LOA: Manifesting Love For My Body?

[chasmyn]

Oh, Mamas, do I ever need help on this one. My goal for this year (not resolution, no...intention!) My intention for this year, my main area of focus is on myself. Specifically on accepting and loving my body/myself exactly as I am.

I was listening to Esther Hicks/Abraham on Hay House Radio - the podcast - tonight, and she was talking about being in the vibration of accepting and receiving, and how it is easy but we choose to make it hard. I listened as I knitted my first scarf, nodding along and even being moved to tears in parts because it was as if she were talking to me and relating this to me.

And I see I am still stopped here. I see that still, when I think of loving my body/accepting myself as I am - there is this STOP. I feel BAD when I think about my body. I feel BAD when I think about being thin. Because I am not! I WANT - it is my intention! To BE in a receiving vibration, to ALLOW my body to be fit, healthy, my ideal weight, and to ALLOW myself to love it now, as it is, so that I can let it be there.

So I need help! Help, my lovely LOA Mama friends! Help me manifest ALLOWING for myself, LOVE for myself, ACCEPTANCE of how I am RIGHT NOW.

I am SO happy and greatful for my MDC friends, for this community of people - you (we) are all such tremendous support for each other. I have found that time and time again in my journey - whatever I need, my MDC Mama community has it. It moves me to tears, I am so greatful for you all.

[weliveintheforest]

Perhaps you could start spending a bit more energy thinking about/talking about how grateful you are you made the time for yourself to appreciate yourself, and to improve your body and health?
I am doing this, and I hope it works. I am signed up for a exercise class starting monday and I am really trying to be grateful for the results I am seeing and the improvement to my life in general. I haven't started yet but I feel better and am starting to make healthier choices so i think it is working for me.
hth!

[JuniperMama]

I am in the same boat!

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[chasmyn]

Originally Posted by weliveintheforest

Perhaps you could start spending a bit more energy thinking about/talking about how grateful you are you made the time for yourself to appreciate yourself, and to improve your body and health?
I am doing this, and I hope it works. I am signed up for a exercise class starting monday and I am really trying to be grateful for the results I am seeing and the improvement to my life in general. I haven't started yet but I feel better and am starting to make healthier choices so i think it is working for me.
hth!

You are brilliant

I hadn't even thought of that. I AM greatful that I am making time to take care of myself! SO happy and greatful!

And guess what else I found after posting this?

This thread:

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=587024

It is also brilliant : I did it (see post 14 if you like ), and I am buzzing!

And! More suggestions are definitely welcome, I'm willing to bet I'm not the only one in this space! Even if I were, support and ideas are good!

Buzz buzz....

[Amris]

I'm going to be a little bit brutal here. Please forgive me, because it's important that I say some things that sound a little rough. You'll see why.

The problem here is that you see yourself as a fat person. You see yourself as unattractive. You see yourself as someone that you think is disgusting.

But that's not who you really are. That's just the illusion that shrouds you right now. Inside of you, hidden beneath all of that is a beautiful woman. This woman is the REAL you.

So begin now, today, to act as if you are a healthy and beautiful person. What does a healthy, beautiful person do? How does she stand? How does she eat? How does she respond to other people?

That's how you must think. How you must stand. How you must eat. You must begin today to exercise and eat correctly- because that's what beautiful people DO. You must begin today to stand erect, that's what beautiful people DO. You must begin today to smile and be warm and welcoming to others- beautiful people do that.

When you look in the mirror, stand there and imagine yourself as you TRULY are inside, under the clutter that you've allowed to grow over it. Smile at that beautiful you inside. Imagine how you WILL feel when she has emerged. Picture yourself in that moment, that instant when you realize that you've stepped out of your cocoon.

Embrace your true self.

[crunchyconmomma]

Originally Posted by Amris

I'm going to be a little bit brutal here. Please forgive me, because it's important that I say some things that sound a little rough. You'll see why.

The problem here is that you see yourself as a fat person. You see yourself as unattractive. You see yourself as someone that you think is disgusting.

But that's not who you really are. That's just the illusion that shrouds you right now. Inside of you, hidden beneath all of that is a beautiful woman. This woman is the REAL you.

So begin now, today, to act as if you are a healthy and beautiful person. What does a healthy, beautiful person do? How does she stand? How does she eat? How does she respond to other people?

That's how you must think. How you must stand. How you must eat. You must begin today to exercise and eat correctly- because that's what beautiful people DO. You must begin today to stand erect, that's what beautiful people DO. You must begin today to smile and be warm and welcoming to others- beautiful people do that.

When you look in the mirror, stand there and imagine yourself as you TRULY are inside, under the clutter that you've allowed to grow over it. Smile at that beautiful you inside. Imagine how you WILL feel when she has emerged. Picture yourself in that moment, that instant when you realize that you've stepped out of your cocoon.

Embrace your true self.

O....M...G!!! I am in the SAME boat and I was feeling all goosebumpy reading your post Chasmyn, b/c I felt like it was part of my Source directing me to what I need and all that jazz and then this post was SO BRILLIANT! That is totally something I need to hear....like this whole thread was actually all mine and Amris knows me very well or something!
Thanks! I am grateful!

[fek&fuzz]

Originally Posted by Amris

I'm going to be a little bit brutal here. Please forgive me, because it's important that I say some things that sound a little rough. You'll see why.

The problem here is that you see yourself as a fat person. You see yourself as unattractive. You see yourself as someone that you think is disgusting.

But that's not who you really are. That's just the illusion that shrouds you right now. Inside of you, hidden beneath all of that is a beautiful woman. This woman is the REAL you.

So begin now, today, to act as if you are a healthy and beautiful person. What does a healthy, beautiful person do? How does she stand? How does she eat? How does she respond to other people?

That's how you must think. How you must stand. How you must eat. You must begin today to exercise and eat correctly- because that's what beautiful people DO. You must begin today to stand erect, that's what beautiful people DO. You must begin today to smile and be warm and welcoming to others- beautiful people do that.

When you look in the mirror, stand there and imagine yourself as you TRULY are inside, under the clutter that you've allowed to grow over it. Smile at that beautiful you inside. Imagine how you WILL feel when she has emerged. Picture yourself in that moment, that instant when you realize that you've stepped out of your cocoon.

Embrace your true self.

Wow. I was just posting about that very same thing on my blog! I realized that I kept my weight on by thinking I was a fat person - and making fat and unhealthy choices, since that's what I thought I was. Now, I just think of myself as a thin, fit person - and make the choices that go along with that sort of person. I exercise a lot more, and I like it! I make sure I have easy, healthy snacks like fruit, instead of toast with butter, and I cook nutritious and really yummy meals that fill me up with one serving, instead of eating more and more. I put the leftovers away in individual containers, to control my portions.

I know that there is a fit, healthy me under all this blubber. I am building her up to be strong and toned and soon she will appear!

[Amris]

*HUGS* Remember, beautiful is who you really are.

I'm just the messenger, the higher power sends its greetings and love.

[Tracy]

cross posted from a thread in spirituality

Weight Loss

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As most of you know. I watched The Secret for the First time in May (06).

I then proceeded to watch it about a billion times.

In late July I woke up with a bee in my bonnet to clear out the clothes that I was saving for when I get thin again. I gave away all of them. I mean literally all of them. Even the clothes that I had emotional memories of really good times, etc.. you know the cute outfit I wore on my honeymoon, etc... Released all of them... with the intent... I WILL LOSE WEIGHT AND GET NEW CLOTHES AND NEW GREAT TIMES.

I just knew all those close were holding me back. Silly, right?

In September I started a weight loss program.
I have lost weight every week.
Sometime is is a couple pounds.
Sometime is is 1 pound.
A couple times it was literally 1/2 pound.
But I never cared as long as it was down.
I only get weighed once a week btw.

I have now lost 26.6 pounds. I am at least 1/2 way through to my goal weight.

it has been really painless btw.

in addiiton to all the stuff I have percolated with as I watch The Secret, I also have watched some wayne dyer and listened to him and he said it best on one set of tapes (can't remember which ones)... "I see myself as a thin person and therefore I make choices as a thin person" When he said that I felt a 'ding' go off in me.

I try to write daily affirmations every morning and one that is good, "I am happy and grateful that I have a healthy thin body."


(by the way--cuz I know people usually ask me.. I did it through these people. I get all my meals through them and I go to a local doctor for weigh ins and support group)

http://www.yourbetterhealth.com/

[MsChatsAlot]

In one of those podcasts too...Esther says something like, If you can't think about money, because everytime you think about money you feel bad about it, then think of other things that make you happy because that will raise your vibration and evntually you will be able to think about it and be happy.

[darwinphish]

THANK YOU SO MUCH CHASMYN! I really, really needed this thread right now. Maybe all of us mamas that are manifesting our ideal physical selves could start a little support group to keep us going? I've lurked around on Fitness and Weight Management but often the self-hate and food control stuff really makes me feel worse! We need a positive self-love weight 'release' thread! I call it release because I'm not LOSING anything!

Because really, before I posted my own fears/consequences about getting fit, I had this revelation a couple months ago of just starting to love myself RIGHT NOW, just how I am. I hold my intention of change but also try and feel that that I am beautiful as I am and have absolutely no reason to practice the self-hate that had become so reflexive in my head. It was really a big 'ah-ha' moment for me!

I'm trying to let instincts and 'signs' guide me toward the right way, for me, to lose weight. I've tried so many 'plans' and just know I need to proceed carefully and find the right path. So far I know I will:

1. spend 2007 getting really good at yoga
2. learn to dance in the comfort of my own home
3. take CLA to reduce abdominal fat

The big stumbling block for me is what and how to eat. I have so many angry emotions around 'dieting' and I just don't want to go there ever again. I've been waiting for a 'sign' as to what to do - meanwhile just trying to control portions and include fresh fruit and veg as much as possible. I was at the used bookstore and a book called 'The Shangri-La Diet' leapt out at me. I didn't buy it but read about it later. The concept seems absolutely ridiculous but I'm compelled to try it nonetheless. The big question is: Is this a 'sign' or am I just being felled by a 'fad' diet?

Also, what do I do with all my impatience? I've lost 3lbs since the start of 2007 and I'm still feeling like it's taking too long. How do I stop wanting it all to happen overnight? How do I settle in for the long haul without losing my determination?


Any input would be appreciated!

[Zannalyn]

Originally Posted by MsChatsAlot

In one of those podcasts too...Esther says something like, If you can't think about money, because everytime you think about money you feel bad about it, then think of other things that make you happy because that will raise your vibration and evntually you will be able to think about it and be happy.

Also if you are having a rough time loving your body, you can think things like "I am so glad I can see! I am so happy and grateful that my eyes work and I can see my family and I can see the world and the computer...." and basic things like that. Because we are a miracle, as living beings, and I find it helps to appreciate that. Because even though we may be unhappy about how we look, or even some things about how we feel, most of us still have a lot of health to be thankful for. I find this can keep things in perspective.

[Amris]

darwinphish, have you considered that rather than going on a diet, you make a lifestyle change?

See, the word "diet" nowdays seems to have this indication that you do it until you look good, then you can just give it up and return to the old ways of eating and thinking.

How about stepping out confidently into a new lifestyle? Look at it as if you're giving up the "fat lifestyle" and taking on the "beautiful lifestyle." You're choose to live like a beautiful person. You're choosing to eat like a beautiful person.

Impatience? Use visualization to get rid of it! Stand in front of the mirror and see the real you each time, not the baggage that surrounds you. Over-write the mirror with Truth.

[Tracy]

Originally Posted by Amris

darwinphish, have you considered that rather than going on a diet, you make a lifestyle change?

[MsChatsAlot]

You know, I believe that weight is really an emotional thing.

When I was married, I was about 30 pounds overweight.

I was pregnant when my marriage ended. And within a year or so, I started to really live the life I wanted to live. We were outside a lot, we played a lot, there was very little stress in my life. We ran and played and felt carefree...I was much like a child, just being in the moment and enjoying life. I moved into a space I loved, I met new people, made new friends, loved my new life.

Well, despite the fact that I didn't always eat healthy foods....the weight was literally falling off me. I could see it, people were saying it and I knew it.

I was happy, really happy inside and even though I was still drinking pop, eating cheese and chocolate bars...I lost 30 pounds in a blink of an eye. No diet, no calories, no exercise plan (lots of just exercise disguised as playing) but no focus on it at all. Just simply kicking back and enjoying life the best I could.

I've kept the weight off now for 5 years. Occasionally, I'll put on a few pounds, but they I look at the stress in my life, readjust and the weight comes off again.

I guess, I'm just really agreeing with Amris. Look at changing things in your life and lifestyle and the weight will likely adjust itself accordingly.

Even when you count calories, watch your foods or intake or whatever...you are focusing on the weight or the food. Unless you are truly loving it, truly having fun, it will seem like work or effort and if that's the case, it will be much harder to lose than simply enjoying yourself to the fullest.

[darwinphish]

Yes, lifestyle changes... :sigh: I wish it were so simple. Here's the thing - generally speaking, I'm a really healthy eater. I grew up a thin person and I generally still eat like one. I don't care for white bread or fast food, I don't drink pop, I eat lots of complex carbs, fresh fruit, lean meats, salads... just naturally, the way I was raised. Maybe I eat too much chocolate, but I indulge less than everyone I know. I'm still 40 lbs overweight. That's where the calorie restriction and diet-of-the-moment stuff has come in for me. But that stuff never works and just makes me :.

So now I'm faced with it - do I try, once again, to change the way I eat - or will that just make it harder for my intention to manifest because it makes me feel so damn crappy and become so obsessive? Maybe I need to try like you, MsChatsAlot, to just STOP WORRYING ABOUT FOOD. But I feel like the worrying is the only thing between me & life-long obesity.

I know it's emotional. I was thin until young adulthood - then I had thyroid cancer and got *really* obese as it went un-diagnosed for 2 years. Since then I've had so much self-hate and felt so betrayed by my body - no wonder i couldn't lose it! Got thyroid meds adjusted which brought me down from 220 to 190. Big progress, but I still have a long ways to go. I want to be at a healthy weight by the end of 2007. But I don't want to do it with loathing for who I am now. And trying to control my eating brings out a lot of loathing and 'issues'.

What do you all think? What 'lifestyle change' would you initiate?

[fek&fuzz]

lifestyle changes

I have 25 lbs. to lose. I knew that I couldn't start out by restricting food because that is my weakness, and what brought me comfort. I stumbled upon a "21 days to new habits" thread in F&WM and decided that my new habit would be just making sure I was eating at least 5 fruits and veggies each day. This allowed me to just concentrate on that one new habit, making sure I had things in the house I wanted to eat, finding out what I like and didn't like.

I didn't worry about exercise or what else I was eating. I just did whatever I wanted in those areas, and concentrated on increasing my fruits and veggies.

Now I am on the second "21 Days" thread, which ends on the 10th. So, I am still eating more fruits and veggies, but I also incorporated exercise - at least 3 walks a week, and lift weights/doing situps every other day. Over the 3 weeks I have increased my walking frequency, and intensity and length. And, all of this has occurred naturally and gradually over the 3 weeks. I started out where I was comfortable and felt a desire to do more, move more. The more I became conscious of it, the more I kept track of what I was doing, the more I wanted to do.

Now, the next 21 days are going to be about food. But, you know what, since I made the small changes about fruits and veggies, and since I've been exercising so much more, my eating had already started changing. And, again, it has just been a natural change. My body is feeling better and it is calling out for more beans, greens, grains and fruits. Less heavy sauces, less toast with butter (well, it still calls out for that, but I've had to just not have bread in the house, since that might was well be cocaine to an addict or something), less picking at things all night.

My relationship with food is such that I really need to like what I am eating, and it has to be interesting and spicy and tasty or I will just not eat it and call the Thai Restaurant for takeout instead. So, I've had to be very conscious of making sure I have yummy recipes, and easy snacks, and individual serving sizes of the things I've made in the fridge so I can just grab them.

Head on over to the new 21 day thread (or start one, I'm ready for the new one), and pick just one thing to change for the next 21 days. Don't even make it about food at all. Make it about sit-ups before bed, and leg lifts while you do dishes and squats while you do laundry, or something like that.

It has made a huge difference for me.

[Amris]

Originally Posted by darwinphish

Yes, lifestyle changes... :sigh: I wish it were so simple. Here's the thing - generally speaking, I'm a really healthy eater. I grew up a thin person and I generally still eat like one. I don't care for white bread or fast food, I don't drink pop, I eat lots of complex carbs, fresh fruit, lean meats, salads... just naturally, the way I was raised. Maybe I eat too much chocolate, but I indulge less than everyone I know. I'm still 40 lbs overweight. That's where the calorie restriction and diet-of-the-moment stuff has come in for me. But that stuff never works and just makes me :.

So now I'm faced with it - do I try, once again, to change the way I eat - or will that just make it harder for my intention to manifest because it makes me feel so damn crappy and become so obsessive? Maybe I need to try like you, MsChatsAlot, to just STOP WORRYING ABOUT FOOD. But I feel like the worrying is the only thing between me & life-long obesity.

I know it's emotional. I was thin until young adulthood - then I had thyroid cancer and got *really* obese as it went un-diagnosed for 2 years. Since then I've had so much self-hate and felt so betrayed by my body - no wonder i couldn't lose it! Got thyroid meds adjusted which brought me down from 220 to 190. Big progress, but I still have a long ways to go. I want to be at a healthy weight by the end of 2007. But I don't want to do it with loathing for who I am now. And trying to control my eating brings out a lot of loathing and 'issues'.

What do you all think? What 'lifestyle change' would you initiate?

I bet $100 bucks that you don't eat enough. Common misconception with Americans that "less is more." So we slow down our metabolism, starve ourselves, and then get fatter- so we eat even less.

Your body needs fuel! If it doesn't get it, it will slow you down and make you feel like crap!

You can eat healthy things all you want, but if you don't eat enough of it... you do yourself NO GOOD. And if you stress about what you're eating, you make yourself upset... and then you eat because you're upset.

How does a beautiful person live? She enjoys life. She eats ENOUGH. She listens to her body. When it says, "I'm STAHVIN!" she EATS! She laughs, she plays. She goes for a walk when she feels down.

She drinks LOTS of water. She eats 6 small meals, not a lame, insufficient three big ones.

Every time that you go to the fridge and don't genuinely feel HUNGRY, but just have an undefined craving, have a glass of water, and wait 20 minutes. If you're still hungry, THEN eat. If not... your craving was for water. A huge percentage of "undefined" cravings are for water!! No kidding.

So make sure that you're eating enough. Stop starving yourself. Drink enough water. Relax and see yourself as beautiful and stop believing the lie in the mirror. Meet people's eyes and smile. Greet them with confidence.

Go out into the world. Don't hide. Don't let shame win. Wave at the neighbors. Look at the sky. Did you know depressed people don't look at the sky? They don't watch the clouds... so act like a happy person. Look at the sky. Watch the clouds with your children. Take them to the park. If it's winter, everyone gets dressed up, and you make snow angels and watch the clouds float by. Then you go home and have a cup of hot organic cocoa in goat's milk together.

You draw pictures together, and chase each other around the house. Laugh, play, be YOUNG! Be beautiful. Be joyful. Move around. Put the TV remote on top of the TV. Get up and walk over to it to change the channel. Or heck, turn it off and play hide-and-seek with your kids.

Change your life to one of action. Change your life to one that eats ENOUGH. Depriving yourself will only slow down your metabolism.

[darwinphish]

Amris, you are my angel today! You're right - the one time I saw a nutritionist and did a food diary (when I was at my highest weight) I found I ate too little. She encouraged me to eat more but it was these awful shakes and stuff that totally turned me off. I just remembered that!

I'm realizing that I walk around hungry as a 'normal' state during the day and then end up eating a healthy but HUGE dinner and feeling 'stuffed'. Yup, that's healthy.

OK. This is it. I've figured it out. I was focusing on finding a diet when I need to focus on trusting myself! Here's my intention:

I trust my body to release weight. I trust myself to know when and how much to eat. I eat until I am satisfied and feel so gloriously full and content, secure in the knowlege that I have chosen just what my body needs. Eating is so simple for me - I eat when I'm hungry, and just pay attention to what my body needs. My body knows what to eat! I don't need to control it! I trust my body implicitly and follow my instincts. In the perfect time, in ways that delight and amaze me, I will be fit, healthy and strong.

God that feels so GOOD. Even looking at my 'releasing fears' thread on this, I was still so focused on control and failure! Sheesh!

I went to the kitchen after writing this and was like, I feel RAVENOUS. What does my body want? I ate a whole avocado, a glass of raw milk (both foods I normally only feed to DD), and a handful of walnuts & dark chocolate chips. OH MY GOD HOW DELICIOUS! And now I am sitting here, buzzing, full but not stuffed, not one iota of guilt, and just so happy to have released all that pent-up anxiety. And the best part? I KNOW that I am going to reach my ideal weight this year.

Thank you thank you thank you mamas!

[chasmyn]

Originally Posted by MsChatsAlot

ll likely adjust itself accordingly.

Even when you count calories, watch your foods or intake or whatever...you are focusing on the weight or the food. Unless you are truly loving it, truly having fun, it will seem like work or effort and if that's the case, it will be much harder to lose than simply enjoying yourself to the fullest.

This resonates so fully with me. It is so absolutely perfect that you said this! Thank you!

Originally Posted by darwinphish

I trust my body to release weight. I trust myself to know when and how much to eat. I eat until I am satisfied and feel so gloriously full and content, secure in the knowlege that I have chosen just what my body needs. Eating is so simple for me - I eat when I'm hungry, and just pay attention to what my body needs. My body knows what to eat! I don't need to control it! I trust my body implicitly and follow my instincts. In the perfect time, in ways that delight and amaze me, I will be fit, healthy and strong.

God that feels so GOOD. Even looking at my 'releasing fears' thread on this, I was still so focused on control and failure! Sheesh!

This rocks socks! I am making it into my new screensaver. Perfect!!!