I'm trying to figure out if my dd's current behavior has to do with developmental emotional maturity, or just personality, or what. I work 3 days/week and she's in a pre-K/4's program those days (she's the youngest in her class right now). Her bday is 9/2 and our kindergarten cut-off is 12/01, so she'd go in the fall unless i hold her back. She's very bright and I'm not worried about that part. But there are some social issues I worry about. She tends to seem, to me, kind of anxious/excitable/intense in social situations with her peers. She will get very worked up about making sure she and her playmate agree on things, play in a certain way, etc. Sometimes she doesn't even care what they are playing, so long as it's together and nobody "changes the rules." Sometimes she tries so hard to organize the games. Often, once something gets going, the introduction of a new person who wants to play sends her into a tailspin "NO! you don't know how!" etc, leading to exclusivity and sad kids. She just doesn't seem, well, relaxed and confident in these settings.
So I'm wondering if this is something she will grow out of? Something I can help with? An indicator that she'd do well with an extra year of growth before KG? Though she's very bright and "academically" ready. Or would it be worse if she were one of the older kids, getting "bossy" and exclusive? I am just so torn about this. I cherish her and want to see her thrive and be the best little person she can....
So I'm wondering if this is something she will grow out of? Something I can help with? An indicator that she'd do well with an extra year of growth before KG? Though she's very bright and "academically" ready. Or would it be worse if she were one of the older kids, getting "bossy" and exclusive? I am just so torn about this. I cherish her and want to see her thrive and be the best little person she can....
