But, not yelling and spanking are things that could freak people out--really scar young children. So that's more of a protection issue, to me.
These are different parenting philosophies. Just b/c you think your way is better doesn't make it ok to impose it on someone else.
Prohibiting people from hitting each other in my house just doesn't strike me the same as someone interfering in what another person feeds their kids.
I just think there is a level of arrogance with MSIL that is totally galling when it comes to parenting issues.
I have a close family member whose 4 y.o. watches movies on a portable DVD player at restaurants but this same 4 y.o. will never watch movies at the dinner table at my house. To me that is unacceptable and it *is* my house. Of course, that might be part of the reason that they don't come to visit which was certainly CSIL's perogative.