Does anyone else's parents...

[treqi]

... get up and leave the resturant when you NIP or is that just my problem? I cover up and try to be as discreet as possible but they always make a huge fuss about it and make comments on my poor planning skills(i try but sometimes the nap is an hour and a half an some times it's 45min). any sugestions on how to not hate my parents?

[KarmaJoy]

Wow. I can't believe they are so inconsiderate. You have ever right to nurse your baby and it is your parents problem, not yours.

Hugs!

[ColeysMama]

Originally Posted by treqi

any sugestions on how to not hate my parents?

Don't go out to eat with them.

I wouldn't.

[Momtwice]

They should be thanking you for protecting your child's immune system and their belly and their lungs and their IQ....

no, thankfully my mom nursed and my MIL did not bash me for bf.

"Poor planning" is a joke. Babies sometimes need to nurse a few times in one hour.

[sapphire_chan]

If they get up and leave, they're the ones who are going to suffer--cold food, don't get to be with their daughter and grandchild, etc. Stop planning your meals out around naps and just enjoy yourself.

By the way, your signature says "soon to be Japanese mama" is that from when you were pregnant or are you planning to move to Japan?

[velcromom]

If they did, they'd miss dinner, I frequently ate while nursing. It's just life as usual. Would they actually get up in the middle of a meal?

They come from a baby scheduling generation, they probably don't even know that cue feeding exists or why it would be preferable. I think the AAP has a statement out against parent-directed feeding schedules, if they are open to education.

I hope you don't let them discourage you. Nursing is an everyday parenting task, not a private act, and the sooner they get that, the more time they will be able to spend with you. Could you point out to them that getting up and leaving every time the baby nurses is going to take away a lot of time from the grandparent relationship?

I invite you to come and visit my website if they bum you out and you need encouragement. We are with you, mama, every time you are out there NIP, some of us are too.

[captain optimism]

Your planning is great! You arranged a system whereby you don't need to lug around a lot of bottles!

I found that when my son was around your daughter's age, I stopped being able to nurse in public anyway. He just couldn't concentrate. Which was too bad, because that was also around the time I got the hang of nursing without exposing myself and without having to stick my head under the idiotic modesty blanket my mom kept handing me. (At first I tried to use it and then my whole body was under the blanket as I checked his latch! so silly.)

As far as a parent-friendly solution goes, take out might be a good option.

[treqi]

moving to japan! i'm pretty excited is NIP ok there i think no but hope to bend the rules a bit

[Sagesgirl]

Honestly, if they're that ill-natured in general, I'd be limiting my exposure to them at all. Soon enough you will be in Okinawa, and you'll have the excuse of being several thousand miles away. Let me tell you, that comes in handy for staying out of family arguments!

[mzfern]

Poor planning?? Huh? That's silliness. It's their loss!

[hunnybumm]

I would eat out with them as much as possible and make sure to 'plan' to nurse just as the food is arriving at the table. Let them eat cold food while you and your DD enjoy eating yours, toasty hot.

[Drummer's Wife]

How frustrating!! No advice, my mom is the complete opposite and was the one who would encourage me to nurse my first baby in restaurants. Hope it gets better or you stop dining with them!

[MomToKandE]

Originally Posted by Sagesgirl

Honestly, if they're that ill-natured in general, I'd be limiting my exposure to them at all.

That's kind of what I was thinking too.

Do they freak out any time you nurse around them? Or is it just in restaurants?

[treqi]

just in resturants something about everybody doesn't need to see my boob at home i'll sit in the living room with 4 or 5 of their friends and they won't say a thing i think it has something to do with i'm their daughter threrfore my actions reflect upon them and they don't want strangers to be grossed out

[ledzepplon]

I'm so sorry your parents behave this way! I agree with the pps. If they want to leave and let their food get cold, let 'em. And I would not be breaking bread with people who went out of their way to demean me and my child.

[firstkid4me]

My parents are the same way, in fact, when the nurse-in was being organized for Victoria's Secret, my stepdad told me he hoped I would get arrested for such a "disgusting, selfish, and rude display" and that I was raised better than THAT! We're moving to San Diego next month and will be driving right through Las Vegas (where they live) and if they don't want to see the boob, they don't have to show up to see us (Emily will be 2 by then, but I still nurse on demand.)

[ColeysMama]

Originally Posted by firstkid4me

will be driving right through Las Vegas (where they live) and if they don't want to see the boob, they don't have to show up to see us

They live in Vegas, and they have a problem seeing boobs? :

[LambQueen]

I vote for eating out with them as much as possible and letting them just deal with it.

[firstkid4me]

Originally Posted by ColeysMama

They live in Vegas, and they have a problem seeing boobs? :

LOL They're good Catholics, they don't go to those sorts of places. My BIL works in Vegas at a hotel, and when Emily was 2 months old, dh, dd, bil, and I went to visit the ILs. Emily was nursing about every 5 minutes because it was so hot (we went in April, we were living in Green Bay at the time, BIG temp difference!) and BIL joked, "I've seen more boob on this vacation that I ever have, and I work in Vegas!"

[kaya3]

hugs!! it is so hard. the day tess was born, my dad actually got up and left the hospital room when i was nursing. the day she was born. and he is legally blind too. he can see, but like when yuo get out of the shower and the mirror is all foggy. and he still eft. the following 2 weeks when they were staying wit hus, he would think i was just holding her on the couch, and get in all close so he could see her better, and then he would discover io was nursing, and just kind of "harumph" and walk away. i never warned him, not once. it is not my issue, it is his!!! LOLOL