Blarg, I just wanted to say that I do understand your anger toward your mom all too well.
While I always considered to be a pretty girl, I have always been embarrassed about my teeth—they are yellow (very yellow even though I have always been brushing them like crazy). And my mom always used to say that instead of taking her beautiful white teeth I took my father's yellow (very “nice” of her…like I had a choice
: ). And my father was smoking all his life since he was a kid, so most likely this was the reason for his teeth being yellow, not a genetic. But I did buy this “dad’s teeth bs” and I never even thought to question it.
Anyway, just about a week ago my dh and I were reading a book “How to raise a healthy child in spite of your doctor” and guess what I have learned! One of the side affects of antibiotic called tetracycline is making teeth permanently yellow
! I was so mad
My mom was a nurse (actually, more than a nurse; there is no such thing here, but in Russia where I’m from there is a profession which is sort of more than a nurse but less than a doctor) and she would start a full course of tetracycline every time I’d get sick (or pretend to be sick to not go to school like many kids did). When I learned the true reason of my teeth being so yellow I was so unbelievably angry with my mom! I understand that she just didn’t know any better, that this is just what they learned in medical school and what doctors prescribed back then, but it still doesn’t make me feel any less angry with her! She said that back then they believed that antibiotics need to be given to prevent the complications from colds, flues, etc. (such as ear infection). But knowing my logic and the way I think, I’m sure that if I were her, even if doctors did prescribe it to kids and there was no such a thing as internet to seek for the info, I’d still use my logic and common sense. I’m sure I’d think “Ok, so if complications can be treated by antibiotics, then I’ll just do that if complications do arise, but not just in case”. Why in the world she
didn't have enough of brain to think that way?!
My point is that there is always a way to think, to use your own brain to question things that don’t seem to make sense even if this is the way everyone around does it. However, it’s definitely always easier to do what doctor says as doing something different puts a lot of responsibilities on parents…
Sorry, just had to vent. As I said I found out that I wasn’t born with yellow teeth and that it was my mom who has done it to me just about a week ago, so I’m still pretty emotional about this whole thing…
PS. By the way, the book says “If a doctor prescribed tetracycline to a child under 7y.o. leave the office immediately!” Evidently, this is a horrible antibiotic to give to a kid, it has alot of very serious side affects and I was getting TONS of it…thanks mom…