Today is my dad's birthday...

[elvishlucky]

He would have been 52, but he passed away in his sleep on September 5th of a heart attack. It was very unexpected, and has been hard for my siblings, my mom and myself.

to everyone who's experienced such a profound loss...

[orangefoot]

to you mama. It's so hard to not have anyone to send a card to or call to let them know you love them on their special day, I know.

[oliversmum2000]

[elvishlucky]

Thanks, mamas. I did call his business number as I usually would have- it's not disconnected yet, so it just rang and rang. I told the rings, "Happy Birthday."

[number572]

I thought about pm'ing this b'c it's kind of private... but i'll put it here, in case there are others who need this kind of hug.
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Elvish, I'm sorry for the loss of your dad. I know how that is, my dad passed to the other side when I was 15. (18 yrs ago this january 14th)

A dream that I just had last night, may help you believe that the connections never disappear, just get rearranged a bit (maybe you already believe this)


So, last night I had a dream where I had bought two watches & was wearing them to decide which I liked better... when my celphone rang. The face said "incoming call from DAD". In my dream he was still living, so that part wasn't weird. Anyway he was asking me what I wanted for my birthday b'c he'd been thinking to get me a watch... & I told him that I have two & I don't think it'll be something I'll end up wearing anyway... but what would be very nice would be having dinner with my sis & me & I used the phrase "give the gift of TIME, Dad!!" & then we both laughed b'c the phrase is so common, & he'd contemplated a watch, etc... little joke for us.

So, right after we hung up in my dream, I woke up, still laughing. I automatically looked at the time on my celphone, which I don't usually do upon waking, but it felt late. The time said 8:19. That was his birthday, august 19th.

I also had that radio song in my head that contain the lyrics "looking at you thru the glass, don't know how much time has passed, but it feels like forever..."


I wasn't freaked out at all... & woke up feeling a nice warm sense of peace... I know we communicated love for each other last night.

[number572]

oh wow, i just noticed that the time of my post is 7:07... which is ur due date. life's little gems, aren't they cool!

[mamaley]

[elvishlucky]

That's really cool 572; thanks for sharing that with us.

I've dreamed about my dad, of course. But one really stands out in my mind - I was really worried about my sister at the time (the youngest, so his baby girl). It was like he was talking to me. He reminded me that he was her age when his dad died (21 - it was a few months before I was born) and it was hard, but he was okay. I woke up full of peace and knowing that she would be okay as well. They're a lot alike.

Of course I've shared the dream with everyone close to me, but it's so hard to express just how real something feels in a dream. Was profound for me, though

[sleepnrain]

So sorry for your loss

[mommykangaroo]

to you elvish. this is the first time i've had the courage to come to this forum. i wish i knew what to say, but i also lost my dad at the age of 61 just after christmas. this year of firsts is going to be difficult- i noticed that you're also expecting- i'm due in august. i just wanted to let you know that there's understanding and support out there.

[gingerstar]

elvish, I am here mourning my dad, too. He died Oct 4 06, only 61, and we are still numb. Wish I had some words of wisdom, but I guess I will just say you are not alone.

[becoming]

I'm very sorry for your loss.

[polka123]

Crystal,
much love & (((( HUGS ))) to you for your loss.
Losing a parent is really tough.
My father dies in 2000 @ 63 YO - he was ill but not fatally ill. His death was a accident.

I feel for your loss & ~~~ vibes & prayers ~~~ out to you & your family

[Tracy]

hugs.

he was too young...but you know that.

hugs

[elvishlucky]

Thanks, mamas!

[amyb15]

We are here with you

[mamamelia]

big to you mama... i just lost my dad too.