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KK---I am salivating at the thought of a babysitting co-op...I so wish that were an option for me right now! Let us know how it goes!

Renae--hope your birthday was fun! Or perhaps the fun is just beginning!! We're tentatively planning a President's day weekend up in CT...we must get together! Aquarium or IL's or something! Or if it's not too snowy we might just come find ya!

Claudia---you will find your way with your guys. My DH only took a week off too and it was : . So sorry it's such a sad time with your mom gone and getting into your groove with the new routines. Snacks left on the table where C could get them were a lifesaver as she was inevitably always desperately hungry when I was feeding E or cleaning poo.

FF--: wowza...so excited for you to meet this new little one!!


Cuh-razy day here. C still has a raging ear infection so now on different abx. Her mood is well obviously : . Both girls had PT today before the run to the peds office...then the run to the pharmacy and waiting for the meds with a : toddler was so fun. On the way I did manage to drop some things at the thrift store and freecycled lots of stuff today. Girls had their reviews for PT today and E met one of her goals and after the PT left actually crosscrawled a few feet which is a first! We have the ortho tomorrow for her and before that the old OT is BACK!!! : to see E. Yay! Hopefully we'll get to spend some time planning some feeding goals for her since the other OT was useless in that dept. One of my personal goals has been met (see avatar) and I am the last person to think that would be a goal or that I would be happy to see that. Sure beats swaddle feeding!

I'm tired just listening to myself babble....
post #22 of 412
survived the first day. only broke down crying twice. only took rescue remedy twice. managed to get M to nap in the car but it was not a pretty sight. and then as soon as i pulled the car into the garage with both boys sleeping, i turned it off, closed the garage door and S woke up and proceeded to have a difficult hour.

maybe more later but oht with a squirmy babe who hates the sitting pose is challenging and i hate using abbreviations...

~c
post #23 of 412
OH, Claudia!! I did the napping the child in the car too, it was my only coping technique for a while. And I cried, every day, for what seemed like months. However, I haven't cried every day (for one reason or another) in a while now...so long I can't remember when it was that I cried every day. But yes, frustration, unhappiness, overwhelm, it all kicks in. AND IT'S OKAY, IT WILL PASS! Sherri is right. And think--if elsanne can do it, you can do it! It's true! I am just now getting "out" with both girls every so often. But I can see how down the road, as we get it going on, it's going to be imperative to get out at least once a day. As hard as it is to get out (details, man. the DETAILS!). And Sol is already so much more mature, and understands and "minds" a bit better.
post #24 of 412
enchiladas are in the oven. mmmmmmmmm

oh it sounds so scary. (the 2nd babe thing). i hope you get your groove back claudia. you will you will you will!

i've had a couple of days lately with isaac where my frustration levels have been so high i'm thinking 'i can't BELIEVE i am having another one' we've had some difficult times. he is SO hard sometimes to deal with. and if 3 is worse than 2 as i often hear i am really not looking forward to it. and i just feel like i am doing this whole thing 'wrong' some days. kwim? like yesterday. he wants to take the coffee pot in the bathtub : no calm sweet logical 'you can't take the coffee pot in the bathtub...it is made of glass and will break' is detering him. so he is screaming and i'm trying to peel his little fingers off one by one while not bashing the thing into the cast iron tub and breaking it. not fun. or this weekend when he is screaming at the top of his lungs in the elevator at target. confined space. loud kid. other people. i just want to hit the 'disappear me' button. i'm wondering where i missed the boat with this child. he is so obnoxious. waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhh. like i think i am generally 'sweet' and laid-back in my approach to things and dealing with people and you would think this would result in a 'sweet' natured child. but no. i guess it doesn't work like that. (or i am grossly offbase on my self-perception )

dear god i hope the 2nd one is chill.
post #25 of 412
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enchiladas are in the oven. mmmmmmmmm


dear god i hope the 2nd one is chill.
a) I made enchiladas the other day, in the oven too. Here they laugh at me for making enchiladas in the oven.

b) your second one will be chill, just watch. Ooooh I so wonder what you're having! My intuition says girl.
post #26 of 412
p.s. check out recent girl pix in my blog/sig.
post #27 of 412
love the dancing butt crack pic, els. sol's hair is sooooooooooo long. and you look bee-yoo-tee-full in that family pic. : sending you peaceful journey vibes on your way to nuevo mexico...

i got one more little crying breakdown in as i was putting S to sleep a little while ago. i honestly don't know how i'm going to do this. i keep reminding myself, just one moment at a time, claudia, one moment. it's just like laboring with a baby, just one moment and then the next and then the next and before you know it, it's over. breathe... breathe... breathe... i'm glad to say that i do feel more connected to bill these past few days. he's been particularly attentive to daily life details like helping to plan out a menu for dinners for the week, cleaning up dishes after his cooking and putting dishes in the dishwasher after eating, giving me a hug to let me know we're in this together. it's hard, this parenting thing.

thanks for thinking of me, my maymamas. keep sending me good thoughts.

~claudia
post #28 of 412
LOVE those pictures. the cuteness!

the enchiladas were great but gave me heartburn : dagnabbit. and how else would you cook them (besides oven)? just roll em up on a plate with sauce? i like the ol 70s cassarole approach

i can't keep up with that portland thread :

claudia i want to give you a big ol hug!!!!!!!! and i'm glad bill is being attentive. stars must be aligning in the men arena because doug prepped the enchiladas after i got the ball rolling and then did the dishes too. YES.

gnight ladies
post #29 of 412
Sending you a big HUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGG, Claudia.

Hope tomorrow is easier.
post #30 of 412
Haha, my last mini-post used a DIFFERENT COLOR!! I was posting to another forum where I use that color instead for some reason, and I guess I was just on auto-pilot.
Back to Indigo now though!
So um...it's like 8:15 and Rowan is STILL asleep! He woke at 7, wanted me to pat his back (actually he cried for DADDY, but he was in the shower so he settled for me. ) and now, still sleeping. I won't mess with it!

My friend who I do a babysitting trade with (co-op? Not sure...she watches Rowan Wednesday mornings, I watch her DS Friday morns) is not coming over today, her son has a tummy bug (I don't fear colds, but stomach viruses?? Stay AWAY! ) so I am taking him to our LLL eval meeting--totally not a hardship, he'll have all sorts of friends to play with, and it's a nice pre-LLL meeting with a core group of women who organize the regular meetings, etc. I love it. Rowan loves it too, so I was actually kinda sad that I was going to be going w/o him, but now I'm not! So anyway.

I really don't have anything productive to say at ALL this morning. I am especially fuzzy-headed because work sucked last night (yeah, my birthday kinda sucked too...I had to work my off at the store last night, we had a LOT of cleaning to do and I swear, I don't even clean my HOUSE as well as I did the store last night! :yawning So yeah. Blah blabity blah...I was there way too late and I ate dinner way too late and went to bed way too late...you get the picture.
But this evening DH is taking me to my fave pseudo-Mexican restaurant after our chiro appointments, so that'll be yummy. Speaking of enchiladas!

Elsanne, omg. What a freaking adorable family you have! Beautiful mama, you!
Looooove the bellydancing picture! And the tribal baby gear! Beautiful earthy child!
And that rug, it really does tie the room together!
I SO have to update my pics on the YG! I will, I swear! Um, tonight? : (new fave smiley to abuse!)

Claudia, SO many s and good vibes coming your way! I remember crying every day those first few months alone with Rowan (and when DH was going to grad school and I was alone with a newborn from 6am-10pm!!)...and those doing it with two...I've said it before, I'll say it again... You freakin' RULE.

jstar, that New Years' sounded a-m-a-z-i-n-g! I wish ours was that awesome! We did go into the city (Providence) at night and we saw fireworks and a friend play at a club...Rowan was in awe of her; she's a friend from church and he'd NEVER seen her perform before! www.kmetal.net (her name's Kristi--we love her!) So anyway, good New Years, but we were still home by 8:30!

Okay, totally babbling now. I feel like a flake. I am going to drink more coffee now.

Oh, and Heather! YES! We WILL hang out whenever you get yourselves to CT! Just let us know! Hope C is feeling better!

ETA: I am so totally eating birthday cake for breakfast. :

post #31 of 412
Renae, I so totally noticed the different color and commented on it in my head.

Claudia, you can do it. I felt the same way at first. The first year is hard, then after that it gets EASIER than just one kid (everyone says) because they entertain each other.
post #32 of 412
gorgeous pics, elsanne....she lost her little toddler buddha belly! I adore that tribal skirty! I'm going to try and sew some for C for the spring/summer.

oh why does every day feel like monday!
post #33 of 412
eta: ack, Renae...didn't realize you had to work on your birthday too! Hope you guys can find some ways to celebrate this weekend!

just procrastinating and boosting my post count instead of cleaning the kitchen...
post #34 of 412
HI heather! Exclusive pumper! Walking in your shoes!

Funny thing 'bout that belly--she still has it, big time! Most of the time--I think in that picture because she was dancing she had it contracted.

Wait, is today not Monday?
post #35 of 412
Els---funny you said that about her muscles...I was thinking when I saw her dancing from the back...man does she have some good trunk tone! I totally see you in her when she's dancing...something about the way she holds herself if that makes any sense.
post #36 of 412
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Els, those are really awesome pix. All of them (but esp. the butt crack!!).

I want bday cake for breakfast. We had the muffins T and I made yesterday. I let him crack eggs for the first time (for the non-vegan batch). He totally squirted one all over himself. It was a little bit funny (and I will be the first to admit that the happy vitamins allow me to see it as funny rather than getting upset about it).

We're getting into our groove where dh goes into work at 7:30 and the goal is to have him home at 4. I tell ya, it *rocks*. It totally short-circuits that crazy time (at our house, from ~5-6), and it's soooo much easier to get dinner on the table.

TC... can you try to arrange to be with people/plan morning outings 3-4 mornings a week for the next couple of weeks? Not the same as people coming to your house to help with the kids, but even a play date or a trip to the library or a playground can be such a sanity saver. I really felt on the edge, though, for the first few weeks "solo" with T and Z and then again with T, Z, and L.

Re the babysitting co-op... several of my RL friends are in the same mental state as I am (ie, going mental--the Dec. germs and snow here sent everyone 'round the bend), and between the $$ and difficulty finding a good babysitter, yeah, we're really getting serious about a co-op. Have y'all seen babysitterexchange.com? It takes care of the logistics for you for free.... HF, is there *anyone* there you can trade with?

Eek, poor C. Ear infections are the *worst*. And woot woot for the old OT!!!! Does the new avatar meaning that E's drinking from a bottle all by herself, no struggling, etc?

Still going on the underwear. But he's not really initiating the going potty, I'm just telling him when he needs to go. So I guess if this works it will mean less laundry (in the form of dipes), but not necessarily less work (which is why I waited with T till *he* initiated). Oh well. I guess I'm just choosing the form of work I want.

Going bowling tonight with the girls. I will once again visualize John Turturro.
post #37 of 412
KK - love the babysitting coop idea. My playgroup does a little thing called "date night coop". I have not participated because they started it when I was hugely pg with Jett, but everyone who does it loves it! Here's how it works:

The goal is to have a date night once a month. A group of families participate (I think ours has about 10 or so families). All the participants take turns being the "host family" (turns out to be about once a year). The host family opens up their house on their host night to however many kids they think they can handle (usually around 5-6, which works out great, and it usually about how many families want to go out that night) from 5-8PM. They plan crafts, games, activities, dinner and maybe a movie/tv (for the last 30-45 min) for all the kids. All the other parents go out on a date for 3 hours, while their kids are being cared for in a fun, group setting, with parents and kids they are very familiar with (we have been a playgroup for ~2 yrs at this point).

I've also heard of people doing this with "bucks". You actually make up fake "bucks" and you earn them by hosting/sitting. No one has to keep track of everything and each person is responsible for keep track of their own bucks.

Holy Cow, did I forget to wish everyone a HAPPY NEW YEAR????

And HAPPY BIRTHDAY RENAE!!!! Hope you get some real celebrating in soon. : (BTW, I was totally chucking at your "green chirstmas" joke the other day. )

HF, been thinking of you and your awesomeness for exclusively pumping for so long! You are such a rockin mama! I can't even imaging going through all you do each day/week/month. I admire you so much for doing it with such grace and patience, and for knowing when it's all just too much for you.

TC, I remember feeling nervous about being on my own with multiple kids, too. Before you know it, you'll be doing it with your eyes closed, just like you did the first time. And if it makes you feel better, my friend who has four kids (ages 7, 5, 3 & 3 months : ) and is one of the most awesome, super gd, got-her-shite-together parents, told me yesterday that she is nervous about being on her own for the next few days (family going home, au pair still on vacation). She's been doing this for YEARS and is such a pro (the au pair is a new thing as of this last baby being born, so she's done most of it on her own), and she still gets nervous when it's just her and the kids when she's PP. It's natural and normal and you will get through it just fine.

Okay, Jett's sleeping and Mia is actually calmish, so I'm going to fix myself a bite to eat.

MMF!
post #38 of 412
Oh my goodness! I never realized their was a May '04 thread! Can I still hop in?
post #39 of 412
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dear god i hope the 2nd one is chill.
IME, the second tends to be chill. Everyone I can think of has easier second babes than first. You will be amazed at how much Isaac "grows up" once that second is born.

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p.s. check out recent girl pix in my blog/sig.

Too dang cute! Ms Sol is sooo into te dance, just like her mama! She's gorgeous, as are you and Amara! Love thie pix!

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it's just like laboring with a baby, just one moment and then the next and then the next and before you know it, it's over. breathe... breathe... breathe...~claudia
You're totally right, TC, I'm thinking of you. I agree ith KK, find some places you can get out to. For me, right after Katie was born, I had my "safe" places, places I could take both kids to and if they (or I) freaked, it was ok. Mostly friend's houses, but it did me a world of good to get out of my house and it really helps boost your confidence when you can get a few of those types o trips under your belt.

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Claudia, you can do it. I felt the same way at first. The first year is hard, then after that it gets EASIER than just one kid (everyone says) because they entertain each other.


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Els, those are really awesome pix. All of them (but esp. the butt crack!!).

I want bday cake for breakfast. We had the muffins T and I made yesterday. I let him crack eggs for the first time (for the non-vegan batch). He totally squirted one all over himself. It was a little bit funny (and I will be the first to admit that the happy vitamins allow me to see it as funny rather than getting upset about it).

We're getting into our groove where dh goes into work at 7:30 and the goal is to have him home at 4. I tell ya, it *rocks*. It totally short-circuits that crazy time (at our house, from ~5-6), and it's soooo much easier to get dinner on the table.

TC... can you try to arrange to be with people/plan morning outings 3-4 mornings a week for the next couple of weeks? Not the same as people coming to your house to help with the kids, but even a play date or a trip to the library or a playground can be such a sanity saver. I really felt on the edge, though, for the first few weeks "solo" with T and Z and then again with T, Z, and L.

Re the babysitting co-op... several of my RL friends are in the same mental state as I am (ie, going mental--the Dec. germs and snow here sent everyone 'round the bend), and between the $$ and difficulty finding a good babysitter, yeah, we're really getting serious about a co-op. Have y'all seen babysitterexchange.com? It takes care of the logistics for you for free.... HF, is there *anyone* there you can trade with?

Eek, poor C. Ear infections are the *worst*. And woot woot for the old OT!!!! Does the new avatar meaning that E's drinking from a bottle all by herself, no struggling, etc?

Still going on the underwear. But he's not really initiating the going potty, I'm just telling him when he needs to go. So I guess if this works it will mean less laundry (in the form of dipes), but not necessarily less work (which is why I waited with T till *he* initiated). Oh well. I guess I'm just choosing the form of work I want.

Going bowling tonight with the girls. I will once again visualize John Turturro.
Have fun bowling, and I'm so glad you've got a co-op working out! double w00t!

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KK - love the babysitting coop idea. My playgroup does a little thing called "date night coop". I have not participated because they started it when I was hugely pg with Jett, but everyone who does it loves it! Here's how it works:

The goal is to have a date night once a month. A group of families participate (I think ours has about 10 or so families). All the participants take turns being the "host family" (turns out to be about once a year). The host family opens up their house on their host night to however many kids they think they can handle (usually around 5-6, which works out great, and it usually about how many families want to go out that night) from 5-8PM. They plan crafts, games, activities, dinner and maybe a movie/tv (for the last 30-45 min) for all the kids. All the other parents go out on a date for 3 hours, while their kids are being cared for in a fun, group setting, with parents and kids they are very familiar with (we have been a playgroup for ~2 yrs at this point).
Sounds great, and it works so well since you have such a large playgroup! I'm so jealous!

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Oh my goodness! I never realized their was a May '04 thread! Can I still hop in?

Hop aboard! Always glad to see new faces 'round these parts! I love the name Dominic. My sister considered that name when pregnant for her ds2. Jump on in, we're a crazy group!


How 'bout me, working the multiquote thang?
post #40 of 412
kk--yup...she is over the hump on that part of feeding at least! : I think I'm going to start chatting up some of the other moms at the library/C's gym class re: babysitting/playdate swaps etc.

jstar--my second is most definitely more laid back than the first...phew!

E's ortho appt. went well...'cept we waited 45 minutes to be sent on to the neurologist. He said her hips and all look good. One of our major concerns was her dragging her left side when crawling. So wouldn't you know that once yesterday and a zillion times today she started cross-crawling like it was nothing. Oy. Had a great visit with the OT today...yay! I think C almost pooped her pants she was so happy to see her. She kept exclaiming "I'm so excited!!"
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