Matt Lauer appreciates breastfeeding...

[Sarah102383]

At least he realizes he has the easier end of the deal!

Today show co-host Matt Lauer, 48, chatted with People magazine about his home life. He and wife Annette Roque have three children - Jack, 5 1/2, Romy, 3, and Thijs, 6 weeks. Here are the highlights:

- Matt explains why he looks so well-rested - he doesn't have to get up in the middle of the night to feed the baby! "I'm not breast-feeding – my wife is. That makes it a little easier on me."

http://www.celebrity-babies.com/2007...show_coho.html

[lissabob]

Someone should mention how he should still get up to help with dipes and mommy support.

[intorainbowz]

and not cheat on his wife.... oops, snark.

[hunnybumm]

Originally Posted by intorainbowz

and not cheat on his wife.... oops, snark.

IMHO I would much rather my DH just stay asleep and let me deal with all the nighttime stuff. It was a lot easier for me to sit up, grab a diaper and change DS, then feed him, all while not getting out of bed (kept diapers and wipes on the nightstand). If DH gets a 'good' nights sleep, he is much more receptive to take care of DS#1 while I slept with DS#2, rather than trying to get a nap himself. Not to mention I would have had to wake up DH to have him change diapers, he is a really heavy sleeper.

I think it's awesome that he even mentioned BFing at all. He could have just said that his wife deals with all that stuff, or something vague like that.

[ThreeBeans]

That doesn't make him supportive of breastfeeding. It just makes him non-supportive of his wife :

When my two were newborns, DH got up with me every time (before we perfected side-lying in the dark nursing), to adjust pillows, bring me water, bring me tylenol for those wicked afterpains, etc.

[witchbaby]

Originally Posted by ThreeBeans

That doesn't make him supportive of breastfeeding. It just makes him non-supportive of his wife :

When my two were newborns, DH got up with me every time (before we perfected side-lying in the dark nursing), to adjust pillows, bring me water, bring me tylenol for those wicked afterpains, etc.

so my husband is non-supportive because he sleeps when i nurse in the night. that's ridiculous. i have rarely felt a need to wake him, honestly. that doesn't speak badly of me, it shouldn't of him.

[marisa724]

Originally Posted by ThreeBeans

That doesn't make him supportive of breastfeeding. It just makes him non-supportive of his wife :

When my two were newborns, DH got up with me every time (before we perfected side-lying in the dark nursing), to adjust pillows, bring me water, bring me tylenol for those wicked afterpains, etc.

My DH would get up if I needed him to when my son was a newborn, but for the most part since then he's been supportive of our AP lifestyle by getting a good night's sleep and then going off to work everyday to bring home plenty of money so I can continue to stay home with our son.

[lml41981]

Originally Posted by ThreeBeans

That doesn't make him supportive of breastfeeding. It just makes him non-supportive of his wife :

When my two were newborns, DH got up with me every time (before we perfected side-lying in the dark nursing), to adjust pillows, bring me water, bring me tylenol for those wicked afterpains, etc.

I didn't want my DH getting up with me. I wanted him sleeping so that he could perform well at work and keep earning a paycheck.

People support their breastfeeding wives in different ways and criticizing a man for not getting up with his wife when she nurses is silly because you don't know what he does to support her at other times.

[eclipse]

I agree with the others here - it's not unsupportive for a husband not to get up when his wife breastfeeds. Heck, most of the time I don't even get up when I breastfeed! I don't see any reason for us both to be exhausted the next day. If it's a particuarly bad night, of course he would get up if I needed help, and I don't think there's any reason to assume from Matt's quote that he wouldn't as well.

[firstkid4me]

Originally Posted by intorainbowz

and not cheat on his wife.... oops, snark.

He doesn't have to worry about the baby waking him up anymore anyways, didn't Annette move out recently?

[intorainbowz]

On the not getting up comment....

One of the benefits for us, of co-sleeping is that DH does not have to wake up. As Matt has a very visible job every early making a ton of money, I would not expect my husband to get up if he had that job, or any job, if I was not working.

If DD is screaming, Dh will help, but for a normal nursing night, there is no reason for me to wake him, or for me to expect him to be awake.

Katie Couric had a nanny that took care of her little ones at night so she could be rested in the am for the Today show.

On. Matt's wife Annette.... I know she filed for divorce but they reconciled.... I don't know what is going on now.

[katiedidbug]

Originally Posted by lml41981

I didn't want my DH getting up with me. I wanted him sleeping so that he could perform well at work and keep earning a paycheck.

People support their breastfeeding wives in different ways and criticizing a man for not getting up with his wife when she nurses is silly because you don't know what he does to support her at other times.

nak
amen, sister. If my husband is getting up at 4:30 to bring home the bacon, it would be unfair to expect him to help when I get to sleep in and only work part-time. We both have different jobs/roles and care for the baby in our own ways.

[HelloKitty]

DH would have annoyed me getting up in the middle of the night with his sighing and yawning and wanting to go back to bed I was happy to have him sleep and me nurse - which was usually me lying in bed and not having to get up anyways.

Now if I was pacing all night with a baby that wouldn't nurse and wouldn't go back to sleep then I would wake his happy ass up to help but that's a different story.

[my3peanuts]

Originally Posted by katiedidbug

nak
amen, sister. If my husband is getting up at 4:30 to bring home the bacon, it would be unfair to expect him to help when I get to sleep in and only work part-time. We both different jobs/roles and care for the baby in our own ways.

Exactly! Well, minus the work part time part.

[sophiamama]

Whatever works for you! Dh will get up and change diapers without complaint, but I usually take care of night stuff. He gets up if our older dd wakes up and needs something, and lets me rest. If it's a bad night or the baby just doesn't want to sleep we take turns. Most of the time I just flip my light on, nurse and read my book.....it's about the only peace and quiet I get all day! (We haven't perfected nursing lying down yet!)

[mags]

I think that almost everything that comes out of his mouth is annoying, I can't stand matt lauer. I'm even more annoyed with his BF comment, b/c I think it sounds like he liked that his wife BF'd, b/c it meant less of a hassle for him, so he wouldn't have to help out with the kids as much.

[intorainbowz]

Originally Posted by HelloKitty

Now if I was pacing all night with a baby that wouldn't nurse and wouldn't go back to sleep then I would wake his happy ass up to help but that's a different story.

:

I've done that a bit more lately as DD has been really bad at sleeping.

[hunnybumm]

Originally Posted by mags

I'm even more annoyed with his BF comment, b/c I think it sounds like he liked that his wife BF'd, b/c it meant less of a hassle for him, so he wouldn't have to help out with the kids as much.

Well, that is actually a GOOD point about BFing. I don't have to make bottles, DH doesn't have to make bottles, no one has to get out of bed at night to feed anyone. That means less helping out with the kids but it also means less work for me.

ETA I don't want the Today's Show so I know nothing about this guy or his personality, or his personal motives. I am just going from what is being written in this thread. I'm not trying to stand up for him or anything, I am just trying to respond as if this was some Joe blow off the street.

[Romana]

My DH would get up if I needed him to when my son was a newborn, but for the most part since then he's been supportive of our AP lifestyle by getting a good night's sleep and then going off to work everyday to bring home plenty of money so I can continue to stay home with our son.

Same here, except in reverse! (I work, dh stays home.) I coslept with dd when she was a newborn, but around 3.5 mos she became primarily dh's nighttime responsibility unless I'm needed (for feeding or comfort, or just support and some new ideas). Without decent sleep, I can't do my job, and if I can't do my job, we're all in trouble!

Julia
dd 9mos

[mags]

Originally Posted by hunnybumm

Well, that is actually a GOOD point about BFing. I don't have to make bottles, DH doesn't have to make bottles, no one has to get out of bed at night to feed anyone. That means less helping out with the kids but it also means less work for me.

ETA I don't want the Today's Show so I know nothing about this guy or his personality, or his personal motives. I am just going from what is being written in this thread. I'm not trying to stand up for him or anything, I am just trying to respond as if this was some Joe blow off the street.

Yeah, I know it is a GOOD point about BFing... but I think it's kind of self centered for the guy to like it b/c it suits his needs, kwim? It's kind of the
wrong motive. My own DH has annoyed me with this particular comment before. He told his friend whose wife was pg, "she should breastfeed, that means you don't need to get up in the middle of the night." While he IS very supportive of me BFing our kids (and BFing in general), I was kind of ticked off with his attitude. Yeah, it's an added perk for the guy, but I didn't appreciate him being so overly happy about that part. He did NOT want to get up in the middle of the night, b/c he figured since I needed to nurse the baby anyway, I should just do everything at night regarding the baby (including when the baby was fussy and didn't want to nurse). It makes sense, but at the same time when you are exhausted beyond belief (and I was never able to successfully co-sleep with my kids, so I had to get out of bed to sit up and nurse), it doesn't help when you feel like your DH is using your BFing as an excuse for not participating in nighttime parenting. He used the, "I have to go to work" excuse a lot, which I understand, but man when you are sleep deprived, it just grates on your nerves for your DH to use that as an excuse when YOU have a job as a SAHM and it's not like you can just sleep in if the baby was up all night. Oh, and I think I'm annoyed too, b/c I just don't like matt lauer, lol. He makes a lot of very ignorant comments and is really clueless, I just feel that someone in his position should be a little bit more aware of things, esp the things that come out of his mouth. Sorry, I realize I may sound kind of grouchy about this, it's not directed toward you, I guess this is kind of one of my pet peeves about BFing. My DH is great about it (and don't get me wrong, I am very involved in my local LLL, and pro-BFing, etc.), but he uses it as an excuse to just hand the baby over to me and sometimes I just feel like I don't get a break. I'm happy that we don't FF, sometimes I just wish I could hand my boobs over to him and let him see what it's like, kwim?