Originally Posted by annettemarie
Sadly, Nicholas was the most upset about the TV. He kept asking if it was time for Bob the Builder yet.
This could have been written by me! Though my little guy asks about Curious George & SpongeBob (which Dad loves).
Mimiharshe, thanks for bringing up the TV issue. Our family has had a dubious relationship with TV over the years. I was a total TV addict
as a child and knew from the beginning that I didn't want for my kids to watch much. My husband feels like we should strike a balance, but that is very hard - having done both I would say balancing is much harder than cutting it off completely
. When you just get rid of the thing they fuss for a couple of days, but then it is out of sight out of mind.
My mother is very against our TV restrictions, always undermining
to the point that when we had no TV, she complained that the kids would just walk into her house, hug her, and then she wouldn't see them for hours...but it was kinda her own fault as that was one overused enticement, 'Come to Grammy's and I'll let you watch TV.'
But seriously, after my eldest passed the 9-year change, I felt that some TV was in order. He is not allowed video games and I didn't want him to resent us
- he needed to be able to connect with the other kids. We pulled it out and watched a show 3 times a week. Plus, my husband really got "over" the TV restrictions for HIM, so he has it on a couple of hours a day on weekends. Still, I was chagrined when one day he stayed home after lunch to meet the cable guy! (We only received 3 broadcast stations.)
Now the kids each get a show every other day
and can watch with Dad on the weekends if it is G-rated. (It usually is.) We usually go out to movies once or twice a month, but occasionally do a video at home instead if there's nothing appropriate at the theater.
The kids each also get computer time
every other day (on no-TV days), and I don't mind that as much. My 11 yr old plays a lot of Harry Potter and racing PC games, plus he's into Wikipedia, helping monitor there, and writes minor programs and a website (he loves techno-stuff)...and my little one loves Zoo Tycoon and baseball games. Since little ones have no conception of actual time, I can easily give the little guy 30 minutes and his elder brother an hour.
The balancing is terribly hard to manage, but it works normally for us. Over the holidays
, however, it seemed like the Grinch or Frosty or Polar Express was always coming on and DH & I just couldn't turn them down. SO now we're having to bring them down off of all of that extra time...thus yesterday it was, "Mom, can't I watch the Science channel?" and I had to say no, until the show on parallel universes comes on, when I'll be watching with him for school.
Still, when they were small, the house seemed much more peaceful without a TV at all.
who thinks confessionals are important because they make this all more do-able to newbies, thanks!