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post #21 of 287
I wanted to highlight the words used here because you are still focusing on WEIGHT and EATING. In 8 sentences you focused on eating 5 times and weight once....so those things are still your focus.

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I trust my body to release weight. I trust myself to know when and how much to eat. I eat until I am satisfied and feel so gloriously full and content, secure in the knowlege that I have chosen just what my body needs. Eating is so simple for me - I eat when I'm hungry, and just pay attention to what my body needs. My body knows what to eat! I don't need to control it! I trust my body implicitly and follow my instincts. In the perfect time, in ways that delight and amaze me, I will be fit, healthy and strong.
To simplify....might I suggest something like,

I love and respect myself. I am healthy and able to do any physical thing I choose.
post #22 of 287
Seriously, I'd focus less on the food, less on the what's and how's to eat and really focus on "what makes me truly happy". If you are really happy, if you are doing things you love, if you feel fulfilled and joyful, your body is going to reflect that.

Find something that you just love to do and really pour yourself into it.

If you find yourself getting negative about yourself, your body, whatever, find something that's really wonderful and really working in your life and focus on it for awhile.

Focus your attention on, "I listen to my intuition....or I listen to my body and it's cues and respond to them appropriately" -- meaning, you sleep/rest when you need it, you drink water when thirsty, eat foods that you really feel like eating and enjoy them thoroughly without judgement or guilt, you play, you work, you do what you can to acknowledge whatever your body is telling you.

Enjoy life, enjoy food, enjoy activity. Find whatever it is that makes your heart sing....and I know the weight will start to drop.
post #23 of 287
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I know it's emotional. I was thin until young adulthood - then I had thyroid cancer and got *really* obese as it went un-diagnosed for 2 years. Since then I've had so much self-hate and felt so betrayed by my body - no wonder i couldn't lose it! Got thyroid meds adjusted which brought me down from 220 to 190. Big progress, but I still have a long ways to go. I want to be at a healthy weight by the end of 2007. But I don't want to do it with loathing for who I am now. And trying to control my eating brings out a lot of loathing and 'issues'.
I would also do some grief and release work around the thyroid cancer. Do you have any Louise Hay books?
post #24 of 287
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Originally Posted by Amris View Post
I bet $100 bucks that you don't eat enough. Common misconception with Americans that "less is more." So we slow down our metabolism, starve ourselves, and then get fatter- so we eat even less.

Your body needs fuel! If it doesn't get it, it will slow you down and make you feel like crap!

You can eat healthy things all you want, but if you don't eat enough of it... you do yourself NO GOOD. And if you stress about what you're eating, you make yourself upset... and then you eat because you're upset.

How does a beautiful person live? She enjoys life. She eats ENOUGH. She listens to her body. When it says, "I'm STAHVIN!" she EATS! She laughs, she plays. She goes for a walk when she feels down.

She drinks LOTS of water. She eats 6 small meals, not a lame, insufficient three big ones.

Every time that you go to the fridge and don't genuinely feel HUNGRY, but just have an undefined craving, have a glass of water, and wait 20 minutes. If you're still hungry, THEN eat. If not... your craving was for water. A huge percentage of "undefined" cravings are for water!! No kidding.

So make sure that you're eating enough. Stop starving yourself. Drink enough water. Relax and see yourself as beautiful and stop believing the lie in the mirror. Meet people's eyes and smile. Greet them with confidence.

Go out into the world. Don't hide. Don't let shame win. Wave at the neighbors. Look at the sky. Did you know depressed people don't look at the sky? They don't watch the clouds... so act like a happy person. Look at the sky. Watch the clouds with your children. Take them to the park. If it's winter, everyone gets dressed up, and you make snow angels and watch the clouds float by. Then you go home and have a cup of hot organic cocoa in goat's milk together.

You draw pictures together, and chase each other around the house. Laugh, play, be YOUNG! Be beautiful. Be joyful. Move around. Put the TV remote on top of the TV. Get up and walk over to it to change the channel. Or heck, turn it off and play hide-and-seek with your kids.

Change your life to one of action. Change your life to one that eats ENOUGH. Depriving yourself will only slow down your metabolism.
Amris I am smiling so wide. What great posts here.

Here is my "secret". I think everyone needs something different, but this is mine. Through years of trial and error I discovered that my body needs a diet that's at least 50% raw and living (fruits vegs nuts seeds). The rest of my diet is inspired by traditional foods/real foods--no chemicals or additives. That's not enough though. I have to move, move, move. Exercise is that mental health peice of changing the way you live and eat.

I've been sliding these last couple months, mostly because I'm just grateful to have enough food. We've had some unexpected difficulties--especially in the financial department. It's been a good teacher, though.

I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue when I was thirty. Then, I met my new doctor. :-) She said, "Well, if you want to believe you have fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue, then you will."

I do not have fibromyalgia or chronic fatigue. I needed to clear some body clutter, and I needed to look at the sky. I needed to stand tall and remember who I am truly.

Thank you for the needed refreshers Amris. The water test is an excellent, excellent way to manage hunger. Thanks for that reminder, too!

post #25 of 287
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Originally Posted by darwinphish View Post
Amris, you are my angel today! You're right - the one time I saw a nutritionist and did a food diary (when I was at my highest weight) I found I ate too little. She encouraged me to eat more but it was these awful shakes and stuff that totally turned me off. I just remembered that!

I'm realizing that I walk around hungry as a 'normal' state during the day and then end up eating a healthy but HUGE dinner and feeling 'stuffed'. Yup, that's healthy.

OK. This is it. I've figured it out. I was focusing on finding a diet when I need to focus on trusting myself! Here's my intention:



God that feels so GOOD. Even looking at my 'releasing fears' thread on this, I was still so focused on control and failure! Sheesh!

I went to the kitchen after writing this and was like, I feel RAVENOUS. What does my body want? I ate a whole avocado, a glass of raw milk (both foods I normally only feed to DD), and a handful of walnuts & dark chocolate chips. OH MY GOD HOW DELICIOUS! And now I am sitting here, buzzing, full but not stuffed, not one iota of guilt, and just so happy to have released all that pent-up anxiety. And the best part? I KNOW that I am going to reach my ideal weight this year.

Thank you thank you thank you mamas!
Well done! As you do this, be pleased with yourself, but don't allow yourself to feel like you're doing something special when you eat enough and eat what your body asks for... feel like it's normal and your natural state of being!

Do you mind if I offer a suggestion on this:

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I trust my body to release weight. I trust myself to know when and how much to eat. I eat until I am satisfied and feel so gloriously full and content, secure in the knowlege that I have chosen just what my body needs. Eating is so simple for me - I eat when I'm hungry, and just pay attention to what my body needs. My body knows what to eat! I don't need to control it! I trust my body implicitly and follow my instincts. In the perfect time, in ways that delight and amaze me, I will be fit, healthy and strong.
How about, instead of all of that, you simply say, "I trust my body, because in truth, it is beautiful and wise. I intuitively know and meet its needs. I clearly hear its messages."

I believe in the KISS method of affirming... Keep It Simple, Sweety.
post #26 of 287
this thread is so terrific and helpful and i am so doggone grateful for you wonderful women!
post #27 of 287
I would like to gently suggest that you think about how being overweight serves you.

When I am overweight and overeating I feel safe. I feel a protective layer that protects me from my feelings and from other people.

Safety, trust, unconditional love, it's all connected.

And then you can think of affirmations like "I'm always safe" "I am safe and I trust the process of life" (second one is a quote from Louise Hay)
I am always divinely guided and protected (LH)

and whatever YOU need to affirm.
post #28 of 287
and it makes me think about my one friend who gets boyfriends and friends like nobody's business and she is so incredibly successful at her job (and at any job she has ever had) and she always has great outfits that work well on her and all of those things. and she weighs close to 300 pounds. but she has NEVER ONCE indicated that she thinks she is any different than the most glamorous, fit, thin woman. she is just so secure in herself. of course, this doesn't mean that she loses all that weight just by thinking she is fine the way she is, and i think some of us are figuring that is the missing element. but she loves her live and she is happy in it. THAT is an example we could stand to follow.
post #29 of 287
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Originally Posted by crunchyconmomma View Post
and it makes me think about my one friend who gets boyfriends and friends like nobody's business and she is so incredibly successful at her job (and at any job she has ever had) and she always has great outfits that work well on her and all of those things. and she weighs close to 300 pounds. but she has NEVER ONCE indicated that she thinks she is any different than the most glamorous, fit, thin woman. she is just so secure in herself. of course, this doesn't mean that she loses all that weight just by thinking she is fine the way she is, and i think some of us are figuring that is the missing element. but she loves her live and she is happy in it. THAT is an example we could stand to follow.



We all know the body that feels right to us and for some that's 300 pounds.

I've been at weights that feel too little and weights that feel too much, and I know that weight would feel awful to me. But to others it would feel just right for them.

Another example of how our society tries to box us in. Our babies should all sleep through the night at 3 months, they should all eat on exactly the same schedule, and should all gain at the same exact rate, and we moms should all weigh the same and *all* be size 5's.....NOT.
post #30 of 287
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Originally Posted by darwinphish View Post
Yes, lifestyle changes... :sigh: I wish it were so simple. Here's the thing - generally speaking, I'm a really healthy eater. I grew up a thin person and I generally still eat like one. I don't care for white bread or fast food, I don't drink pop, I eat lots of complex carbs, fresh fruit, lean meats, salads... just naturally, the way I was raised. Maybe I eat too much chocolate, but I indulge less than everyone I know. I'm still 40 lbs overweight. That's where the calorie restriction and diet-of-the-moment stuff has come in for me. But that stuff never works and just makes me :.

So now I'm faced with it - do I try, once again, to change the way I eat - or will that just make it harder for my intention to manifest because it makes me feel so damn crappy and become so obsessive? Maybe I need to try like you, MsChatsAlot, to just STOP WORRYING ABOUT FOOD. But I feel like the worrying is the only thing between me & life-long obesity.

I know it's emotional. I was thin until young adulthood - then I had thyroid cancer and got *really* obese as it went un-diagnosed for 2 years. Since then I've had so much self-hate and felt so betrayed by my body - no wonder i couldn't lose it! Got thyroid meds adjusted which brought me down from 220 to 190. Big progress, but I still have a long ways to go. I want to be at a healthy weight by the end of 2007. But I don't want to do it with loathing for who I am now. And trying to control my eating brings out a lot of loathing and 'issues'.

What do you all think? What 'lifestyle change' would you initiate?
Liz, I suggest working on loving yourself. (But then, I pretty much always suggest that, including to myself!) You might want to read Lousie Hay's You Can Heal Your Body or any of her related books. She writes about the particular emotions that are connected with parts of the body, and suggests affirmations. For thyroid she says the probable cause is "Humiliation. I never get to do what I want to do. When is it going to be my turn?" and suggests the affirmations "I move beyond old limitations and now allow myself to express freely and creatively." Does that connect with you at all?

Don't waste time on things you know don't work. that includes worrying; you've tried that and it hasn't gotten you to where you want to be. So consider it a failed method and drop it. Keep eating healthy, bless the food as you eat it, love your body and believe it can come into balance. You are facing some big challenges, here, but you can do it!
post #31 of 287
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Originally Posted by Amris View Post
I bet $100 bucks that you don't eat enough. Common misconception with Americans that "less is more." So we slow down our metabolism, starve ourselves, and then get fatter- so we eat even less.

Your body needs fuel! If it doesn't get it, it will slow you down and make you feel like crap!

You can eat healthy things all you want, but if you don't eat enough of it... you do yourself NO GOOD. And if you stress about what you're eating, you make yourself upset... and then you eat because you're upset.

How does a beautiful person live? She enjoys life. She eats ENOUGH. She listens to her body. When it says, "I'm STAHVIN!" she EATS! She laughs, she plays. She goes for a walk when she feels down.

She drinks LOTS of water. She eats 6 small meals, not a lame, insufficient three big ones.

Every time that you go to the fridge and don't genuinely feel HUNGRY, but just have an undefined craving, have a glass of water, and wait 20 minutes. If you're still hungry, THEN eat. If not... your craving was for water. A huge percentage of "undefined" cravings are for water!! No kidding.

So make sure that you're eating enough. Stop starving yourself. Drink enough water. Relax and see yourself as beautiful and stop believing the lie in the mirror. Meet people's eyes and smile. Greet them with confidence.
This is so true!

When I skipped breakfast and ate 2 large meals, I was at my heaviest.

When I tried to eat 1100 calories a day, I was overweight with headaches

When I tried to COUNT calories, I was going crazy.

When I ate less good fats and oils, I was always hungry and cravings out of control.

When I didnt enjoy eating good food, I didnt look well.

When I didnt drink enough water, weight control was very hard.
post #32 of 287
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Originally Posted by MsChatsAlot View Post
I wanted to highlight the words used here because you are still focusing on WEIGHT and EATING. In 8 sentences you focused on eating 5 times and weight once....so those things are still your focus.

To simplify....might I suggest something like,

I love and respect myself. I am healthy and able to do any physical thing I choose.
Wow, I didn't even see that!

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Originally Posted by Amris View Post
Well done! As you do this, be pleased with yourself, but don't allow yourself to feel like you're doing something special when you eat enough and eat what your body asks for... feel like it's normal and your natural state of being!

Do you mind if I offer a suggestion on this:

How about, instead of all of that, you simply say, "I trust my body, because in truth, it is beautiful and wise. I intuitively know and meet its needs. I clearly hear its messages."

I believe in the KISS method of affirming... Keep It Simple, Sweety.
These are wonderful affirmations!

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Originally Posted by Momtwice View Post
I would like to gently suggest that you think about how being overweight serves you.

When I am overweight and overeating I feel safe. I feel a protective layer that protects me from my feelings and from other people.

Safety, trust, unconditional love, it's all connected.

And then you can think of affirmations like "I'm always safe" "I am safe and I trust the process of life" (second one is a quote from Louise Hay)
I am always divinely guided and protected (LH)

and whatever YOU need to affirm.
This is so me. Safety. I need to feel safe.

I am so happy and greatful that I started this thread, this is an excellent, excellent discussion!
post #33 of 287
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Originally Posted by browneyedsol View Post
Here is my "secret". I think everyone needs something different, but this is mine. Through years of trial and error I discovered that my body needs a diet that's at least 50% raw and living (fruits vegs nuts seeds). The rest of my diet is inspired by traditional foods/real foods--no chemicals or additives. That's not enough though. I have to move, move, move. Exercise is that mental health peice of changing the way you live and eat.
I totally agree. Everyone needs a different secret or formula. Mine may not be yours:
  • Less grain, process carbs
  • No processed sugar
  • Lots of raw/living roods
  • Fruit
  • Lots of OILS and Fats - after I started eating alvacados and coconut oil by the spoonfull, the fat on my body started melting off
  • Good quality organic and grassfed animal protien
  • Nuts
  • WATER
  • Running
post #34 of 287
I am so happy and grateful for the LoA community at MDC. I am so happy and grateful for inspiration. I am thankful that I resumed my yoga practice today after a year long lull.

post #35 of 287
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post #36 of 287
Now that I've had a chance to read through:

On the big "Secret" thread the other day, there was a post about a woman who made herself appear quite a bit taller than she actually was, by intending people to see her as tall. I started figuring, if it works for height, why not weight?

I've been not only telling myself I am thin, I've been visualizing myself as being a thin person and intending other people to see me as thin. As a result, I'm feeling very good about my body and my weight right now.

Funny coincidence, I was with a group of friends last night, including a guy friend who has no tact (). Somehow, the subject of weight came up, and at the risk of getting slapped by the four females he was with, he started guessing what each of us weigh. With each of the others, he guessed it pretty much right on, and when it came to me, the weight range he named is about 15-20 pounds lighter than I actually am. I was pretty flattered, and instantly thought, "I was intending him to see me as thin, and he did!"

The moral of this story is: I think weight and how you feel about yourself involves a lot more than what/when you eat. I think a lot of it is telling yourself you are thin and intending to be thin.
post #37 of 287
that's interesting ananas.

One thing I have to work through. The word "thin" to me means "sick." That's my reaction to the word.

I need a good word. Maybe "slim" but that doesn't resonate.

Thinkthinkthink as Pooh would say.
post #38 of 287
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Originally Posted by Momtwice View Post
that's interesting ananas.

One thing I have to work through. The word "thin" to me means "sick." That's my reaction to the word.

I need a good word. Maybe "slim" but that doesn't resonate.

Thinkthinkthink as Pooh would say.
How about healthy ?
post #39 of 287
ananas that was some brilliant stuff! i am so revved up to try using this idea starting this second!

momtwice: what about "fit?' that's one that i always associate with not-fat and also with healthy. well, healthy in the good way, because my family trained my brain from early on that "healthy" meant an ample supply of fat and they viewed thin like you say you do. so i am retraining my brain to know that healthy does not mean what it did to my family as i was growing up. i visualize a woman with strong muscles and lean limbs and toned abdominals and glowing skin and bright clear eyes and shiny hair (and it's usually animated - she is doing some yoga or pilates or gymnastics) and i repeat "healthy, healthy, healthy...."
so far it's working.....

i am so grateful to have found these threads. i feel like this LoA/Secret/Manifesting stuff has done more for my mothering (because it is making me a better person) than any of the direct parenting stuff did in almost 5 years! and i also feel like it has attracted by FAR, a large collection of the MOST brilliant, insightful, inspiring women of any of the forums! it's like this whole concept brings out nothing but innner genius and radiant positivity.
post #40 of 287
So have you been eating today?

Every 3 hours or so, have at least a small snack with some protien and carb balance to it.

Oh, and if you start finding yourself just getting hungrier and hugrier every day... that's GREAT, that means your metabolism is speeding up and you're burning more fuel!
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