*pouts* In need of understanding

[copykitten]

I know I don't post here often, but I do read everyday and keep up with everyone in our due date club. I am just really in need of women who understand how I feel right now and I know all of you would.

Earlier today, I was talking to a friend about pregnancy and so forth and she keeps saying the baby will be coming this weekend. I'm not due till the end of the month, so it could be almost another 5 weeks till she gets here. Another co-worker happened to walk by and told me "Wow, if you are pregnant any longer you will need a tow motor to carry you around. Although, if we can't find one of those, we could always just push you with one of the tv carts, if you don't break it." I simply couldn't believe what she had said. I just kinda put my head down and pouted. She didn't say anything else, just walked away.

AND THEN....

This same co-worker came to me and my husband's desk this afternoon to share some homemade relish with my husband. And then she goes to hand the cup to me and she pulls it back and says, "It's not ice cream... you won't want it." And walks away.

Two comments like that in one day. I'm hurt. My husband tried validating it by saying that I do have a shirt that I like to wear that says I Love Pickles and Ice Cream, BUT I'm not wearing that shirt today (and relish is similar to pickles).

I should have called off sick today....

[bleumoose]

Ouch. I'm sorry you got those comments, worse that it was 2 in one day from the same person! :-/ Does she usually joke like that or is this out of character? Maybe she just got a negative pg test or something and is feeling bitter ....

[copykitten]

She is older and she has mentioned before that she was never able to have children and she is normally a bitter, speaking before she thinks kinda of person, but still.... Saying things like that to someone who isn't 37 weeks pregnant would be offensive. I am an extremely sensitive person to begin with, but at 37 weeks pregnant that just made me want to break down crying right then. I guess I should just expect it from her. It's just been a rough week.

[swtpesq]

Jeesh, the nerve! :

I'm sorry mama... It does sound like she is just bitter and maybe a tad jealous. And I would tell her what to do with her relish next time she comes around!

[JJ'sMom]

Man, I feel for you.

My first thought was....Its too bad you are so jealous that you cannot even be civil. I love how my body can do this!

But I think its the hormones raging again.

[OldFashionedGirl]

It never ceases to amaze me just how rude people are when you're pregnant. I swear most of them would be happiest if you had the baby at 6 or 7 mos...b/c that's about the time people started saying to me, "Haven't you had that kid, yet!?"

Sorry people are being so nasty to you. I'm sending you strength to be nasty right back to them

[copykitten]

Thanks everyone.
I really wish I could come up with replies when people say stuff. What she said was just the worst of what I have heard recently. I only work 3 days a week and I haven't come to work one day where someone hasn't said "You're STILL here?!?" I really wish I had told people I wasn't due till February.

[OldFashionedGirl]

Originally Posted by copykitten

I really wish I had told people I wasn't due till February.

I thought that, too, but then people would REALLY think that I was huge . I already have people who SWEAR I'm going to go into labor any moment b/c I'm "so huge!" And I'm not sure how many more, "You're SO big!" comments I can handle. (One of these days I'm going to feel really snarky and say, "Yeah, but I'm pregnant. What's your excuse?")

[sunshinesmommy]

I feel so bad for you
Mean People Suck!
Ok a long time ago I took an extra part time job to save for our wedding, and it was great until this woman who was sick/quit when I was hired came back and seemed to just get her jollys from being hurtful. I left the office every day in tears! I would get to the parking garage and see a car with a "mean People Suck" bumper sticker and it would make me laugh.
Finally I told the boss I couldn't take her abuse and a part time thing wasn't worth all that hurt, he understood, so on my last day working there when she left for lunch (I went home for the day as soon as she returned from lunch) I changed her screen saver to say Mean People Suck, than I printed 30-40 copys of that phrase written huge to take up the whole sheet of paper and just filed them. Everywhere. In open job folders, closed jobs, in with financial records, payables , recievables, and in the files in her desk! I figured it didn't hurt anyone and she would be coming across them when she least expected for months.
The best part is almost a year later a woman calls me who was quitting my old position because of her and said they have been through so many people B/C of her and she wanted to let me know the notes were still around. If anyone came across them they never threw them out or called attention to it they just left it for her to find and when she did she would blow a gasket!
I thought that was great
Sweet revenge!

[copykitten]

That is AWESOME! What a great prank. Thank you for the laugh!

[jilly]

That is SO funny -- brilliant.

One of my dear friends always reminds me that when someone makes comments like that, it is "their stuff" not "your stuff" that is feeding their nastiness. And dh always reminds me to consider the source.

ITs still a hard time to not get upset about everything at this point, itsn't it? Hange in there, you'll soon be done being pregnant and then you'll have a few weeks away from her.