CNN on Chinese adoption - Page 2

[Blue Dragonfly]

not a member of this board, but after reading some of the quotes you posted, I have to let you know I now need to dig my eyeballs out of the back of my head, where they rolled back while I was reading!

Freaking un-real!

[blessed]

Did everyone get an email that Paula Zahn's show will revisit the topic tonight with some more appropriate guest commentators?

[crl]

Originally Posted by vermonttaylors

There are many, many reasons people adopt from China, but that isn't one of them. I listed some of the real reasons in my e-mail (streamlined program, guaranteed girl, relatively inexpensive, 1 short trip, etc. etc.) and they are all valid and good reasons for making a very personal choice!l

I just had to respond. There is no guarantee of a girl from China. Statistics are definitely in favor of a girl. However, we have a wonderful son from China. He was adopted from the NSN program and we did not make a request as to gender. On the Adoptive Parents China (APC) Yahoo group there are reports of people who requested a girl being referred a boy.

[vermonttaylors]

Ok, but you have to admit that boys, outside the special needs program, are rare, and that statistics show that MOST (as in 80 %) of adoptive parents want girls, and that MOST of the kids available for adoption in China are girls, therefore it is a natural fit for MANY people.

I do know of one or 2 families who have adopted boys outside the special needs program, but it is very rare, to my understanding.

I should have mentioned the boys in the SN program in my OP but I was feeling lazy.:

[w8ing4myDD]

well shoot, I missed the show! I read the transcript, and David from FCC was great! Paula does not seem to have learned anything, though! She and the people from the other night defended themselves, of course! I guess this is something that will just keep happening....

[Tigeresse]

Originally Posted by w8ing4myDD

well shoot, I missed the show! I read the transcript, and David from FCC was great! Paula does not seem to have learned anything, though! She and the people from the other night defended themselves, of course! I guess this is something that will just keep happening....

I agree, the opening segments were great, but the panelist (Mr. Martin) who made the remarks the 1st night was still insisting that adoption choices still are soley based on race and that the process doesn't play a role. Long term implications of raising a child of another race were never mentioned. It just goes to show that people like Mr. Martin need to research adoption, it's processes and implications before spouting off like that.

[crl]

[QUOTE=vermonttaylors;6964907]Ok, but you have to admit that boys, outside the special needs program, are rare,

I did admit it in my post. But that's not the same as a guarantee. And I get just a little touchy since DS was not in the sn program and everyone assumes he was sn or that he's Korean. And because when I announced his referral on APC I got some e-mails from people that made it clear they would have been really upset and would have considered rejecting the referral--rejecting my beautiful boy. :

[Monie]

Catherine. The mindset of some of the people on APC astounds me. I hardly ever read there anymore.

[crl]

Thanks for the kind words.

[vermonttaylors]

Originally Posted by crl

And because when I announced his referral on APC I got some e-mails from people that made it clear they would have been really upset and would have considered rejecting the referral--rejecting my beautiful boy. :

Yeah, I would be offended at that to! People say crazy things and I have had some amazingly hurtful things said to me too on tha Kazakh boards. I didn't mean to offend you.: I actually don't have a problem with people having gender preferances because everybody's family dynamics is their own business and not for me to judge. I loooooove being the mother of a son (soon to be sons ), but if someone has their heart set on a girl, who am I to question that?