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post #81 of 242
Hello, November Mamas! I'm back at MDC after a long haitus... I had to have a lot of therapy for PPD, and my therapist gently suggested that I take a break from Mothering because the contentious and blaming threads really got to me. Now that I'm feeling less vaulnerable, I'm hppy to get back in touch with all of you!

Our family is doing really, really well... Elliot is just starting to walk a few steps on his own, has only two teeth (and those are very recent. The pediatrician was starting to gently suggest dental x-rays to make sure he had teeth before the first one popped up in November) and says a couple of words -- mama, kitty, tree, dada and banana. He's the most enormously social child I've ever seen in my life which is quite the challenge to his very very introverted parents! Nathan and I are doing okay. I'm in school, STILL. I'd hoped to graduate at the end of last summer but handling school with a toddler is a lot more of a challenge than we'd anticipated... we're both limping through and should finish at the end of the semester, as long as we pass everything. After that, we're looking forward to moving home to the Pacific Northwest for a few years while we decide whether we're going to leave the country permanently -- DH has some opportunities we're looking into in New Zealand, so there's a good chance that we'll be there before the end of the decade.

So that's where we're at... I'm really, really looking forward to catching up on what is happening with everyone else's lives and kids, and new pregnancies (Congratulations, Helen!) and everything!
post #82 of 242
Fern: Yes, it's the SNS wool/soy in I think natural earth. It may be called dark earth, though!

Helen: I have found that I rather enjoy ribbing! So far, anyway! And it is Paton's, stocked at JoAnn Fabrics.

Here are a few pics of it now! You can see my knitting needle in the pic of me...I didn't have a button on it yet. Now there are two cool wooden beads as buttons in place of the knitting needle.

pic #1
pic #2
pic #3 (I just like this shot!)

The colors are more true to life in these pics.

DiD...you are not a bad mama! I hope you and baby Winter are settled now!

Spiritmomma: LOVE the poem.
post #83 of 242
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Susannah: So does KaeganRae have some molars? Isa seems to be working on some molars on the bottom.
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Susannah- 12 teeth? Yowch. I believe the soysilk yarn mentioned is made by Paton's and stocked by Joann's, but I have neither of these things so I might be completely wrong.

Yes, 12 teeth. And yes, he has 2 molars. He's got the four top teeth in front, 4 bottom teeth in front, the first molar on both sides on the bottom jaw, one canine on the bottom, and the first molar on (I think the left side) has come in and out a copule of times now. I had NO IDEA that a babe this young could have SO MANY teeth, but it sounds like there are a few more out there in our DDC!

I'll have to check at Joann's for the soysilk yarn. Got a gift card for there from my MIL this holiday season
post #84 of 242
we got our van today!!!!: its so rad!
woohoo..

oh..and our new foster baby is on his way here. born dec 28th..im waiting impatiently to see him..

ill update you with pics soon..
post #85 of 242

Better late than never...

So, I keep reading everyone's posts... So much to catch up on.

An update on my twins.

They are 14 months now. Carrie has been walking since she was 12 months and Andrew is walking more now than last month. He was a serious cruiser.

Carrie has been signing milk milk since 10 months and then 'more' came shortly after that. Andrew doesn't sign back to me yet, but he does understand.

Both kids are babbling and putting words together. I understand some, not all.

We have ECI coming out to work with Andrew. I was concerned because a month ago, he wasn't as far along as Carrie. It used to be that he was the 'quick' one, but around the time Carrie started walking, she took off physically and verbally.

I inititially thought Andrew may be Autistic, but not so sure now. It's a parents worst fear. At least it was for me, because we worked so hard to get the babies here. Anything less than perfect is such a scary thing.

I'm still not sure he's got any real issues, other than a slight delay. Ever since we started the rough housing with him, etc, he's really taken off. He's been walking, babbling, looking me in the eyes, laughing, interacting with me and his sister as well as using his hands in some sort of fashion. So, who knows. Last week, I was in the darkest funk I'd ever been in. I decided that it was best to not analyze every little thing about Andrew. First of all, it is too early. Second of all, I had to give it a chance to work. AND, believe me when I say, the play is working.

Let me add about the 'play'.... Prior to the play, from about 8 months until about 12 months, I was busy setting up my Photography Studio. So, every spare minute I was off setting up the biz. Therefore, I didn't play with the kids. Oh sure, we went out and did stuff, but when we were home, I was in my office and they were in the playroom. Part of me feels very guilty.

What makes all of the above REALLY hard is the fact that Carrie is FLYING through her milestones. I try really hard NOT to compare the two.

Oh well, I'm around, so please be sure to look for me (or send me an email) if I don't realize our thread has moved on.

Great knitting BTW! I forget who posted the pics, but beautiful!!!! thanks!

Amy - I am in AUSTIN until Saturday. Maybe we could get together.

Hugs and happiness to all!

Christy
post #86 of 242
Glad to hear most of you are doing pretty well. And to the mamas who are having a hard time. (Myself being one of them.) Lots of teething, diaper rashes, and upset toddlers around here. Plus I am snowed in.. Oh well. This too shall pass. Just checking in a little.
post #87 of 242
Hugs to Christy.
FWIW, I am astounded by how different my girl is to my boys. In particular, she is far more verbal than they are, and far, far more prepared to sit down and figure out a problem, whereas the boys would leave something they couldn't do and come back to it later. Have you considered sitting down and reading some of the literature on parenting boys? That might help reassure you but to be honest, both twins sound absolutely gorgeous and I want to give them squishy hugs :group It's only going to get worse though- like when he gets to 3 and is the kid running around playgroup playing motorbikes with his best friend while everyone else is sitting, gently singing "twinkle, twinkle little star". Obviously, neither of my boys ever committed this heinous crime but some of this is life with a boy- and not necessarily one with a diagnosis either.
We've just had a very challenging 2 hours. We slept in and didn't get out of bed until quarter past seven, and Isaac was wheezy. Six blasts of inhaler and fifteen minutes later, both boys were downstairs, dressed and making breakfast. Skye was done in ten minutes including booby which left me half an hour to do the packed lunches and get myself dressed. In the end, we were sitting twiddling our thumbs for 20 minutes before we went to the bus stop (it's raining and stormy here) SO- how come when I set the alarm for 6am we always miss the bus and end up late for school?
post #88 of 242
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Hugs to Christy.
FWIW, I am astounded by how different my girl is to my boys. In particular, she is far more verbal than they are, and far, far more prepared to sit down and figure out a problem, whereas the boys would leave something they couldn't do and come back to it later. Have you considered sitting down and reading some of the literature on parenting boys? That might help reassure you but to be honest, both twins sound absolutely gorgeous and I want to give them squishy hugs :group It's only going to get worse though- like when he gets to 3 and is the kid running around playgroup playing motorbikes with his best friend while everyone else is sitting, gently singing "twinkle, twinkle little star". Obviously, neither of my boys ever committed this heinous crime but some of this is life with a boy- and not necessarily one with a diagnosis either.
I appreciate the support... I had to get off the internet about it. I swear I could dx my son with pregnancy if I looked hard enough. I'm just enjoying him and his quirks and I'm REALLy trying to get past the developmental differences between the two of my kids! I'm getting there!

OH, but the best news of all gals is that I'm STILL b/fing. Almost exclusively still - except for snacks. I find that my kids prefer milk to food. I am feeding them a sitdown dinner and then snacks during the day. But, yeah, I'm pretty happy that we've been able to b/f this long. I am still planning to get to 2 years old at a minimum! Can't believe how fast time zooms by!!!!
Christy:
post #89 of 242
Hello everyone,

I am very slowly recovering from surgery. I was totally misled as to how I would feel and how mobile I would be afterwards. "Oh it's just minor, yes you can go back to work the next day, blah de blah". YEAH RIGHT. I feel about as mobile as I did a day after giving birth, and it freakin' HURTS. I have an important meeting at work today but I don't think I can sit that much plus we're snowed in AGAIN (so much for global warming in our part of the world - actually if global warming = generally freaky weather we've got it in spades) and I really don't feel up to driving in this.

I can barely sit on the couch long enough to nurse Rowan. We reverted to nursing lying down last night but it was weird for both of us.

Gotta go, hurty.
post #90 of 242
Spughy - do you mind me asking, what type of surgery did you have?
post #91 of 242
Sarah. I really hope you feel better soon. Was this the- erm, restitching?
post #92 of 242
sarah.. take lots of arnica.

my stepdads cousin died sometime on tuesday night or wednesday.. no one really knows whats going on..all we do know is that he didnt show at home on tuesday and someone found him dead somewhere in downtown vancouver but it doesn't look traffic related.
our families are pretty close and he has a 6 year old daughter that im sure is just freaking out right now, as well as a wife. i feel so sad. we saw them just after christmas and they were all well and happy.. he is a federal prosecutor so there is some thought to whether this was foul play, but no one really knows. we just found out today and everyone is in a panic and totally shocked and upset. he was such a nice man..he held ngaio a lot that night and talked with elwynn in such a nice way. im kind of numb..its horrible.

post #93 of 242
OMG Fern that's awful - to your family, and oh that poor little girl. I always feel sad for little girls losing their daddies. I lost mine when I was 21, I can't imagine how awful it would be at 6.

QofC - it was a scar excision & restiching to fix a tear that didn't heal properly after Rowan's birth. So sort of like having an episiotomy without the birth. Only they carved the bad tissue out.
post #94 of 242
oh sarah, that does sound painful..

death is such an eye opener.. i dont really think about what it would be like if tim died, but now i am and it freaks the hell out of me. what would i do? what would any one of us do if our partner or lover or best friend or mother or father or child died.. i guess because i havn't had anyone really close to me ever pass away i dont know what i would do.. i never want to have to lose someone i love.. but i guess its reality, no matter how much you wish it weren't that way.
post #95 of 242
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was a scar excision & restiching to fix a tear that didn't heal properly after Rowan's birth. So sort of like having an episiotomy without the birth. Only they carved the bad tissue out.
OUCH! I hope you heal quickly.

I hate death. I know it's part of life, but it still sucks! Before the kids, the thought entered my mind that death would come knocking one day, but now, that thought terrifies me.

I am so afraid of what would happen to my kids. A huge eye opener - for sure.

I'm so sorry.

Christy
post #96 of 242
Sarah- I can't imagine! My thoughts are with you and sending you good healing vibes.

Hey all! Enjoying a moment of sanity while DH watches a movie with Dom. : : We are doing a little better today, but not much. It's just hard being cooped up inside. We usually go SOMEWHERE each day and go do something with the kids- so I can see Dominic going stir crazy too. I am having a hard time lately on debating whether or not to focus on the kids until they are in school or go for my RN and Midwifery degree.. (my passion. I already teach Bradley Method Natural Childbirth Classes). So hard to decide.

I woke up this morning and found DH sleeping on the couch. (He works nights) Apparently he came home and thought we were sleeping so soundly that he wouldn't disturb us and try to move the kids around trying to crawl in. I sat down next to him and talked about his work night.. and then out of the blue he says, "I think you are pregnant." (Which he has said everytime I was.) And I said, "A little presumptious since I am only a day late." He says, "Just a feeling.. you have been forgetting to check your temp.. so you could have ovulated later and we should have been more careful." (We were waiting until spring originally.) Then he says, " It's okay.. I've been waiting for you to want to try. And we were going to start trying next month, but I think you already are."

So we will see... just thought I'd let ya'll know whats up in our world.
post #97 of 242
Oh, Fern There isn't an easy way to deal with death. I lost my dad at 21 when I was pregnant with Alex, and it still hurts so much sometimes to think about him and Rowan. The horrible thing is that life still goes on and you have to go through it without them. I'm obsessive about keeping wills and things up to date, though, but what terrifies me is that if anything happens to me then the boys go and live with my ex and my family is destroyed That's one of the reasons why Steve has parental responsibility- not so much because he needs it now, but because that would give him the right to see the boys if I weren't around any more, and so Skye and her brothers would stay in touch.
What helped Isaac a lot when his friend died last summer was drawing: he got through hundreds and thousands of sheets of paper, grieving through art. There's a lot of good resources out there from the hospice movement about talking to children about death as well.
Danile When are you going to test?
Spughy, I hope you're healing well.
post #98 of 242
Does anyone have any tips on how to make moving easier on Joseph? Late this afternoon after getting off work early dh will be picking up the keys to our duplex. We might be getting some things moved in yet tonight. This is going to be a huge change for Joseph. All his life he has lived in a hotel room. He has always been within sight of me and Annette both. I know Annette is looking forward to having her own room she can run off to and get away from little baby hands grabbing her toys. I'm not so sure how this is going to go for Joseph though. Hopefully having more room to play in and a nice big yard to go outside and play in will help ease things. We also have more toys that are going to be coming out of storage for them to play with so that will be a nice distraction.
post #99 of 242
Ugh, sick and exhausted here, plus fussy teething baby : :

Christy- nice to see you again, and hear how the twins are doing! I remember the time before they were born, and about their birth so well. Seems like it was just yesterday! Ummmm- both your twins are lightyears ahead of my full term singleton- he's not doing anything you're saying your 'slow' child is doing! Early Intervention has been terrific for my 4 yo- he's been in it since he was 18 mos. At least they will give you peace of mind, and give you some suggestions of how to interact w. your kids to help their development. We really enjoyed the home visits- the therapy is kind of basic, you could probably figure it out for yourself, but it's nice for them to have another grownup to 'play' with! OH, and I definitely think there is a LOT of truth to the boy-girl thing. All of my son's preschool classes (special ed) have been boys, sometimes there might be 1 or 2 girls, and his teacher says the ratio is always that way- hardly any girls in the classes, and more boys need extra help and get a slow start than girls.

I think it's SOOOOOOOOoo awesome that you're still nursing them! After all you went through in the beginning! You stuck with it, and it sounds like they are thriving! Way to go, mama

Fern- I'm so sorry

DiD- what an awful day. I'm so sorry- it sounds like the people were helpful afterwards; that's nice anyway. I can't tell you how many times I just want to sit down and cry like that!

Sarah- hope you heal VERY quickly and are better than new soon!

Danile- let us know! : What an intuitive husband!

Kristina- I'm so happy for you that you're moving! I think Joseph will be thrilled with his new space! I can't think of anything off the top of my head, except what you'd already do probably- not make his world too huge to begin with- keep him close to you when sleeping and playing and let him explore the house and expand his living space at his own pace.
post #100 of 242
Mary, I hope you feel better soon.
Kristina, I think the best option is to just grit your teeth and go with it. We moved once when Alex was 15 months or so old, and then again when he was 3 and Isaac had just turned 1, and the kids coped really well. We had a few broken nights (that is, more broken than usual), put lavender on their pillow and kept the rescue remedy on hand, but they were absolutely brilliant. Plus, you really are moving "to" something rather than "away from" so it should be even easier.
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