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post #41 of 412
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Major to Miss E. Sounds like a banner day for all 3 of you.

T is definitely the most tightly wound of my 3. I think part of that is just the pressure of being the oldest... I think we as parents probably mellow as we get more experience. (Translation: T gets the brunt of his parents figgering out how to parent.) As someone in our playgroup says, "That's another $5 in the therapy jar..."

Meg, I'm gonna cut and paste and forward your bit about your coopy thang to my friends. That sounds really well structured.

Z told me that underwear feel better than a dipe, but that he wanted to put a dipe back on. He definitely doesn't have pooping on the potty together yet (at all), and I think he doesn't want to have to remember to pee on the potty (or have Mama remind him). So this may fizzle. No pressure.
post #42 of 412
i don't think isaac wants to remember either. he's asked to put a diaper on after an underwear accident before. i don't want to put pressure because i can see him being EXACTLY the kind of kid that resists just for the point of resistance. and both times he woke with a dry diaper i asked if he wanted to go pee on the potty and he said no. and then as soon as i put it back on he said 'pee pee is coming out' so i think he really 'gets' it all. but he doesn't want to do it yet. i want him to WANT underwear really. that seems like the best recipie for success anyway

this morning i asked him if anyone in his class was wearing underwear now and he said no. and i said 'you could be the FIRST one to wear underwear to school!' he thought about it. no comment.

i'm glad it was a good day heather. i didn't get a chance to comment over yonder but i too am so impressed with how well you've dealt with all the medical stuff and am really amazed how *dedicated* you are to exclusive pumping. you are one awesome mama :
post #43 of 412
I had a much better birthday night tonight! If only I could get DH off of his video game now! :
Danile, welcome! So glad you found us, jump right in!

So anyway, I had a LLL eval meeting this morning, which was wonderful for me AND Rowan...always good to hang out with a group of mamas IRL who are very like me (parenting-style-wise)...though one of them drives me , I can totally deal.
Then all three of us (me, Rowan, DH) had an appt with our awesome chiro, and then we went to dinner, and DH took Rowan home for bath and jammies while I ran to the music store to use my gift card! It was actually a christmas gift, but I got a couple more CD's and called it a b-day gift too! The first Smiths album (released in 1984! I didn't even know who The Smiths were until I was in high school! ), a Doors album I didn't have on CD (The Soft Parade--makes me all nostalgic in a weird way--I remember a strange afternoon with some friends, listening to Tool and this album. : yeah...) and an AFI single, because I still them, even if sometimes their lead singer annoys me. I had a sexy dream about him last night though! It was weird, in a mexican-soap-opera sort of way.
Oh, and I got the new Depeche Mode album too! I was totally going BACK to high school this evening, man.
We are recomitting ourselves to not spending much money but I did enjoy this musical purchase. Music and books, they're my weaknesses! :

Heather, wow, exclusive pumping! You really are a super mama!
Speaking of super-mamas, Claudia, I hope you had a good day today!
That's all I can think of right now...no wait! We considered buying underwear for Rowan the other day, then decided against it. I am so glad some of you are talking about the potty learning though. We're still not there. I asked him today if he wanted to use the potty (after he told me he was making poopies) and he said "No!" Okay...definitely not pushing it here...but his little potty is gathering dust!

again! And this time before bedtime! Haha! Maybe I'll post tomorrow morning too though. You know you love it.

Have a great night, everymama. Sweet dreams!
post #44 of 412
I don't know how you mommas are able to stay on top of this MDC stuff. I'm always so envious. more of a lurker, but trying...

Welcome, Ducette Mama! I like the name Dominic too. I think you'll find we're a rowdy bunch. And in case you're wondering, MMF means May Moms Forever! Yay!

Heather- I am reminded and inspired by your hard work. Wow- what a mom! Or, WAM. As in, Heather, you're WAM.

Potty: The lentil went through a period of hating to be reminded, hating to be inconvenienced. But now that we're through it, it's a rare day that he has an accident, and it's usually because of some extenuating circumstance. For the most part, we don't have to remind him because he lets us know. Lately he's really gotten into peeing "wild style" which means peeing standing up, outside. We don't dare try the standing thing in the house. uh uh.

Please let # 2 be chill! I'm most worried about the birth and any complications right now, just because we don't have insurance that covers hospital stays. Riding on a wing and a prayer, these days. And the reassurance that we're statistically on the good end of things. eep.

Sarah's Mom- way to go with the multi-quotes. you rock, computer geek!
post #45 of 412
HI everyone, I am back. It has been a busy few weeks with the holidays and all and I am just tired. My BIL got married too so we had to go to that.
My kids were just at each other this morning., I think N is ready to go back to school too. Our TV time is going up these days just because I can't deal anymore. I think in Kindergarten they are so busy from moment to moment (of course the teacher is prepared beforehand!) that it is hard for N to just play free play day in and day out. Plus, she gets frustrated with J who is not playing the same way and not really listening. Plus a number of other things I am sure (she is almost 5 1/2 don't ya know! the half years are just deadly)
There has been a lot of stuff going on her and yonder and I thought I would chime in and say that I was thinking of everyone though I have nothing good to add.
Claudia- it will get easier. I no longer cry most days In fact, I don't cry I yell, and today I was not doing well, but really the prblem was more that we should have gone out and I didn't. And going out with two is now relatively easy. And I for one don't think driving for naps is a waste at all! a thousand moms driving across town to take kids to school is.
Oh, I could rant about that but I won't.
post #46 of 412
BTW how do you make enchiladas if you don't put them in the oven?
post #47 of 412
Even though I posted last night, you cannot escape my morning post! Bwhahahaha!
Anyway. I don't have a lot to say, but why is it so friggin' hard to get moving most days?? Oh, winter. Right. I have grand aspirations to clean the house, get organized, maybe even go to the grocery store (no fresh fruit and very few veggies in the house! but then, here I am in my jammies still, Rowan hasn't even had a morning diaper yet (: I know...he's been so resistant to ANYthing I suggest lately that I sometimes can't even be bothered. I told him after Elmo he HAD to get a dipe. and I don't think I'll get him out of his pajamas all day, even if we DO go somewhere. *sigh* It's easier not to fight. Good thing it's been a mild winter so far.

So I'm wasting time watching AFI videos on YouTube and trying to read email. Haha. I should go fold laundry.

Where's my motivation?? Can i just do NOTHING for a few days??

Have a great day, everyone.

Welcome back, mama of nuggets! We missed you! Dude, I don't even have the "two kids!" reason and mine watches too much TV. *sigh* I am tired of even worrying about it. It's frikkin' PBS, man! It's too cold and/or wet to go out much and lately he hasn't WANTED to go out, and I am so not in the mood to push it...I figure everything will happen in it's own time, even the potty. So whatever.
I'm trying this whole new "laissez-faire" approach to my life, because I just tend to get too stressed and it's pointless. Now to find the fine line of slackerdom and over-stressed...there has to be a middle ground, right??

Rowan also woke us at 4:45 this morning and even though we got him back to sleep till 7:30 or so, I was awake and unable to get back to sleep after that.

That explains my loopiness this morning. I think I'll stop ing your ears (eyes?) off and go take care of that laundry I was talkin' about.
post #48 of 412
Hi guys--Welcome, Ducette mama! Come on in, the water's fine!

Running off to the airport today! Sooo excited, please please think of me sometimes today and wish me luck through the houston airport. I do not have a stroller.

jacqueline--enchiladas are made thusly:

take tortillas, cold, dip them in the enchilada sauce, both sides. Throw it into hot skillet with oil, flip quickly. Pull out after a moment, roll up with stuffin, that's an enchilada. Make four, pour more sauce over them, cut up lettuce, tomato, and sour cream on top. Mmmm. That's a serving.
Glad to see you back, btw!!!
post #49 of 412
Mmm, enchiladas! I had fish tacos last night, actually.
Good luck at the airport Elsanne!
Toddler whining for toast ("NOW PLEASE!!" Even though I JUST put it in the toaster) so gotta go.
post #50 of 412
I was typing a nice reply and then G clicked on something and I can't find it! Oh well.

To sum up, I got mega sick on Monday night, languished on the couch on Tuesday and then talked to my naturopathic docs back in Texas and they have me on a little program to keep me more balanced (using vitamins and homeopathic remedies). So far, I'm feeling okay and just trying to eat high-protein snacks when I get hungry (which is often). I'm at 9 1/2 weeks and with G, the worst was yet to come at this point. So, I'm trying to take it day by day.

Emmalola-sorry you've been sickies, too. Looks like we'll be August Mamas together, too! We will get through this part.

Sherri-I am in awe of your ability to multi-quote! I haven't even figured out how to single quote and I've been on this board for 3 years! Albeit, I'm a lightweight compared to all you sr. members

Well, much more to respond to, as usual, but G needs some attention before he clicks me somewhere I don't want to go!
post #51 of 412
It’s heartsick days for me recently so I’ve been a bit MIA. I have been reading most days and, in my head at least, cheering on all my maymamafriends as it seems a lot of us have had struggles lately.

So, my mom is in the hospital. She has a cold and she stayed in bed for the last three or four days. Well, as you know, my dad is sick enough that he really depends on her to be his nurse and since she was sick he finally called my brother and asked for help. I guess he had been eating whatever was left in the house, which wasn’t much after the holidays, and had run out of food. When my brother went over there he couldn’t get my mom to wake up or stay awake. He called an ambulance and they admitted her. So far the million tests have shown everything to be normal except that her heart rate periodically drops into the 30s (the low end of normal for someone of her age/fitness is 60bpm). So, pacemaker time? Viral infection of the heart? We hope to find out more today.

Of course, I want to but probably won’t fly to Michigan right now. Alison is due in 2.5 weeks.

Final litany of whiney-butt issues: We’re not ready for the baby at all. We’re having a house warming party on Saturday and we just may change it into an unpacking party. I have a cold : : and won’t take time off work because I am saving time for the baby. As it is I will probably take only 1-2 weeks after the birth, because I am going to be the SAHM for May/June and I need all the vacation pay I can get. We are going to England for a obligatory family event in late March, but I want to go to the Midwifery Today conference in mid-March and I just need to accept that I can’t leave Alison that soon after the birth and we can’t afford the cost and vacation time to do both things. Actually, it’s that last one that has me pissed which causes me to feel pathetically self-absorbed, have a panic about what is going on with my mom, obsessively call her room even though no one is answering, and then end the panic by posting this here.

Sorry about the emotional unloading but it has helped to write this.

Hi Nuggets!
Welcome, Ducette Mama!
Easy Flying, Els!



Are we sharing May Mama Gift exchange info yet? I am dying to rave about the gift I was given, but I do want to wait until most people have their gifts – may be we can discuss it at the end of the month?

Love and hugs to everyone. I will get back to more you-focused posts soon, I hope.
post #52 of 412
about the enchiladas. I usually make them in the oven, but don't make them often because I feel they turn out too dry, so now of course I CAN'T WAIT to make them the way Elsanne describes. Funny, you'd think I'd have figured this out already, since the Mexican place we always order from makes them the authentic way and I always order them because they are so moist and delish!

Regarding resistant toddlers, a trick I learned form a friends is setting a timer. This works wonders in our house for transition into a new activity (you know, you one *I* want us to be doing ). I ask her to do something, she replies with "Noooooooooooooooooooooooooo...", I excitedly say, "Okay, not right now, but let's do it in 2 minutes - I'll set the timer." Her usually response is "HO-Kay!" and then when the timer beeps, she cooperatively moves into whatever it is that needs to be done. I was shocked it worked so well the first time (I did it randomly one day out of desperation), but now it's a fave in my Bag O' Mama Tricks.

Too much TV? I have no idea what you all are talking about. We've spend the entire two weeks Mia's been out of school crafting, dancing, singing and creating together. I don't know what's wrong with YOU slackers!

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<-------------------------Anyone notice my DDDDC?

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So whodunnit? Fess up! I feel so loved!!!!

MCSarahB!!!Are you back yet?

Jacqueline and emmalola, major hugs coming atcha for the m/s. No fun at all. I've read it peaks arond 8 weeks, so I'm hoping Jacqueline is through the worst.

Now I'm *totally* hungry for enchiladas. Where's the salivating smilie?

Els-thinking of you and your journeys today. Strength and calmness be yours!

Heather, I don't think I've remembered to offer my support with your sick children. I'm sorry 'bout that. I love your avatar, btw.
post #54 of 412
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Originally Posted by A&L+1 View Post
It’s heartsick days for me recently so I’ve been a bit MIA. I have been reading most days and, in my head at least, cheering on all my maymamafriends as it seems a lot of us have had struggles lately.

So, my mom is in the hospital. She has a cold and she stayed in bed for the last three or four days. Well, as you know, my dad is sick enough that he really depends on her to be his nurse and since she was sick he finally called my brother and asked for help. I guess he had been eating whatever was left in the house, which wasn’t much after the holidays, and had run out of food. When my brother went over there he couldn’t get my mom to wake up or stay awake. He called an ambulance and they admitted her. So far the million tests have shown everything to be normal except that her heart rate periodically drops into the 30s (the low end of normal for someone of her age/fitness is 60bpm). So, pacemaker time? Viral infection of the heart? We hope to find out more today.

Of course, I want to but probably won’t fly to Michigan right now. Alison is due in 2.5 weeks.

Final litany of whiney-butt issues: We’re not ready for the baby at all. We’re having a house warming party on Saturday and we just may change it into an unpacking party. I have a cold : : and won’t take time off work because I am saving time for the baby. As it is I will probably take only 1-2 weeks after the birth, because I am going to be the SAHM for May/June and I need all the vacation pay I can get. We are going to England for a obligatory family event in late March, but I want to go to the Midwifery Today conference in mid-March and I just need to accept that I can’t leave Alison that soon after the birth and we can’t afford the cost and vacation time to do both things. Actually, it’s that last one that has me pissed which causes me to feel pathetically self-absorbed, have a panic about what is going on with my mom, obsessively call her room even though no one is answering, and then end the panic by posting this here.

Sorry about the emotional unloading but it has helped to write this.
Love and hugs to everyone. I will get back to more you-focused posts soon, I hope.
Aw, Lisa, we must've been posting at the same time. You're so stuck between a rock and a hard place. I have nothing but and support for you mama. You and all of your family will be in my thoughts. I can't even imagine the stress and feelings of confliction you're enduring right now. Much strength coming to you, too my friend.

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Too much TV? I have no idea what you all are talking about. We've spend the entire two weeks Mia's been out of school crafting, dancing, singing and creating together. I don't know what's wrong with YOU slackers!

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Yeah, I'm with meg, I cannot recite the lines from Cinderella in my sleep, oh no I cannot! In my defense, we did go out for a walk and color with sidewalk chalk yesterday, so that was a refreshing change of pace.

mamameg I'm glad you're posting more these days! You have so much to contribute! As do all of you!

And lets chat about our gifties ASAP! I'm dying to know what everyone got!
post #55 of 412
here is my morning cuppa post isaac HATES the morning dipe too. i usually have to ease him into that one. WHY anyone would want to sit in a wet dipe is beyond me

good luck elsanne!

i'm glad to hear the lentil has few accidents now. that is awesome.

i was supposed to get up early and get to dh's office to do something before i go to mine. and i basically have to work until 9pm tonight with this public meeting. i've been told they are super pi$$ed off and i am skeeered!!!!!!! (environmental justice issues) thankfully i look pregnant so maybe that will make them be nicer to me!!! ha. probably not.

my biggest fear about being a sahm is that i will languish in laziness and not do anything. i'm not good at setting my own 'schedule' i work an office job and don't even go to work until 9 or 10 because it is too freakin flexible. ie. i am lazy. if i worked at a place that required an 8am showup i'd be there at 8:15 every day. but as is....i just show up when i manage to get there and i feel like a loser. so if i have no set place to be every day i don't know what i am going to do/be like : i am going to have to schedule mucho playdates i know that! just to get me out of the house so i don't turn into some isolated lump of depression. (big fear o mine)

ok time for that diaper wrestling.

just read some new posts below mine. sorry your mom is in the hospital and you can't be there lisa that is so hard!
post #56 of 412
Lisa, we crossposted. I'm so sorry your mom is sick and you have so much else going on. Due in 2.5 weeks! OMG! So soon! I so did NOT feel ready for Jett to come, but you know what? He was born, and we somehow made it. You will, too.

Sherri - I contribute so much!?!?!?! Wow, I feel all warm and glowey inside.

Jacqueline, hope you start feeling better and that the worst is NOT ahead of you, but behind you.

ili hp;pppcx;f/cdlfy <--------- Mia says HI.

Good travels, Els!
post #57 of 412
Hi gals- sorry I've been MIA. Got back Monday night late, crazy day Tuesday unpacking, etc., water heater broke Tuesday night, first day of meetings/organization/loose ends at school yesterday, and today is finally somewhat sane. :

Lisa, I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. Hugs and strength to you. It sounds like your plate is as full as it could possibly get.

TONS more to respond to, but must make a phone call to Maine about a potential summer job. More later!

I want to hear about the prezzies, too! I luuurved mine...so beautiful.

Sarah
post #58 of 412
Crafting with my kids frustrates me since I don't actualy get to do any. I got a cool Illuminated lettering kit and I have yet to use it because as soon as I take out paper and pencils I hear demands for - paint, stickers, crayons, paper and scissors, glue, stamps AAAAAHHHHHHHH. Although I have been experimenting with using my journal to draw and color in while they are busy with their thing. That sort of works out.

I got a playstation for Christmas with a dance dance Revolution setup so I can exersize indoors. Videos annoy me for some reason, but now I have mixed feelings about having a playstation in the house that the kids could potentially get games for etc. Of course I don't get to do DDR if they are around so that is hopelessly frustrating. I need a second TV so they can watch that while I do DDR! LOL!

The TV thing is just on my mind because I have pretty clear limits on how much is enough and now I turn it on so I can get J dressed and then in the afternoon because I am tired of singing and crafting etc. Actually I wonder if they have a kids singalong for the playstation... :LOL
Then I let them watch while I fix dinner. The problem is in the massive whining fit N puts on when I turn it off. J actually is not very zoned out by it. She wanders off after about 10 minutes.

Then for another thing, N wants to go to playdates at other kids houses and some of them have the TV on all the time. I have a no TV on a playdate rule since the point is to play together. If it is a really long playdate, I don't mind if they watch TV at the end. She does that sometimes at one of her friends houses but she will be there for literally 5 hours and they end up being played out at the end. But not the whole time, but I have no idea how to say something to this dad. I guess we can have playdates over here but I actually don't like it that the parents hang out here. I don't want to play! Except with some friends that is, but mostly I don't want to play! I want to think my own though. OH, my time appears to be up.
I will stop ranting now while I think of other short posts to get my post count up.
post #59 of 412
Just wanted to give you BIG s, Lisa. I wish we could do more!

Yeah, I had some awesome prezzies from my secret santa who was....Jacqueline!! Woo hoo!!! I spilled the beans!
I got prettie nail stuff (that sparkly polish RULES--I've used it on my toenails twice already!) and chocolate, and art from sweet G...it was just a wonderful gifty full of pampering nail and chocolate goodies! Thank you thank you thank you! :
Did I mention CHOCOLATE!?

So, what did everyone else get so far??

Oops, more later, Rowan is waking from his nap (TOO EARLY I might add!
post #60 of 412
Hugs to Lisa- this is scary because your dad is also sick and doubly so since you can't go out there. That would put me in a major funk. It sounds like your brother is near so that is something anyway. I wish there was something more I could do, and if you think of something, let me know.
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