Originally Posted by Finch
I say it all the time, and I'll say it again, having a special needs child has made me much much MUCH less judgemental. It's easy to say "why don't you just..." when you've never walked in that person's shoes. A lesson I had to learn the hard way.
Very very true. I can think back to when I was pregnant with Owen or when he was a baby saying I would never do XYZ and how bad XYZ was. Now.... haha.... boy, if I knew then what I know why I'd have shut my mouth
One thing that really stands out is the use of "harnesses". I used to swear up and down those things were evil and, ya know, what kind of parent can't keep track of their child? And then my son got older and I got a bit wiser (and kicked myself in the a$$ for having talked down about those lifesavers).
You will now find me defending the use of them all over this board
Originally Posted by shelbean91
There is stuff I do b/c of my son's autism that I would never do otherwise. But, I do what's best for my SON, not for the random faceless people in cyberspace. Maybe I've got a tough skin, I don't know. If you know you're doing what's best for your family- screw it if someone tells you you're garbage. YOU KNOW YOU'RE NOT!! WE know you're not. THEY don't know what you live through and most of us wouldn't wish our bad days on anyone, but they also don't know the joys of our good days.
AP isn't about a checklist of what you must or must not do, it's about being an attached, in tune PARENT for your child and that's what we're all doing.
Hang in there and don't let a few bad apples spoil the bunch~
Ditto this whole post. If most other MDC mamas were to peek into my day there's a good chance they would be horrified by what they saw. Just because they don't understand what it's like to live in my shoes. Take for example- getting ready to leave the house. Yeah, MDC moms say all the time to give plenty of warning, let the child choose what to wear, let the child help get dressed, blah blah blah. But none of that actually WORKS for Owen. What does work is gathering everything I'm going to need, holding him down and wrestling with him while dressing him. By the end he's screaming, I'm worn out and on the verge of tears, but he's dressed. Success! Repeat in 12 hours when it's time for bed
I think a lot of people get into the mindset that it worked for them so surely it will work for everyone.