It keeps her a little more comfy though. She has a headache. Her temp an hour ago was 102something. We got in the bath and then her temp was 103.5. More tylenol. She nursed and is nowsleeping on me. I sit here awake and cry and type because I am afraid to take my eyes or arms off of her. This child I know so well, seems so unfamiliar to me. The look in her eyes, thte way she moves, thte whine, the cry. It's not what I usually see. And in thtis I realize the weight that motherhood carries. The importance of every decision thtat I make. I really should get paid for this job. And not becausr I need, I don't. But my children d o. They are the ones that suffer the financial blows because I work here with them. My baby girly's head is so hot on my lips as I kiss her. Why isn't me who is sick i nstead? Although I do feel it coming. And as I sit here with all this concern, I am remindedof an earlier conversation. I told dh that kids were not a llowed in her face until further notice. My nephew and niecesa re also sick. And he dared to argue with me.
Oh and the stupidpharmacycan't fill her scripts. They said the insurancenumber isn't workingn. I have to go to the medicaid office and get a temporary card t o bring t hem. So I have to get up st 6 snd drag mysick kiddos out to stand in line for hours, not to mention my mom who i need to drive me. And when i droppedoff the prescription, i left my number and asked her to call me if there was a pproblem. Did she? NO, that would be too hard. So I wasted gas making the drive back up t here when we already don't have e nough for t he week. My parents will probably helpus there. UGH! Sorry about the long vent. Some day I will have good news to share. Tthat's whaat i k epp telling myself.
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:guhs all around! i'm at my breakin point here too. we are looking for rental options cuz despite the financial and childcare help i just can't stand living with the inlaws any longer. :

jjoy so sorry about your sickies and the difficulties related-thinking of you!

tanya, so sorry about the loss-she sounds like a great lady!

hi to everyone else...
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jjoy. It is sooo hard when they're sick, all fevery and listless and glazed over. I'm glad you survived the trip to the doc. I hope she's feeling better soon, so you can feel better too!

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I'm trying it myself
How did that work out for you?

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I'd have to stand on the back porch of my apartment and scream "BOOGER! BOOGER!" into the night air to get him to come in. I have no idea what the neighborhood must have thought of me.
We once had a fish named Mr. Poopers. Fine when it's you and DH, not so fine when your 3yo needs to introduce the fish to visitors.

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You funny.
I try : Three kids leaves no time for wallowing, so sometimes I have to change my attitude fast

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Juice - do you care to elaborate? Sounds like a real doozy of a day for ya.
The doozy-ness wasn't in any particular event - it was just the nonstoppingness of it all. From the moment we got home, DD1 was just bouncing off the walls, literally running in circles and screaming at the top of her lungs. Just more chaos that I could handle. And I tried to reel her in, catch her, talk to her, direct her to something more structured - we were planning to cook dinner together, a recipe she picked, and as I was asking her (quite calmly) to come talk to me she started thrashing and screaming and running away and I just totally lost my cool. Oh, the yelling that ensued. I sent her to her room to calm down. Two minutes later, I went up to talk to her, DD2 in tow and baby in arms of course. I apologized for yelling, and said that I was working very hard to calm myself down so we could work together and have a good time making dinner. And DD2 (she's 2.5 with a vengeance) was sitting there parroting every word I said, with emphasis, "I am TRYING to calm down" and I just lost it again. I should have laughed, but it didn't work out that way. We all survived, we all came through it, but I hate it when I can't pull it together in time and it all blows up. I mean, someone has to be the adult here and it's not likely to be them, and my throwing a tantrum to rival any two year old does Not. Help. Things. So there it was. Just another evening in paradise

Today will present its own challenges, but I do much better when I expect them. I work this afternoon, until about 5:30. My babysitter who usually picks the girls up from school and plays with them until DH or I get home around 6:00 has a conflict today, so she'll pick up the kids for me and bring them to my office at 3:30. Fun fun! And to top it off, DH has an after-work gathering that is non-optional and won't be home until 7:30 or later. So it'll be a full and challenging evening for me, but as I said, I'm expecting it, so I know it'll be fine. Just long.

Wow! What a long and ranty post from me!
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fenwick, we crossposted (yes, it DID take me more than half an hour to type that ) and to you. You've managed inlaw-living for way longer than I could have. I'm glad you're looking - it'll be so nice to have your own space. Room to breathe a little.
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Hugs to everyone that need them.

Tanya, So sorry for your loss.

Jjoy, I hope everyone heals fast.

Kelly, I hope the search for rental goes smoothly and cheap.

Juice, i hope your day goes well even with the chaos.

hi to everyone else
post #794 of 822
G'mornin gals.

I did do the bellydance yesterday, it was fun! The preschool set really enjoyed it. Sol, who was properly bedecked and looked oooh sooo cute, sat down and watched, no participation no way. Then, for the second part with the littler ones (her own class) she got up and began dancing...and halfway through, picked up our bag, grabbed my hand, and was like, okay ma we're done. Thank you goodbye. It was funny. So we had to cut that one short.

Fenwick, I lived kind of with my inlaws for about a year, and it was hell--it was so scary and awful because I kind of got kicked out when I was 4 m preg with Amara--yet it was the best thing for all involved. Very, very scary financially and a bruise that has yet to heal about being kicked out--when they were SO IN THE WRONG!!! (see, I still am not over it).

Jessicajoy, still thinking of you and sending you lots of helping, healing vibes.

Juice: no time for wallowing. This is the lesson of yesterday for me. I kept hitting what is for me, the wall, when I thought I would just go insane if I had to do anything else for anyone else, I mean REALLY insane, and then I would breathe, and swallow, and do my best in the next moment, and face the person or persons with needs and try try try to not wallow and just do my best. Yesterday was very intense. Full Moon. I just now reread your description of yesterday and whoa...do you have any idea how much credit you deserve for not walloping anyone? This is such a hard job.

Sarenka I think you deserve an extra nod for the description of that early morning....I just reread it and was entertained all over again. My dad had the new Bob Dylan and I listened to it a lot up in the States but didn't get a copy! It really is great.
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Shit - I sent you a copy ages ago, well before Christmas! What's up with the post between Poland and Mexico?!
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Well, the laundry fairy has skipped my house yet again.
Looks like I am going to work in jeans today
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Good morning, almost afternoon. Addison has a cold. She's full of snot and of course, fights me when I try to suction her out, screams, hits, the whole nine yards. No fever as of yet though so that's good. She's chillin in her walker playing with her sippy cup.

Does anyone's children take a sippy cup yet? I'm really trying to get Addison to because I have class one night a week for 3 hours and she usually nurses around every 2 but she has a veggie for dinner and sometimes a fruit. However, I would like to be able to go places for an extended period of time without her and she refuses a bottle, hates the nipples.
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Originally Posted by TanyaS View Post
Dh's grandmother died tonight. She didn't want to be embalmed, so funeral is tomorrow. She was 86 and had emphysema, so it was expected at some point. Still sad, though.

I remember when ds was around 15 months and we were in town visiting, we made our way to see her at the rehab facility she was staying in at the time. Ds was melting down and needed to nurse. He was my first baby, and I was starting to be uneasy NIP with a toddler. I started nursing him and just lightly talked about him needed to nurse and she said she nursed all four of her children. I asked her when they weaned, and she said "When they wanted to." This lady was just so sweet. Never asked for a thing from anyone. She always had a smile for us. I never heard her complain about anything. She always called my ds a "dandy". Of course, she couldn't remember the girls' names, but she loved seeing them.

I'm so sorry for your loss. She sounds like she was wonderful. How lucky of you to have been able to know her! Dh's grandmother is a lot like that, but it's such a dilemma over taking them to her house, because she smokes like a chimney. Despite my ex-smoker status (or maybe because of it), I have a very low tolerance for secondhand smoke. It literally makes me ill. And obviously I don't want the kids around it. I'd just ask her not to, but for some reason everyone in dh's family is strongly opposed to the idea, saying it's "disrespectful" and "you can't ask her not to smoke in her own house". So we end up going over there a lot less than I would like to.
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(Have you ever seen this ad?)
YES! I'm so happy I have a link to it now!

It's good to know that there's a profession out there for a person of ds1's unique talents.

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wow! it has been ad ay! Seemslike for all of us. Dh left work early and w e took M t o thte pedi. he and my aunt both said I was nuts and her soft spot was not bulging. I'm still not convinced. It is just a s lightbulge. Maybe onnly something a mother would notice after hours upon hours of rubbing the soft perfectio that is her head. going to the doc was a grand adventure. I have managed to lose all my medicaid papers in the move. So i had t o call and get a pprovals and all that. Had to go to the doc as a walk-in. He has a long wait with an appt so we are w aitibg hours with 2 sick kiddos. Emma was better today, so she is on the mend.She did beautifully with the wait. Lots o snacks ad crafts. The doc said she has a sinus infection and prerscribed an antibiotic. He wasn't too worried about the fever. He just doesn't want to get in the 104,105,106 range or to go longer than 2 days. He said her soft spot felt okay and of course at that time it did. I am so bummed about the antibiotics, but this baby is so sick and we have no money thanks to snow and ice days the last few weeks. I hate being poor. Medicaid will pay 100% of her dr visitt and meds but won't let me do chiro or any natural stuff. I have dosed thtis child with more tylennol than I care t o admit. And the thought of it makes me wanna cry. It keeps her a little more comfy though. She has a headache. Her temp an hour ago was 102something. We got in the bath and then her temp was 103.5. More tylenol. She nursed and is nowsleeping on me. I sit here awake and cry and type because I am afraid to take my eyes or arms off of her. This child I know so well, seems so unfamiliar to me. The look in her eyes, thte way she moves, thte whine, the cry. It's not what I usually see. And in thtis I realize the weight that motherhood carries. The importance of every decision thtat I make. I really should get paid for this job. And not becausr I need, I don't. But my children d o. They are the ones that suffer the financial blows because I work here with them. My baby girly's head is so hot on my lips as I kiss her. Why isn't me who is sick i nstead? Although I do feel it coming. And as I sit here with all this concern, I am remindedof an earlier conversation. I told dh that kids were not a llowed in her face until further notice. My nephew and niecesa re also sick. And he dared to argue with me.
Oh and the stupidpharmacycan't fill her scripts. They said the insurancenumber isn't workingn. I have to go to the medicaid office and get a temporary card t o bring t hem. So I have to get up st 6 snd drag mysick kiddos out to stand in line for hours, not to mention my mom who i need to drive me. And when i droppedoff the prescription, i left my number and asked her to call me if there was a pproblem. Did she? NO, that would be too hard. So I wasted gas making the drive back up t here when we already don't have e nough for t he week. My parents will probably helpus there. UGH! Sorry about the long vent. Some day I will have good news to share. Tthat's whaat i k epp telling myself.
Oooh mama...I HEAR YOU. We were on medicaid when we had our first, and though we aren't on it anymore, we're still going without a lot so that I can be home. On one hand, you thank god the system is there so you at least have SOMETHING, but on the other, it really feels like no one cares sometimes, and that you're just a number. And that is so hard and harsh when you're afraid for your baby. Don't beat yourself up over the Tylonel. You're doing what you have to do to provide some sort of relief to your child. And trust yourself, no matter what people keep telling you. You carried this baby inside you for nine months, you sweated through labor with her, and you care for her all day, every day. If you think something is wrong with her, then there probably is, no matter what a doc or relatives might say. Can you switch docs? I know Medicaid has a list of doctors that you have to stick to, but perhaps a family practitioner instead of a pediatrician? I don't know why, but in my experience, and in the experience of most parents I have talked to about it, fam pracs seem to listen to Mom a LOT more.
I just couldn't not reply to to your post. The medicaid, having to get rides from family, the concern over wasting gas to pick up a prescription....I have so, so been there, and in many ways I still am. It's so hard, and I feel for you.


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:guhs all around! i'm at my breakin point here too. we are looking for rental options cuz despite the financial and childcare help i just can't stand living with the inlaws any longer. :
I hope you find a place soon! Sometimes, even with financial help and childcare, it still just isn't worth it. Run, and run fast. :

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Well, the laundry fairy has skipped my house yet again.
Looks like I am going to work in jeans today
And if they want an adjustment, they'll just have to deal with it!

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Good morning, almost afternoon. Addison has a cold. She's full of snot and of course, fights me when I try to suction her out, screams, hits, the whole nine yards. No fever as of yet though so that's good. She's chillin in her walker playing with her sippy cup.

Does anyone's children take a sippy cup yet? I'm really trying to get Addison to because I have class one night a week for 3 hours and she usually nurses around every 2 but she has a veggie for dinner and sometimes a fruit. However, I would like to be able to go places for an extended period of time without her and she refuses a bottle, hates the nipples.
I haven't even managed to start solids yet, much less a sippy cup! I have no issues NIP, so sippys (and bottles, actually) are pretty much a nonissue at the moment. I'm just too lazy to wash more dishes than I absolutely have to.

Ds1 is lying on a quilt in the living room watching "Lady and the Tramp". Usually we watch very, very minimal amounts of TV, but I've been really bad about it this week. : I shouldn't feel too badly, because he's still watched much less TV than other kids I know. I've just been so tired this week and dh has been working. And ds1 has been anxiously awaiting a package from Magic Cabin all week, and it didn't arrive today (I unwisely told him it would. Oops). So he was disappointed.

Wow, I've written a novel here. Do you think I could get this thing published?? :
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nak - i am working from home this week. dcp is on vacation (things are fine there right now). my mom came mon & tues and i got stuff done. today nothing. he is constantly whining, won't be put down but does not want be confined in a carrier : : i think his poop is clogged up again. mom says give him water. : :
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