Originally Posted by Kundalini-Mama
Well I don't feel comfortable visiting this forum because I nightwean..and I know I am not alone. Having to read post after post about how much more CLW certain mamas are because they don't, gasp, nightwean, is a bit too much. You can easily search "nightwean" in this forum and you will see what I mean.
But thanks mama
This is exactly why I don't visit this board.
I truly believe you can be clw and set boundries. I can't imagine might weaning a young nurser, but I am pregnant, and tandeming my 2 and 4 yr olds. My four yr old was waking NUMEROUS times in the night(I was up more than 10 times a night between the two of them), more than my 2 yr old, and I have very little milk, so not only was I in pain, I couldn't sleep, and I was not able to function on the 20-30 bits here and there I was getting all night. I had a very good talk with ds and explained th situation(pain for mommy, being too tired, etc), and I let him know that I love nursing him, and don't want to stop, but that I need a little break at night while we are sleeping.
The first couple of nights he wanted to nurse, was not distressed at all, he nursed once each night to the count of ten, and laid back down and slept. This is the first time in his life he has slept through the night more than once every 2 weeks. His behavior has been better during the day(I think he was not getting enough sleep either), and I still nurse him if he really needs to(gets upset at all or doesn't go back to sleep easily).
I did try to night wean him around 3.5 but he was obviously not ready. He obviously is now...I believe clw is listening to your child,and their cues, and coming to an agreement that works for everyone(I am a person too, and I need my children to know that I have needs, and feelings also.). I actully think him wakign so often was bad for him too...
Anyway...good thread, I just wish this forum were more open.