May 2004 mamas finding happiness & fulfillment in the new year! (& maybe riches) - Page 20

[orangecanoe]

Lisa--thanks for the update! It sounds like you all are in good hands and have lots of options. Lots of positive energy headed your way!

TC--ack on the toddler games! C has thankfully forgotten about starfall for the moment! Hope you can get some reassurance about S! and about your post-merging skills!

Jacquie---hope the pukey ukeys leave you alone before too long!

[Sarah'sMama]

Hi May Mamas!

I've slipped into the reading-but-not-posting habit, so I must break that. But I must say I've been thinking of Fern and A&L loooooooooots over the past few days. Lisa, I'm so glad you seem to be at such peace with the whole breechness and the bag of issues it presents. I'm still thinking turny thoughts, and I've got a candle lit tonight, on the eve of perhaps version.

Thinking, too, of L and S and their concerned and awesome mamas.

Katie's got some weird rash on her face, I think its post-viral, but its not really getting better after quite a few days. and she still is yeasty, but we moved to some big guns after other failed attempts, so cross your fingers. Over a week now of itchiness is enough for one poor kid.

I don't know if I mentioned how extremely funny the Tupperware story was, Els. I couldn't bring myself to use it again, no matter how clean it really got. So I'm wit'cha on that one. And I don't recall if I gave any comments on your ordeal getting back into Mexico. I'm soo glad you had the incredible kindness from the stranger. Stories like that give me chills.

Big hugs and kisses to you all.

And I hope Rowan's feeling better soon!

[elsanne]

Originally Posted by Sarah'sMama

I don't know if I mentioned how extremely funny the Tupperware story was, Els. I couldn't bring myself to use it again, no matter how clean it really got. So I'm wit'cha on that one. And I don't recall if I gave any comments on your ordeal getting back into Mexico. I'm soo glad you had the incredible kindness from the stranger. Stories like that give me chills.

: Sherri! You know, the tupperware thing IS funny, in hindsight. Don't get me started on her bringing over her poodle-canned-dog-food which she serves to her dog on a PLATE of mine, dishing it out with a FORK of mine, in that godawful slop...am I too anal? I mean, that IS gross, right?

It's been a helluva day 'round here. Full Moon.

[nuggetsmom]

Originally Posted by elsanne

here's my parenting Sol struggle of the week:

WHAT IS THE DEAL WITH THE OBSESSION FOR SWEETS AND TV????

Well, all I can say is that if you stay really consistent about time/place she can have them, she may eventually stop. But she may not. I sometimes make a game out of how many different intonations I can use on the word NO!
Seriously, kids just do that once they figure out what is good

[nuggetsmom]

Originally Posted by mamameg

Hey now... you are apologizing in a "no apology zone". We here in MMF land, do not require, expect or otherwise desire apologies for choices you make.

:

[Miss Juice]

Originally Posted by elsanne

Full Moon.

um, did she bring her dog?






STILL thinking turny thoughts and ferny thoughts, and have a mizillion other things to say (love the fern frond unfurling image) but it's been a helluva day here too, and it is more than an hour past my bedtime, so much love to the mmf and I'll see you on the upside, in the morning

[nuggetsmom]

Originally Posted by heatherfeather

My dilemma du jour....when to cut the nap?? She totally still needs it and will sleep 3-5ish, but then the past few days has been up til 11pm and still up at 7ish. Eek. Her behavior has been atrocious. What to do??

Can you wake her after 20 minutes to see if that is enough to tider her over and still go to bed on time. Would you rather have 2 hours of quiet in the afternoon or in the evening? J has given up the nap altogether. We were always getting N from school when she was ready to nap and then she would get woken up after 5 minutes and that was all the daytime sleep there was... She rarely naps now. And if you drop the nap then find an engaging activity that she can do semi-alone so you still get a quiet time (like books on tape though they are still a bit young- or listening to a special CD) J will play alone in her crib with no fuss so I am lucky that way.


Choices don't alway work here either. Patience does if I have the time. Turns out if I want my kids to clothe themselves I have to have the boiler for the house break and have it be freezing cold in the house. So that is always an option! As for breakfast, J says she want cereal in response to an open ended question. I fix cereal, then I fix myself toast for myself. J eats my toast. I eat granola bar later when I can't figure out why I am so hungry...

[nuggetsmom]

Originally Posted by KKmama

I'm procrastinating... I should be tidying, but I'm nak... T's having a couple of friends over after K (with their mom, who I really like, but she is so much more the wife material--esp. housewife--than I am... not a put-down, just a statement of fact that her house is *waaay* more together than mine... and she talks about how she likes to vacuum and dust while her boys are in K : ).

: I like to dust and vacuum too. But not mop or fold laundry. THen again, with the mega dust allergies around here I just learned to like that more than waking up to administer Albuterol and then being up the rest of the night with a hyper child. And I am not apologizing for the administering of Albuterol either.

Originally Posted by KKmama

Pottying: I am definitely of the "no pressure" school. I ask once or twice, and that's it. You want a dipe, no problem (esp. for pooping). I have a few friends who went totally over the top with PTing, and their kids have had way, way, WAAAAY more accidents (sometimes multiple times a day) to a much later age (past 4 1/2) than they should (IMO), and I do believe that it was because it became a power struggle. The only things little kids have any control over is eating and elimination. If either becomes a power struggle, bad things happen (accidents, encopresis, unnecessary feeding issues).

At some point with N I felt such pressure since she was over 3 and I think that this is definately true. We did end up with power struggles over it. She was using the potty no problem at the daycare but then at home I made a royal mess of it. We had to visit my mom and I was ashamed that I had failed in this arena. I was a lot less confident in those days. J goes if she goes or not if she doesn't. Whatever!

[fiddlefern]

...sits back down after lighting a candle for A&L+2... Lisa, you sound like you are much calmer and in a good place, and that is wonderful. I think it's so wise that you are taking off from work. Now your family can just be together over the next days as this whole birth process unfolds. It is SO GREAT that you have a level of trust in the OB. And that you know the OB will do the birth no matter what. I am feeling more relaxed about your family's birth just seeing how you feel about it.

Jess- along the same vein, it's funny how sometimes the person makes a bigger difference than the letters after the name. Your OB sounds great- exactly the person you need to support you through your pregnancy. I think that in GENERAL a midwife's training leads her/him to trust pregnancy and birth more, but obviously that's just not always the case, as your experience (and unfortunately mine) indicate.

Nuggetsmom- I am totally loving your approach to catching up . Taking it in small chunks and really being thoughtful. I on the otherhand just tend to give up if I get behind.

Sherri- hope K feels better very soon! I'm wondering if there is something bigger going on that ties the rash and the yeasties together???

I will have to come back later and do another post- dh needs me now.

Ta ta. Oh- and ps, no babe yet.

[nuggetsmom]

I was on an electron diet but now I am gorging I guess.

My MMF surprise came yesterday, right when I was feeling really low, and it was a great decorated MMF sketchbook with pencils and a ouch to put them in. Totally PURRRFECT!.. Love it. and the MM was TC
Now I will gorge myself on DDR since I am using electrons again...

[KKmama]

Lisa, I am keeping Alison (and you, and your little ones, the inside one and the outside one) in my thoughts tonight. I'm so glad you you guys have a connection with this OB (I keep thinking about the whole deciding on a caregiver thing many moons ago..). I really hope that Alison can let go and not worry. Even though yeah, the baby's head is not down, nothing bad has happened (I hope that makes sense; I'm saying that very sincerely). The baby still can turn. The chances of something "bad" happening are truly very slim. 42 wks is coming, but she's not there yet. But I'm glad you can be there for her.

And Ferny, you sound great, very calm. I'm thinking of you all the time, too. Did I miss what your birthing plans are? (if you want to share, there's always yg)

Each night, I wonder if there will be a baby or two in the morning. One of these days. Pg never lasts forever (thank goodness!).

[TurboClaudia]

Originally Posted by nuggetsmom

I was on an electron diet but now I am gorging I guess.

My MMF surprise came yesterday, right when I was feeling really low, and it was a great decorated MMF sketchbook with pencils and a ouch to put them in. Totally PURRRFECT!.. Love it. and the MM was TC
Now I will gorge myself on DDR since I am using electrons again...

ooh, yay! i'm so glad you like it. (and it's not an "ouch" to put them in, but a Pouch to put them in, for all those playing the "let me guess what she actually meant to type" game.)

so are all the MMF gifties accounted for now? i know jstar was still a-waitin'...

KK got hers
i got mine
mcsarahb got hers
fiddle got hers

roll call for gifties...

(did whoever get their mexican one from els?)

both boys asleep and bill on crazy stupid late conference call, so i'm going to watch some tivo...

virtual candles:

for lisa & alison's babe...

for fiddle

~c

[Mama Faery]

I am posting quickly because I think Rowan is tearin' it up in the other room! : I just hear him growling and things falling.
(maybe he's being a dinosaur. Who knows?)
Oh, and he's still coughing a bit, but he's pretty much all better.

Thinking of you all. It's a-gonna be a busy morning.

[emmalola]

Ug, it's only 9:15 and I'm already behind. Unstructured days are torture sometimes.

My interview! Was great! It went so so well, and the subject was so gracious and patient with me. She told me all sorts of great new information and she was forthcoming and not guarded and open and and and. I was so excited to have finally finished my first interview. Now just 24 more to go!

Thinking turning, descending, opening like a flower thoughts today. Oh, babies. My own baby turns 10 weeks old today- welcome to the land of the double didgets, little sweet pea! Today? I want a girl. Tomorrow? probably a boy. Oh, creator! give me healthy, that's all I really want.

ranting, raving. time to go swimming! an hour late!

[elsanne]

I think she did get the mexican one from els...didn't ya, mama of ? Tell me you did...it was mailed oh so long ago...

Lisa I have the card you sent along up on a mirror for when I face the day: it says, Surviving is Important, but Thriving is Elegant (maya angelou). Yeeeees. Some days, I truly believe I am thriving. And the passion drops! how fun. The bracelet is truly a fun toy for kids n adults alike, magnets never lose their appeal. It is on the stove at the moment. And the book is great! In all, a very thoughtful, thought-filled gift that seems to me like you really remembered ME and things I've said on this board.

[jstar]

my dsl was out at home this morning and i couldn't handle it because i NEED MORNING BABY UPDATES!!!!!

isaac insisted on underwear this morning. and did a potty at home. so i'm sure his teachers will love me today dh picked him up yesterday and didn't tell me he was out of dipes so i'm actually reallllllllllly hoping he uses the potty and keeps the underwear on since he only has 1 dipe there! wouldn't that be peachy? :

ok. gotta work

[KKmama]

Ack, it's snowing AGAIN. : I know, y'all think that because I live in CO, that this is the way winter is. But NO. This is NOT the way winter normally is (when you don't live up in the mts, where the snow is *supposed* to fall). If the old snow would just go away, I'd be less pissed about the new snow. And it's cold and getting colder (to the "too cold for babies and toddlers to be outside" range). This is not good for my mood. :

I noticed one of my favorite (aromatherapy) candles on a shelf that I haven't lit in a long time, and I'm going to light it and let it burn for a few hours this afternoon, for Ferny and Alison. (I'll save the Fern candle for when someone is actually on her way.)

Have I told you lately how much I like you? :

I was thinking about the May mamas last night and our ongoing fecundity, and it struck me that none of us have had *another* May baby (Megan and I came close, though). No one has had twins, either.

I feel super chatty, because I'm decluttering the office (where the computer is)...

[KKmama]

PS Is someone going to come up with a clever thread title tomorrow? Are our new babies going to be Feb babies?

[orangecanoe]

KK--I think you just have increased the likelihood that I will have twins next May! We are going to start trying August-ish. Fraternal twins run in my side of the family!

Ick, ack, uck on the snow! Come visit me...it's been such a tame winter so far. But I totally kwym on the too cold to play front. My cutoff is usually somewhere around the 35-40mark depending on wind chill.

UNCLE! : Back at the peds AGAIN today for C and her swollen glands. Poor kid can't sleep. She was up until almost midnight last night because her neck hurt. Had to take her to the lab for bloodwork today and she did awesome! She also had the strep test at the peds..."I didn't like that special test at all!" but that was negative. Dr. Google says maybe some variety of cervical adenitis? Depending on how the bloodwork comes back we may go back for a PPD or discuss other tests.

The orthotist came to the house today to measure for her Sure Steps braces for her pronating/low tone issues. She picked the farm animal print of course and was a little miffed that she couldn't get them TODAY!

Mom meets w/ lawyer today...plan is rehab tomorrow?? Will update if this actually does happen.

Thinking of my MMF! and the new little ones arriving so very soon!

[elsanne]

WOW, heath...talk about crying "uncle"...you have stress in spades 'round there. I cannot believe it. I am glad that the ortho. are something that C will enjoy getting! Nice they are so trim. And swollen glands, and mom in rehab maybe!! Holy mackerel. It will certainly cut down on her DUI charges.