What's the OBSESSION w/the DATE??

[CTMOMOF2]

It drives me absolutely bonkers that everyone keeps insisting that i give them a DATE that i'm due! I tell them i'm x-number of weeks, i'll be 40 weeks on Jan. 26th, but i've delivered at 38 weeks and at nearly 42 weeks. I explain that I don't go by a specific DATE!
I said the other day, ok i'm 37 weeks, it could happen any time now, my mom replies, but you still have 3 weeks to go! UUUGGGHHH!!
Other times i said that i'll be 41 weeks on Feb 1st, so my sister keeps saying to me... only one more month, right?? NO!! Not RIGHT!
Then, here's the best kicker... i got to a regular OB. Every week now. And EVERY week my mom, my sister, and most of my friends ask the same questions, which i reply w/the same answers...
Mom/Friend - "How'd the Dr. Appt go?"
My response - "Fine?? Why?"
Mom/Friend - "Well?? What'd he say?"
My response - "About what?"
Mom/Friend - "The baby? when's she comign?"
My response - "he didn't mention the baby at all, the nurse took my weight & blood pressure, the dr. came in and listened to the heart beat and said see you next week"
Mom/Friend - "Can't he give you a better idea of when to expect this baby?"
My response - "he is not GOD! He is just another man, waiting around to see when she decides to show up!"
Mom/Friend - "well, did you ASK when he thinks she's coming"
My response - No? Why would i ask a stupid question???

UGGGG!!!: :

[angel0123]

That is almost the same conversation I have every wk with my mom. Why would I ask such a ? IF he could tell me he would be lying... he has no idea when this baby is coming!

It pisses me off when someone says well you still have 2 wks left. Tell that to my uterus that has been having contractions for 3 wks!

[katie9143]

i just laughed so hard when i read your post!! i have that exact same convo with my mum and my sil each and every week - only they bost ask each time "did she check you?" - i told them a while back that in the mw/hb work that "checking" is a bit taboo until you are actually in labor and then some people still dont like to. it cracks me up though, cuz it certainly doesnt deter them from asking each week :

[CTMOMOF2]

My doctor said if he could predict due dates, or give a way to get labor started (naturally), he'd be a billionaire and wouldn't be a doctor!!

It amazes me how much people think that doctors are capable of!!

[annekevdbroek]

I have the same conversation with my MIL every time we talk. First, I don't want everyone asking about my cervix (friends do it also). Second, it is totally meaningless anyhow. MIL is going to come visit and wants to know ahead of time "when it looks like it will happen..." Well, let's see, DS was 2 weeks post-date when I was induced. I never dialted or effaced. On the other hand, some people walk around for weeks well dialated. So, who knows?

[MacKinnon]

EVERY WEEK, after EVERY APPOINTMENT, I have this conversation with my mom, my dad and my MIL. Even my DH was stupid enough to ask me last week if the "midwife had a better idea of when the baby would come." My mom was with my at my last appointment (mostly chasing DD but came in at the end to hear the heartbeat) and asked the midwife what her thought was. She replied "If I knew these things, I would get paid alot more than I do!" My Dad keeps asking why they don't "check to see how things are down there." My step-sister recently had a baby and had the typical exams, my midwife dosn't do them unless I ask, so I don't know and therefore, neither does anyone else. Which drives them all batty. Like if I told them I was 1cm and 50% effaced, they would have a MUCH better idea of when I would deliver. I've started telling people that the only for sure is that I will have the baby in January.

[milkmommie]

I had to laugh at these posts. I asked my MW to check last Friday and I'm soft, and dialated to almost 4. I know good and well that this means NOTHING! I've gone 2 weeks overdue with all my kids and I'm only 39 weeks with this one now. But, everyone keeps saying, "oh, you're dialated to 4??? So you'll have the baby in the next couple of days right???" DUH!

[BeagleMommy]

What a comfort to know that I am not the only one having this bizzare weekly conversation with my MIL. Did doctors pretent to know in the 70's and tell women the day they'd give birth? And it is scary how similar the conversation is to yours. Do we know each other? Is my MIL talking to your family? Where do they get the script?

[katie9143]

the book is called: Annoying, Invasive Questions You THINK You are Entitled to Ask a Pregnant Woman

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[clavicula]

you are too funny! anyway, i hear you!