I have to give snaps to the restaurant chain "Red Robin" I have had 2 instances eating there where I have been approached about my breastfeeding. The first time I was verbally assaulted by another customer who was offended by Jacob having his dinner with us as a family. She called me rude, disgusting and *thanked* me for giving her 17 yo son a "show" at dinner. The manager intervened, apologized to me and my family and escorted HER out! Yay Red Robin!
The second just happened while I was on vacation. We took my sister and her three kids out to dinner. Once again, someone was offended that Jacob was having *dinner* with us..so they mentioned it to their waitress. She came over very sweetly and put her arm around my shoulder and said "sweetie" I cut her off and said "I have a feeling I know what you here to tell me and I just wanted to let you know that I am within my rights to feed my son at the dinner table with my family!" She said she *understood* but wanted me to cover up. I told her that I didn't have anything to "cover up" with and that I would continue to be as discreet as my son would allow me to. She walked away. Within seconds my sister noticed we were being seriously WATCHED. The manager was standing a few feet away *STARING AT US and everything we did* It was horribly uncomfortable. I have a *snacking* nurser so when he indicated he wanted to nurse...I nursed him...while the manager was watching. He immediatly come over. He told me I needed to cover up. I told him I had nothing to cover up with. He asked me to go nurse in the restroom. I asked him if someone was eating sloppily and it was gross to see and hear if he would ask them to do the same thing. I think that someone eating that way is offensive. He just looked at me. He asked me if I would stop nursing my son or he would ask me to leave. I told him I had the right to nurse my son and gave him the number of the Virginia state code that said that I was exempt from public indecency and that i had the right to nurse my son. I then explained that I knew my rights and that I intended to have them upheld. He walked away and said "i'll be back" He went and said something to the table I offended and then he went back to the kitchen. I never heard from him again! Yay!! My DF..God I love him...decided to give the people we offended a dessert. He ordered a Mile High MudSlide (Ice Cream Cake) for them. Their waitress came and said "That was amazing of you guys!" Our waitress said we were amazing and signed our bill "more power to you guys!" Then after they polished off the mudslide DF told my nephew and nieces that since we bought one for them we should have one too! So we enjoyed a mudslide as well!
When our bill came the manager had comped both desserts. So uneducated...maybe...but still did the right thing.
DF and I have decided that we are going to make Lactucation cards to give to managers when we go to restaurants. It has a brief letter with the CA civil code on it. I express my intent to BF at the restuarant and ask for their support in upholding my rights. We are thinking of making them for all states and selling them!
So Yay to Red Robin for doing the right think TWICE!
The second just happened while I was on vacation. We took my sister and her three kids out to dinner. Once again, someone was offended that Jacob was having *dinner* with us..so they mentioned it to their waitress. She came over very sweetly and put her arm around my shoulder and said "sweetie" I cut her off and said "I have a feeling I know what you here to tell me and I just wanted to let you know that I am within my rights to feed my son at the dinner table with my family!" She said she *understood* but wanted me to cover up. I told her that I didn't have anything to "cover up" with and that I would continue to be as discreet as my son would allow me to. She walked away. Within seconds my sister noticed we were being seriously WATCHED. The manager was standing a few feet away *STARING AT US and everything we did* It was horribly uncomfortable. I have a *snacking* nurser so when he indicated he wanted to nurse...I nursed him...while the manager was watching. He immediatly come over. He told me I needed to cover up. I told him I had nothing to cover up with. He asked me to go nurse in the restroom. I asked him if someone was eating sloppily and it was gross to see and hear if he would ask them to do the same thing. I think that someone eating that way is offensive. He just looked at me. He asked me if I would stop nursing my son or he would ask me to leave. I told him I had the right to nurse my son and gave him the number of the Virginia state code that said that I was exempt from public indecency and that i had the right to nurse my son. I then explained that I knew my rights and that I intended to have them upheld. He walked away and said "i'll be back" He went and said something to the table I offended and then he went back to the kitchen. I never heard from him again! Yay!! My DF..God I love him...decided to give the people we offended a dessert. He ordered a Mile High MudSlide (Ice Cream Cake) for them. Their waitress came and said "That was amazing of you guys!" Our waitress said we were amazing and signed our bill "more power to you guys!" Then after they polished off the mudslide DF told my nephew and nieces that since we bought one for them we should have one too! So we enjoyed a mudslide as well!
When our bill came the manager had comped both desserts. So uneducated...maybe...but still did the right thing.
DF and I have decided that we are going to make Lactucation cards to give to managers when we go to restaurants. It has a brief letter with the CA civil code on it. I express my intent to BF at the restuarant and ask for their support in upholding my rights. We are thinking of making them for all states and selling them!
So Yay to Red Robin for doing the right think TWICE!
