Originally Posted by pookel
I don't mean to take away from this thread's original message, but I would like to see more support and validation in the natural birthing community for women whose labors are excruciatingly painful and difficult despite their preparation and best efforts. I get depressed when I see so many threads saying things like "labor is easy and natural!" and "it doesn't hurt that much!" because reading that kind of thing over and over left me unprepared for what I actually experienced.
Mama, my labors were easy, but I GET you 100%. How? For me, BFing, especially my 2nd DD, seemed anything but easy and natural. I had BF my 1st for over 2 years-- I was experienced. But my 2nd refused to nurse longer than a minute, suffered from no weight gain, and I had a very difficult time with it all. It was like a nightmare. 3 lactation consultants, about $1000 later (IBLC fees, supplies, etc.), and countless hours of research, she learned to nurse. That didn't exactly feel "natural and easy" to me.
Let me tell you, that experience left me with a whole new outlook about everything-- to not be so flip about so-called "natural" things. Nature does NOT work perfectly. It does in the larger sense (survival of the fittest) but that doesn't mean it works perfectly for us as individuals. As per the OP's example, some people actually DO have issues with sex and pooping. Does that make them inferior?
I think it is very, very dangerous to look at any issue in black and white terms. While many people into NP and AP are horrified when judged by the "mainstream," some of them feel it is OK to judge others. I don't get it.
Re: did I find it painful? At a certain point, yes, I wanted to die. Thankfully, that was a brief period for me, right before I had to push. I experienced gallbladder attacks that were just the same, though (so, men CAN feel what it is like to be in labor if they have them!) and I didn't have any pain medication . . .so I figured if I could do it without getting a baby at the end, it would be OK.