My brother and I are 6 years apart and I think looking back how ideal that was and still is.
As kids we never fought over toys or anything b/c my things were baby stuff to him. He has always been very protective of me. And my mom had the time to baby us both as long as we needed.
Now -- we're fabulous friends. I mean I think he's crazy and all, and we're very different. But we talk ALL the time and really support one another. I always think about how he is there for me if I needed ANYTHING... even though we live half away across the country from one another.
He has been very fatherly with me (sometimes good, sometimes bad
And always has support and advice on the ready.
We have one son and I told DH is he wants another he'd have to wait 4-5-6 years. I agree about letting the first one have the time to wean and grow up at his own pace and giving me time too.
Nice to hear all of these stories. It's a refreshing change from the frazzled calls for help often seen in the toddler forum with those how have 2 under 3 years old. I read those and it makes me want to get my tubes tied.