I was personally confused when I joined, and felt excluded from some kind of club. I eventually was frosted and toasted, but because of those previous feelings didn't write it in my siggie. When I became increasingly "popular" I got more and more frosts and toasts, so I've put a little message in my siggie asking not to be toasted or frosted. I think it's nice to get frosted or toasted, I just don't like the exclusivity of it, nor the confusion that newcomers experience.